posted December 20, 2006 11:20 PM              

I have this aspect in my chart.

I have found recently that with some of my long-term friendships I am feeling like I could actually form the next level of a relationship with them. I think it's because I know them so well and they know me so well that I feel easier being who I am and saying what I think. I feel accepted.

With new relationships that don't go through a 'friends first' stage, I constantly feel like I can't be completely honest with them until I know for sure they want to be with me and I want to be with them.

I do not like the idea of putting everything out there and having someone walk away.

I am definitely a commitment person. Casual dating is a turn off, and I would prefer to skip that step altogether. I just get ahead of myself and try to find a comfort zone right away instead of working up to it.

The relationship I am trying to start now is an interesting test for me, because things are going ultra slow for once and part of me is panicking because it feels like we are just friends and i want more. I'm selfish that way.

The funny thing is that I have so much in at least a friendship with this person if I would just open my eyes and be content.

posted December 21, 2006 04:21 AM              

I think his venus aspects would be more indicative of commitment, however. If it forms a positive aspect to saturn, then even the most fickle fish (ie. those like me with venus in aries!) will have an overriding desire to commit (to the right person).

S_T

posted December 22, 2006 05:13 PM            

on the other hand, a 12th house saturn tells me he's anware of his commitment issues... he may be irresponsible, or simply going with the 'flow' - doing things without knowing why... the moon-venus square is a commitment issue by itself. some explain it as an inability to unite lover and wife into one woman (a need for compromise between the woman who attracts him sexually and the one that gives him comfort, for instance).

all in all, all these are worthless...know why he's behaving badly towards you won't help improve things. if he doesn't love you and doesn't decide by himself to commit to you, no one and notrhing will 'make him' do so. you can't watch him, or tie him... it would only hurt you even more. let him go.

all that time trying to ... reason with him, would be wasted time. time you could spend with someone who deserves you