posted January 24, 2007 03:22 AM              

First, please imagine the following scenario: A guy and girl #1 have been dating for about 5 years. Both have been faithful up until then. But then, after those 5 years, the guy cheats on girl #1 with girl #2, whom he has known for a long time. He confesses his infidelities to his long-term girlfriend. However, he doesn't end the relationship with girl #1 and neither does she. He then doesn't see girl #2 for 2 years, because they live in different countries. But he stays in touch with her through e-mails and instant messaging.
Then, 2 years later (during which the guy hasn't once seen girl #2), the guy meets girl #2 again. He is still dating girl #1, but again, he cheats on her with girl #2. And again, neither the guy nor girl #1 end the relationship. The guy and girl #2 still stay in touch, even though girl #1 seems to get more jealous every day.
Another year later, the history repeats itself once more. Guy meets girl #2, guy cheats on girl #1 with girl #2 and neither the guy nor girl #1 end the relationship (at that point they have been together for about 9 years). Maybe I should add at this point that the guy is actually a very faithful kind of person and except for girl #2 he has never cheated on girl #1.

Edit: Girl #2 is in love with the guy and has told him about her feelings towards him.

Now here are the two questions:

#1 If you were the guy, would you break up with girl #1 and start a relationship with girl #2 or stay with girl #1? If you stayed, what would be your reasons?

#2 If you were girl #1, would you leave the guy and break up with him or stay with him even though he cheated on you several times with the same girl over the course of 4 years? If you stayed, what would be your reasons?

posted January 24, 2007 03:34 AM              

#1 I probably would break up with girl #1 as soon as I cheat on her again after not seing the other girl for more than 2 years. I think at that point I would start asking myself why I always fall for girl #2 even though I'm in a relationship with girl #1. And I'd probably realize that the thing between girl #2 and me is more than a fling.

#2 I would break up with the guy immediately. Cheating is a big no-no in relationships. Once he cheated on me, I would never be able to trust him again. But even if I stayed after he cheated on me for the first time (maybe due to financial reasons), I would break up with him when he cheats on me again after 2 years. I would start asking myself why is he always cheating on me with that one girl ... and then I'd probably realize that he has strong feelings for girl #2 and is just too afraid to break up with me.

posted January 24, 2007 03:41 AM              

If I am #1, I will stop my relationship with the guy. He gotta have issues if he continues cheating with #2. Out of dignity and respect to myself and to whatever we once shared, and to preserve the integrity of our love we once had, lets leave things with a happier ending. In fact, for me, once hurt, never twice broken. I dun see how I would have struck around for the third or fourth promise to be broken again.

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posted January 24, 2007 04:00 AM            

#1 If you were the guy, would you break up with girl #1 and start a relationship with girl #2 or stay with girl #1? If you stayed, what would be your reasons?

--- There will not be any girl 2 as far as I know. However if there is girl2 Yes, I will break up with girl 1 and start a relationship with giirl 2 on 2 conditions 1)
If I am sure about girl 2 feelings and my feelings. 2)and if that's what also girl 1 wanted. Just because I don't want to be unfaithful to my own and other's feelings. The only reason I will stay with that girl 1 will be for superficial reasons like Children, Work, Security.I might also live with girl 1 to give that relationship more chance and see if relationship can go further.If it seemed hopeless and it's at last stage ultimately I will break up.I will discard unwanted relationships and make my life easier but ofcourse while removing one of them my life will be a tough decision based on lots of factors love,feelings, future,presnt conditions,etc.

#2 If you were girl #1, would you leave the guy and break up with him or stay with him even though he cheated on you several times with the same girl over the course of 4 years? If you stayed, what would be your reasons?

I will not stay with guy if he is cheating on me as it's very clear that something is missing in our relationship and since guy has cheated several times it shows that he is unable to make decision on what he wants. The reason for living with him either could be love from my side and all superficial reasons.It will be difficult to leave him but I will get over it eventually and start my new life.

posted January 24, 2007 04:05 AM            

2. I'd break up with the guy as soon as I found out. Depending on the relationship, I might consider keeping a friend with benefits type of situation, but I'd no longer consider us a couple.

posted January 24, 2007 06:59 AM              

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#2 If you were girl #1, would you leave the guy and break up with him or stay with him even though he cheated on you several times with the same girl over the course of 4 years? If you stayed, what would be your reasons?

