posted December 19, 2006 08:40 PM              

I sometimes wonder how much of this is mind over matter. Before I got into astrology, I was in relationships that were good, but looking at the charts now, they should have been horrible. I wonder if just "expecting" a relationship to be bad will make it so. So I'm genuinely curious if other people have had successful relationships with people they had bad synastry or composites with.

posted December 19, 2006 08:50 PM            

Other beautiful connections too, I only looked at them this year when I started to get into it and was surprised cos he really is one of the worst people I've ever met and our entire relationship was a nightmare. I don't think my heart was ever in it completely.

On the other hand I have some nice synastry and some bad with a guy I adore, the strongest feelings I've ever had for anyone and the feelings haven't lessened only strengthened with time.

posted December 19, 2006 09:05 PM              

Astrology is one little aspect of life that must be included with so many other faucets of life. more than anything, our enviroment can turn the sweetest chart into a little devil. just look at how someone was brought up and the parent(s)- that is the most important factor. and enviroment

but looking at just synastry in judging a relationship is like having ONLY pizza all of your life and saying pizza is the best.

posted December 20, 2006 12:54 AM              

If one were to say, "oh me my boyfriend and I have venus square saturn in synastry (or in our composite chart)...we are doomed; this will never work out", the more one thinks this; the bigger the chance of making this into a 'self-fulfilling' prophecy. No, not single-handedly because of the the aspect but instead because the person (or even the couple) got themselves to believe this before any real problems occurred in the relationship. I mean, I'm sure that plenty of couples that have lasted literally decades share some of these, what I call supposed "doom aspects". Point being that, in the end...it's all up to choice (free-will) and whether or not the couple is willing to go the 'extra mile' to make the relationship work.

Personally, I have the following synastry with a male friend as followed: sun conjunct moon, moon conjunct venus, venus trine mars, venus square mars, mars conjunct ascendant...

Yet, beyond friendship; I feel absolutely nothing for him (good friend, but not attracted to him sexually).

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posted December 20, 2006 01:08 AM              

Good question, 23. I mean I think it is important first and foremost to look at each individuals seperate natal chart. Some like 'free' relationships more others like it to be more 'clingier'. Some like intensity others do not. For example, someone with a 'venus square uranus' aspect in their natal chart may not like a relationship that is too 'comfy' they may then find it too lack excitement and become bored. Just a thought...

Another possibility that should not be over-looked are house overlays...this may be a culperite on why some people who seem so 'perfect' for each other do not get together in the first place. Seeing where each individuals planets (especially personal planets) fall in the other persons' chart.

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'Virgo Ascendant, Libra Moon, Aries Sun'

posted December 20, 2006 01:39 AM              

I was very puzzled for a while, but their composite chart is pretty good.
And, they have many chiron aspects including that of the declinations.

They have been together for close to 30 years, and aren't thinking of separating either.

I have a great synastry with this guy - his planets falling in my 7th and 8th and 5th, and vice versa with him, but we never got together.. there wasn't a spark that I have with a current, whose planets fall in my 9th and 10th.