posted January 26, 2007 08:57 AM            

Here's an excerpt from a conversation I had yesterday with my boss and two of my co-workers:

My Gem boss to the Cancer girl: (Sarcastically) "I think you just hurt M's (Sag) feelings."

Cancer: "No I didn't. I never hurt anyone's feelings."

Sag: "Yes you do. (laughs) You hurt my feelings all the time!"

Me: "Mine too!"

Cancer to me: "I KNOW I don't hurt your feelings. I don't think you have any."

Me: (In typical sarcastic, dramatic LEO-nine fashion acting shocked) "How can you SAY that???!! You're going to make me cry!"

My boss: "S is tough!"

Sag: "Yeah, she's the ice queen!"

Grant it, this conversation was all in good fun, but they were all at least half serious. And I KNOW they're right. In the time that I've known these girls, they've seen me go through my father's passing and two break-ups, but I NEVER show an ounce of sadness or hurt. EVER. Now, mind you, I think each of them gets teary-eyed at work at least once a week. I feel my emotions, very strongly, and very deeply, but I JUST can't show them! It's the same with giving sympathy to others. If I see someone crying or upset, my mind and my heart tell me to go and hug them, but my body just WON'T react. I usually end up just standing there like a stone cold statue!

Why are Caps soooo aloof all the time with regards to emotion??? Why can't we just let it go?

posted January 26, 2007 01:17 PM              

i think its all relative....may be u happen to be with more emotionally expressive co workers, and so by comparison u seem to be restrained. Another thing i have noticed, i feel uncomfortable getting emotional in front of people who are MORE emotional than me (or atleast show it more), and from them i get very similar reactions as you just got. so with usually my girl friends, i am the 'rock'. and with my male friends (who wud rather die than show tht they r upset) i am a 'crybaby'.

don't worry so much....as long as u don't bottle your emotions and make sure that there is SOME outlet for them, its fine.

posted January 26, 2007 02:36 PM              

ya, isnt it strange...i too can act like a total baby with men. dont know why. i feel more free....with women, somehow it always happens tht i am the one offering advice and my shoulder for them to weep on. being the 'man' whereas with my male friends, i can fight with them, shout at them, and cry in front of them. i think i am just more comfortable around males....my closest friends are always male....i have very few good female friends, most of whom are not very 'girly' in the first place.

don't worry dear...i think you are perfectly normal. about showing the vulnerability thing, it will happen over time....as you become more secure with your insecurities (wht a confusing statement that is! )

And yes, i still think they seem to be a very emotional bunch....its unusual....may it has to do with the nature of your job...mine is research, and u don't expect the scientific types to cry

ILWL

posted January 26, 2007 04:32 PM            

Uranus in the Fourth House


Uranus in the fourth house may alter your nurturing style significantly. You seek unusual ways to express your desires in this arena that sets you apart from most. The concept of nurturing doesn’t come naturally to you. Your independent streak might make you want to run away from nurturing when it’s proffered to you. As a nurturer, you can be very loving and caring. But sometimes you withdraw and prefer aloofness. To others you may appear erratic but there’s nothing wrong with your intentions. At heart you always have the best of intentions. Uranus in the fourth may indicate the style of nurturing or “mothering” that you yourself have received as a child. You may remember your childhood as adequate in material areas but somewhat lacking in emotional support.

-from Cafe Astrology

So true! My mom is a rock. She's the original "ice queen." Very emotionally distant and not too affectionate. She always shows her affection more with gifts or money than with words or physical affection.

posted January 30, 2007 04:24 PM            

My main issue is that people tend to see me as "cold-hearted," and "stoic," when that isn't how I am on the inside at all, and it really isn't the image I want to project either...just can't seem to bring myself to show that side in public, or even among close friends usually.

Seeing Stars - How can you hate Caps??? I mean, we're SOOO great and all! LOL...Actually, I don't normally like Caps myself! I've never had a problem with Cancers...sometimes there are misunderstandings but I think I've got enough water that I do pretty well with them.