posted January 10, 2007 11:36 PM              

I really can't stop thinking about this man.... for a while I got over him.... but now I'm thinking about him over and over and over again..... what is wrong with me....
We broke up and just became friends in early 2004 (we have been off and on) the last time I saw him was december 05.... and in 2006 I FINALLY got over him (and didn't think of him) I don't understand why all of a sudden(starting from late december 06) I can't get him off of my mind

Its so wierd because I REALLY can't get him off of my mind... I keep having thoughts of him and I together... I feel like him and I still have a future together.... I don't know what to do I really need help.... I haven't spoken to him on the phone in over a year and I want to call him... but I'm afraid of his reaction....

I don't know what I should do...

Should I just call him?....

Or should I just try to forget about him
I'm a leo moon I like fairness and I don't like it that I always call him first and he hardly calls me first....

I wish he would just call me....

Maybe he moved on....

And that would really break my heart if he tells me he is with someone...

What should I do...

And how can I move on when I always have him on my mind.... I even think of him when I'm dating another guy... I'm just obssessed...

It's killing me not to call him...

But even though we are friends I don't think he wants to call me.... because he dosen't call.....

I feel so bad I really want to call him but I don't want him to pick up the phone and say something like "oh hi " I want him to say "hey baby I missed you sooo much I've been hopeing to hear from you"

In other words I don't want to get my feelings (cancer asc.) hurt

What should I do please help!

What do you think he wants me to do......

Please help

Thank you!!!!!!!!!

Katie

posted January 10, 2007 11:42 PM            

-Kevin

posted January 10, 2007 11:45 PM              

I'm so shy... and sometimes he is grouchy I don't want to get on his nerves

posted January 10, 2007 11:55 PM              

Sun in Cancer
Moon in Aries
Mercury in Cancer
Venus in Gemini
Mars in Virgo
Jupiter in Virgo
Saturn in Virgo
Uranus in Scorpio
Neptune in Sagittarius
Plutoo in Libra
North Node in Leo
Chiron in Leo

I have a

Asc in Cancer
Sun in Taurus
Moon in Leo
Mercury in Aries
Venus in Taurus
Mars in Scorpio
Jupiter in Capricorn
Uranus in Sagittarrius
Neptune in Capricorn
Pluto in Scorpio

Based on this added info what do you think he thinks of me?

Also here is our complete info

His:
July 5th 1980
2am
Asmara Eritrea

Mine:
May 8th 1984
9:48am
Queens New York

Thank you sooo mucjh for the help I appreciate it!!!!!!!!!!

posted January 10, 2007 11:56 PM              

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whoa why are you using 2 usernames?

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posted January 11, 2007 12:22 AM              

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im a Cancer guy and well Im telling you to call him.. if he is at all Cancer he would love to here from you wether or not he is over you.. assuming your guys's break up was smooth.. and he might be feeling the same way .. and trust me cancers dont take the iniative so you have to call him.. yea its not fair but if you really love him then do it..

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Our break up was ok... but it was kind of rough.... but we are still friends though I think we forgive each other... he made mistakes and I made some mistakes as well but I love him.... I wish I knew if he love me too.....

And about the shy thing he has a moon in aries... and when I first met him (before I knew his birthdate) I thought he was a leo because he seems so confident and he is bossy and he dosen't appear shy at all...

I remember in 2003 when he asked me to go to the bookstore with him...

I feel bad that I had to tell him no because I had some business to attend to that day.... and I really do love him even though he puts me though a lot!!!!!!!!!

But I feel like before (like the 3rd time I called him) he would act like he didn't care if we talked or not.... he would be VERY quiet on the phone... and I would do most of the talking

The first time I called him it was the exact opposite.... we were both talking back and forth equally and he was telling me soooo much personal information about himself.... he even told me that his last girlfriend cheated on him..... during our very first conversation!!!!

And he told me that he still sees her from time to time and that he was still on good terms with her parents... he told me how he would help her with her child and I got the impression that he was even gonna marry her... before she cheated on him.... so I told him don't worry it will be alright you two will work it out... and I think I made a mistake by saying that because he probably thought I didn't want him ... but I did..... I just thought he still had feelings for his ex.......