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Please also put down your stats!!!

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Jupiter Taurus 23°08'48 in house 6
Saturn Leo 12°06'33 in house 8
Uranus Scorpio 11°46'47 in house 11
Neptune Sagittarius 15°56'19 in house 1
Pluto Libra 13°52'11 in house 10
True Node Libra 25°39'34 in house 10

posted January 24, 2007 08:42 AM              

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#1 If you were the guy, would you break up with girl #1 and start a relationship with girl #2 or stay with girl #1? If you stayed, what would be your reasons?

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Since this whole girl 2 thing is such a long term situation, if I was guy I’d be seriously asking myself what the heck it is that I want.. then I’d make a decision and stick to it. I actually would’ve done this as soon as the first time it happened, so I would’ve made a decision then.

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#2 If you were girl #1, would you leave the guy and break up with him or stay with him even though he cheated on you several times with the same girl over the course of 4 years? If you stayed, what would be your reasons?

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I would’ve left as soon as the first time, simply because the story implies an emotional bond between guy and girl2.. It wasn’t a one night stand and I’d see it as emotional cheating. A one night stand I could get over easily, because a purely physical thing wouldn’t hurt me.. but emotional cheating with a long term friend.. that’s a big no no for me.

posted January 24, 2007 08:54 AM              

#2 If I were the girl I would have DUMPED HIM as soon as I found out he cheated. It's not that hard to tell someone, "It's over" before sleeping with someone else. Sex happens when you put yourself in the situation FOR it to happen. If sex/cheating really "just happened" then we'd all be walking around with AIDS and unexpected/unwanted pregnancies because we'd ALL have a lot of "just happened" incidents with complete strangers out on the street.

posted January 24, 2007 11:52 AM              

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#1 If you were the guy, would you break up with girl #1 and start a relationship with girl #2 or stay with girl #1? If you stayed, what would be your reasons?

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If I were a guy, I doubt I would break up with #1. I assume I'm in a relationship with her and not #2 for a reason. Maybe I'm an emotional vampire, sucking her life essence from her - I couldn't leave that. Not until I had sucked her dry at least, right? So #2 just serves as a nice ocasional side dish when I'm feeling a little bored with #1, and gives #1 a chance to recup her energies before I start sucking her dry again. I can get more mileage out of her that way. And hey, #1 is staying around - she must like that I'm a parasite, right? SOunds like a good deal to me!

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#2 If you were girl #1, would you leave the guy and break up with him or stay with him even though he cheated on you several times with the same girl over the course of 4 years? If you stayed, what would be your reasons?

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It depends.

Scenerio A: I dump the guy after he cheated on me first time around, because I'm not that patient of a person and I hate a guy to come groveling to me out of guilt for something he did behind my back. How am I suppose to react to that? Give him a medal and a courtesy f*ck for being so honest? I don't torelate that crap. Either he cheats and has the backbone to deal with it, or he's a wuss and I kick him to the curb.

Scenerio B: The guy's an Aqua, so I know he's going to get bored and go sleep with some long time friend at some point anyhow. I've already talked to him about it, and gave him the "ground rules" about what I can and cannot tolerate about him sleeping around. If he embarasses me, if he gets an STD, if the other woman shows up at 2 AM and screams at me - he's history. Other than that, fine. I'll just use it as leverage to screw one of my friends when I get bored with him.

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posted January 24, 2007 12:54 PM              

This is not exactly on the subject but I was just thinking this morning... why is that no matter how much of a loser, cheater or being totally screwed up otherwise, a guy is - there is ALWAYS a woman who would want him?

posted January 24, 2007 01:00 PM              

But as for now, all of them has acceptwd this situation. Someone's going to have to say no to it and want more. It's going to take girl #1 or #2 to step up. Because the guy is sitting pretty, pretty right now.

posted January 24, 2007 01:15 PM            

Guy #1: I wouldn't say that guy should break up with girl #1 and go to #2 because there is a reason that girl #2 is still on the side after all these years. He probably doesn't see her as relationship material especially considering she's a friend. Maybe a friend with benefits? However, I wouldn't advise him to stay with Gurl #1 because there's obviously something wrong if you feel the need to cheat on her. All in all, guy sounds like a confused b@stard...why would girl #1 or #2 want him anyways????

