posted February 07, 2007 10:28 AM            

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Oh, his Venus in Gem might actually mean that he doesn't care if you se other people.

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posted February 07, 2007 10:31 AM              

Is that a good thing that he would want he and I go see other people?

Do you think that he just may never seriously want to settle? I want something one on one with someone. If this is the case ,we are definitely on two different pages.

THis may seem like a funny question, but i am dead serious, does this mean he would be like a swinger or something if we ever got married? You know, like be real carefree about a relationship.

posted February 07, 2007 10:31 AM              

Is that a good thing that he would want he and I go see other people?

Do you think that he just may never seriously want to settle? I want something one on one with someone. If this is the case ,we are definitely on two different pages.

THis may seem like a funny question, but i am dead serious, does this mean he would be like a swinger or something if we ever got married? You know, like be real carefree about a relationship.

posted February 07, 2007 10:34 AM              

He has a Sag Moon. My sister is a Sag Sun and I know she was always carefree in relationships before she actually settled down and got married.

posted February 07, 2007 10:53 AM              

Good luck,

posted February 07, 2007 11:07 AM            

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Is there any way to determine planets and degrees have the most pull when it comes to a romantic relationship?

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well, you have to look at house placements and aspects to the planets as well

posted February 07, 2007 01:46 PM            

ok sinderlou and others i know it might be hard to understand but you have to trust me on this...

you have to understand cancers will say alot of stuff they dont trully mean.. that is a fact!... so when he said that he doesnt mind if you go see other guys that is most likely BS. we would only say that because we dont want to look like a jealous insecure people who wants to put restrictions on you.. ( which is what we exactly are) oh and let me tell you his venus in gemini had nothing to do with it. Im a cancer , also with my venus in gemini and when i am involved with a girl i dont want her involved with any other guys more then friends and especially not with ex lovers.. a big NO NO! from now on sinderlou start thinking twice about stuff he sais dont take everything he sais to heart or believe it..

.. another thought... it seems like after 7 months and you two are not getting very far. not to scare you but i think you should start investigating him to see if he has other girls on the side.. while my venus is also in gem. i have good morals and i would never be a player .. but it might be different for him... so idk just a thought...

posted February 07, 2007 02:05 PM            

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Oh, his Venus in Gem might actually mean that he's okay with you seeing other people.

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posted February 07, 2007 03:16 PM              

I just got back from lunch with him and he never asked me a thing about going out with an ex. I wasn't my lovable self though.

I smiled and greeted him like more of a freind. We had lunch. I paid mine, he paid his. Talked about the horrible road conditions. He did ask me if I had any trouble last night on the roads but he never asked about if I had a good time.

I gave a a semi decent kiss and said I would call him tomorrow.

I just couldn't talk about how I feel though. I think I am still in shock that he doesn't appear to care, thought Stars you and a couple others seem to think it may be a big cover up. He has told me on several occasions that he is not the jealous type. Could he truely be an exception to the Cancerian rule?

I asked him if he missed me. he said yes. He asked me the same question and I said yes.

He told me he dreamed of me last night and I was on his mind. I just raised my eyebrows and shook my head a little and said "thats nice" . what am i suppose to say? This vagueness is killing me.

I am still digesting this along with my lunch and trying to figure out what I should say. I may email something tonight or tomorrow.

posted February 07, 2007 03:19 PM              

I just got back from lunch with him and he never asked me a thing about going out with an ex. I wasn't my lovable self though.

I smiled and greeted him like more of a freind. We had lunch. I paid mine, he paid his. Talked about the horrible road conditions. He did ask me if I had any trouble last night on the roads but he never asked about if I had a good time.

I gave a a semi decent kiss and said I would call him tomorrow.

I just couldn't talk about how I feel though. I think I am still in shock that he doesn't appear to care, thought Stars you and a couple others seem to think it may be a big cover up. He has told me on several occasions that he is not the jealous type. Could he truely be an exception to the Cancerian rule?

I asked him if he missed me. he said yes. He asked me the same question and I said yes.