But after our first coversation on the phone everytime I call him... he is real quiet on the phone... he dosen't say much at all

It's like he dosen't care

Thats why I'm afraid to call him now.... even though I miss him sooo much!!!!!!!

posted January 11, 2007 12:36 AM              

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im a Cancer guy and well Im telling you to call him.. if he is at all Cancer he would love to here from you wether or not he is over you.. assuming your guys's break up was smooth.. and he might be feeling the same way .. and trust me cancers dont take the iniative so you have to call him.. yea its not fair but if you really love him then do it..

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Do you really think so???

Because I remember one day I had called him... and we were talking for a while, but he was real quiet, so I asked him "why are you so quiet" and he said "I don't wanna talk to you"

I guess he hates me...huh

posted January 11, 2007 04:45 AM              

Maybe you try this
http://www.healingnetwork.co.uk/cutting_the_ties.htm

It sounds like you are a little too enmeshed with this man....

This ritual may help you to detach a little

Ive done this a few times and it has really helped

Good luck

posted January 11, 2007 04:47 AM              

I doubt he hates you

But he may feel "smothered"

I have done this to men in the past, one in particular....he left my life and it was the best thing that ever happened...cos now I feel FREE of all those horrible unhealthy attached feelings.

Try to let go pet because if you dont you will hurt yourself too.

I have always found the minute I do let go.............

posted January 11, 2007 03:15 PM              

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Katie
Maybe you try this http://www.healingnetwork.co.uk/cutting_the_ties.htm

It sounds like you are a little too enmeshed with this man....

This ritual may help you to detach a little

Ive done this a few times and it has really helped

Good luck

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Thank you so much Sue G, for the informative reply!

I appreciate it so much!!!

It's so hard... to forget someone whn you really love them! And for a while I was over him.... and then (like within a years time) I just started thinking of him agan.... it's so wierd!!

But thanks again so much!!!!

posted January 11, 2007 03:24 PM              

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Katie
I doubt he hates you

But he may feel "smothered"

I have done this to men in the past, one in particular....he left my life and it was the best thing that ever happened...cos now I feel FREE of all those horrible unhealthy attached feelings.

Try to let go pet because if you dont you will hurt yourself too.

I have always found the minute I do let go.............

They come back!!!!!!!

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Thanks for the reply Sue G!!!

Also could you please tell me what I did so wrong to make him feel smoothered!

And do you really think he will call me or come back once I let go.... I pray he will.... lol

Thanks again

posted January 11, 2007 03:36 PM              

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Katie
Maybe you try this http://www.healingnetwork.co.uk/cutting_the_ties.htm

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WOW Sue! That link was VERY informative it gave me some good methods for "cutting the ties" and the best part about this is that you can still remain friends with the person but you heal yourself from the old wounds of the relationship....

posted January 11, 2007 03:44 PM            

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Sun in Libra
Moon in Cancer
Jupiter in Cancer
Venus in Virgo
Mars in Cancer
Ascendant in Cancer

posted January 11, 2007 03:47 PM              

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What is it about Cancer's that has everyone's heart pounding these days??

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LOL I don't know! I think it has something to do with the current full moon in cancer lol

posted January 11, 2007 05:47 PM              

Its just a feeling...are you a Taurus....I can sort of sense you HOLDING ON tightly...

When I read what you are writing I sense your "panic"....he will prob sense it too being a sensitive Cancer...

Maybe when you do the ritual, you will find a difference in the energy around the bond....

More relaxed and not as intense, not as AAAARRGHHHHH!!!!

I talk from experienc Katie...I have been there, done that and worn that tshirt.....

Let me know if you decide to cut the ties and how it feels afterwards.

I did it with one of my clients. She was losing sleep over a guy. Afterwards, she sort of felt she could take him or leave him....and he seemed keener!!!!

posted January 11, 2007 06:38 PM              

Believe it or not.... I was over him a year ago...

I really don't know why.... all of a sudden I just started to think of him.... maybe he put a spell on me lol

But I'm pretty sure he's over me.... he has a moon in aries and a venus in gemini... I'm pretty sure I don't even cross his mind

But I will defineately try that ritual and see if that helps me to get over him thanks for the advice and feedback!!!!

posted January 11, 2007 06:56 PM              

I think another reason why its so hard for me to get over him is because I have a sun and venus in taurus.... and believe it or not... I gave him a lot of space....

and when I called him on the phone it wasn't every day it was more like once every few days.... sometimes a month (or 2) would go by without me calling(but then again he wouldn't call me either).....