Girl #1: If I were her I would break up with him immediately...I'm not very forgiving of cheaters no matter how strong my feelings are. I might mess his head a little or go out with his cousin or something after the break up for revenge (I'm a cancer, that's what I do), but I wouldn't get back with him.

posted January 25, 2007 12:53 PM              

If I was the girl (and I have been in this situation before. Not exactly the same years-wise, but pretty much the "theme" of it is the same), well it is hard to say that I will immediately break off with him as soon as I found out. I thought I would break up with my boyfriend as soon as I fouind out he cheated on me (even if he denied it), but I stayed because I was so shocked and heartbroken, I didnt want to lose him. MISTAKE! But if I was the girl#1, I would've broken up with him the 2nd time, because then I'd have enough, seeing as it would have been hard to trust him once his infidelities arises.

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posted January 25, 2007 01:57 PM              

Alright, I'm going to be honest here.... I met my boyfriend now when I was still with someone, and I ended up cheating (on my ex) with my current boyfriend. I always used to say that I would NEVER EVER cheat, and trust me, I never will again- I love my boyfriend now way too much, and I am very faithful and devoted to him. However, I didn't really care enough about my ex and when I met my current boyfriend, I felt very intrigued by him. I wasn't happy with my ex, and cheated on him instead of just breaking it off, which was a big mistake on my part. However, I don't regret what I did because it led me to my boyfriend now. But anyway, back to the point....my belief (i know that a lot of people have different opinions on this) is that if you love someone with all your heart, you WILL remain faithful- unless of course you're the type that can't be faithful to anyone. In the scenario you described, I believed that the guy loved girl #1, but obviously not enough if he kept hooking up with girl #2. Maybe he felt there was something missing in his relationship with girl #1...I dunno...especially since you said he's normally very faithful.

((#2 If you were girl #1, would you leave the guy and break up with him or stay with him even though he cheated on you several times with the same girl over the course of 4 years? If you stayed, what would be your reasons?))

Uhhh, this is definitely a no-brainer...I'd break up with him! Even cheating ONCE is pushing it....I don't even think I could take someone back then. But the fact this guy has cheated on this girl with the SAME girl repeatedly, shows that he's not fully in his relationship with girl #1 physically OR emotionally.

posted January 25, 2007 03:01 PM              

#2: If I were girl #1, I would of dumped the guy the first time he cheated. No matter the financial situation. That is why I do my best to be independent, because I am not one to tolerate BS and cling to a man who's wronged me. If I stayed with a cheater, I wouldn't be able to look myself in the eye with dignity. I will not compete for a man, if I'm put in that place then he obviously doesn't care enough.

posted January 25, 2007 08:28 PM              

If I were girl #1, I'd definitely break up with the guy NOW before this goes any further. Girl #1 needs to find someone else who will treat her the way she deserves to be treated--with honor and respect. No matter what he says, if he loves girl #1, he wouldn't cheat on her at all. End of story.

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posted January 25, 2007 09:00 PM            

#1 If you were the guy, would you break up with girl #1 and start a relationship with girl #2 or stay with girl #1? If you stayed, what would be your reasons?
If i was the guy i would probably stay with girl #1 because she provides me the stability and the safety but clearly lacks something that girl #2 gives me. Though i will second what someone said and probably stay till I find someone better...which wouldnt be too long and Id probably look after the first time he cheated.

#2 If you were girl #1, would you leave the guy and break up with him or stay with him even though he cheated on you several times with the same girl over the course of 4 years? If you stayed, what would be your reasons?
I would probably leave him. I dont know its a very tough one, i would hate him and make him pay FOR SURE. But possibly forgive him but only if he did it ONCE. If it was more than once he is OUT and clearly it was NO accident.

posted January 25, 2007 11:47 PM              

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