He told me he dreamed of me last night and I was on his mind. I just raised my eyebrows and shook my head a little and said "thats nice" . what am i suppose to say? This vagueness is killing me.

I am still digesting this along with my lunch and trying to figure out what I should say. I may email something tonight or tomorrow.

posted February 07, 2007 09:19 PM            

ok well I really dont think he is an exception to the cancerian rule.. we just dont like to show it.. so dont go thinking that.. and from now on you SHOULD tell him how you feel... btw the comment about him dreaming about you was nice. sinder what exactly are you looking for again? either way I still think you should do some further invesitgating into his life to see what he is doing... im not trying to scare you or anything but you never know when a guy has women on the side... It still bewilders me that you two have been involved for over 7 months and you dont atleast see eachother once everyday... oh and is he willing to tell you his exact birthdate and location so you can do his chart? or does he not know about it? im not exactly sure how it would turn out but it would be ironic if he was posting or atleast viewing your posts about him.. lol

... wierd ....

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posted February 07, 2007 09:30 PM            

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How can he say that he doesnt care if i see other men after we have been exclusive for 7 months? Is this me? Am I flaking out about this? Should I just see other people and continue to sleep with him? Do all cancer guys move this SLLLLOOOOWWWWW...I am freaked out over this.....

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posted February 08, 2007 09:55 AM              

Thanks for you input.............

Stars, I am going to do a little checking, already started

We don't see each other because we live pretty far away and with work it makes it hard. I work on the weekends (evenings) too when he is off so the schedule makes it rough to get together often.

He emailed me out of the blue and said he missed me. I know why he did that. Because I was distant yesterday when I saw him and he knew it.

I notice that when I pull back, he makes an effort towards me but when I go towards him he pulls back.

posted February 08, 2007 10:05 AM              

I need to be assured that he loves me and only me too.

But he won't tell me that. He tells me to see other men if I want to. How could a man miss a women that he doesn't mind what she is doing with other men?

Maybe he is vulnerable, then I am too, but we both can't be doing this. This is ridiculous.

I feel like I must do something extreme to get him to open up to me. I have never ignored him before ever. This is the first time I have ever delayed a response to him.

posted February 08, 2007 10:32 AM              

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I need to be assured that he loves me and only me too.

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Articulate this to him. He can only tell you what you want or don't want to hear. I don't see how withdrawing affection is a good way of receiving affection.

posted February 08, 2007 10:39 AM              

Your logic makes sense but I sometimes wonder if Cancers have a logic all their own.

I have smothered this man with affection, gifts, cooking, poetry, whoopie, massages etc...

Then he tells me to go see other men if i want to??

Is this logical?

What am I doing wrong?

All I can think of is to do the opposite.

posted February 08, 2007 10:49 AM              

It seems you have made no progression with this guy.

You said he gets agitated when you are direct with him. I don't think thats ok.

Ask yourself.... Does this guy make you happy? Or is it you WANT this guy to make you happy.

I understand you don't see him often but after as many months as you two have been together wouldn't you think you would be on the same page? Wouldn't you think communication would be open and honest?

I don't mean to bum you out so I will stop asking questions. : )

Ask yourself a few, the answers are there.

Good luck

posted February 08, 2007 10:56 AM              

You are absolutely right.

You would think that we would be on the same page by now.

He emailed me a little email saying he missed me and I have not responded. i have never felt this way before.

He is slowly killing what I had for him and all of a sudden I don't want to respond to him because I wonder what the point is.

I don't want a relationship that is only good when it is convenient for the other person and if they are feeling that they just want sex. Nothing wrong with that if that is all that the two people desire.

Its not what I desire. I can't share myself at such a deep level then have someone tell me to go ahead and date other men. That is a slap in the face to me. That is throwing away all I gave back at me.

7 months is enough time, I think, to know if you should take someone seriously.

posted February 08, 2007 11:09 AM              

I don't know.

I know that love comes from within you.

I know that "wanting" to love can make things confusing.

Good luck