And the only time he would call me is when I would call him....

One thing I can say is that he always returned my phone call!

But I think the reason why I'm obsessing over him right now is because I have a sun and venus in taurus.... plus a cancer ascendant!

But it's wierd it never took me this long to get over my other relationships.... this is by far the longest I ever stayed in love with someone after our break up.......

Why me!

posted January 11, 2007 07:12 PM              

Hope you feel better soon

posted January 11, 2007 08:10 PM              

Sometimes love can be so difficult!!!!!

But you are wise to realize that you deserve better.... and I guess the reason why I'm not over this man is because he never cheated on me.....

My first boyfriend cheated on me! He was an aqua with a gemini asc. and it took me a long while to get over him.....
but not nearly as long as it is taking for me to get over this cancer man.....

And yes I do have a VERY hard time letting go.... after a while I thought he was the one too.... we even look alike....

There are times when I look in the mirror and I remind myself of him.... talk about torture!

He would finish my sentences.... everything... and I really felt like he cared about me.... our moons are trined (his in aries mine in leo)

I feel so lost without him and its so bad because there are other guys that try to talk to me... but I will only be friends with them....

he's the last man I kissed for goodness sake!!!!! And that was in late 2004 (july or august)!!!!!!!!! We are now in the year 2007 and I'm back to wanting him again... this is absurd!!!

I was over him in 2005 but now I'm starting (since dec. 06) to think of him again... this is wierd....
I wonder what this all means...

posted January 12, 2007 04:29 AM              

he probably thinks of you as just a friend and can't give you what you really need.

A good way to get over it is to tell yourself you will be friends with someone else like yourself for a while to lean and get those good feelings back again. No pressure for romance, after all he is getting a lot of TLC from you and it's not costing anything...

So try being hand holding friends with someone for a while and you can always say NO, you don't have to kiss.

Taurus women are big on kissing because we Taurus rules the mouth and kissing, and we get very attached to those we kiss, I know this for a fact.

I don't kiss every man I date goodnight, in fact I kiss maybe two men a year, they get mad and I don't care.

Once I kiss I get very attached and lost in the person, it's a personal trait. There is no reason you have to kiss every man on the mouth every time.

Good luck to you and take a man to luch here and there, don't be so shy.

Most people were sent to open our eyes to new things and move on, it's rare to meet anyone who wants to stay, it's not a bad thing, it's just the way of the world. Taurus is in opposition to the laws of nature, it's like we are earth struggling to resist change.

Getting into conversations with men about their exes is a great way to make them feel close, but do not suggest they stay the same, or ignore the future, if they do not want to be with their ex, do not encourage it, instead encourage small forward changes. Think of yourself as a psychiatrist (and that's what you are basically) until they show any interest in being what you need or want as a man.

posted January 12, 2007 08:21 AM              

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Getting into conversations with men about their exes is a great way to make them feel close, but do not suggest they stay the same, or ignore the future, if they do not want to be with their ex, do not encourage it, instead encourage small forward changes. Think of yourself as a psychiatrist (and that's what you are basically) until they show any interest in being what you need or want as a man.

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I really do think I made a mistake by telling him that him and his ex should work it out..... and then he started asking me my feelings about him and how I liked him ... so I guess by telling him to get back with his ex that made him think I didn't like him... I'm not sure.... But I do agree that I made a mistake telling him to do that!!!

If only I could tern back the hands in time... I feel as though I made a lot of mistakes with him... and he made a lot of mistakes with me! But I really love him and I never stopped even though he gets on my last nerves sometimes... lol

And it is so true about the kissing part... I really don't kiss a guy unless he means something to me....

I remember one night him and I were kissing and he stopped and asked me "Do you kiss other guys" And I was like NOOOO....

Awww I miss him he would say the cutested things to me sometimes.....

And it's so hard to move on... I've already tried dating other guys... but my heart still longs for him.....

Why does love have to be sooo painful?