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Topic: How do you cancer influened or capricorn influenced ppl get over a break up?
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GrlyGirl20
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From: USA
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posted February 10, 2007 06:02 PM
  
Hey as you guys know I had been dealing with a double sag & venus and mer in scorpio guy, and now we're officially done with each other. I just wanted to know what do you guys with capricorn or cancer influences do when you're getting over someone? My cancer side wants to just sleep and eat ice cream but my cap side is like, "I have to get over this, and throw myself into work I have to do and stay busy" (which is either studying, working out/getting in shape, or hanging out with friends more).My placements:
ASC/Sun/Mars Can 1st
Moon Cap 7th
Mercury Leo 2nd
Venus Tau 11th
Jupiter Aqu 8th
Uran Sag 6th
Sat/Plu Sco 5th
Nep Sag 6th IP: Logged |
Taurus80
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posted February 10, 2007 06:23 PM
sorry you're going through this GrlyGirl20.. maybe try doing a little of both..give yourself time to rest AND workout when you feel like it.. whatever you do..do what makes YOU feel better hun.. IP: Logged |
InLoveWithLife
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posted February 10, 2007 06:31 PM
i am cappy sun, cancer asc....i know wht u r talking about 
sometimes i tend to eat and sleep. dont want to get out of the bed.
on the other hand sometimes when i am reeeally depressed (and obsessed) i stop eating altogether. and still dont want to get out of the bed. indulging yourself seems like a good idea to me. have your fav foods. pamper yourself, you r going thru a hard time  IP: Logged |
Green Fairy
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posted February 10, 2007 06:42 PM
We don't. I don't. IP: Logged |
amberandmatt
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posted February 10, 2007 06:57 PM
I agree with the post right above mine.
sun cap
asc scorpio
moon geminiI feel like I want to get over it and I may even try to stay busy but in the end a few days laying in bed feeling sad and having a pity party that no one wants to come to and not eating works ok. But over it in all- I still miss and think about my ex from 5 years ago from time to time. Guess it just takes time and a bit of feeling the pain and just finally moving on. no real cure for me. just remember it'll all be ok and work out and when life is bad it'll eventually get better  IP: Logged |
Dulce Luna
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From: The Asylum, NC
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted February 10, 2007 07:00 PM
Cancer sun/ Cap Ascending here
I would also probably fluctuate between keeping busy and just sitting on the couch eating ice cream...LOL.
I hope you feel better GrlyGirl 
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AcousticGod
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Registered: Apr 2009
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posted February 10, 2007 07:23 PM
I'm a Capricorn, and it really depends on the situation for me. IP: Logged |
CoralFrequency
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posted February 10, 2007 07:33 PM
Question: Are you in love with this guy?IP: Logged |
seveneieghtorange
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posted February 11, 2007 12:45 AM
How do I get over a breakup!? Hehe good question.
Im a cancer sun, Scorpio moon. sun opposite neptune in capricorn...(yes its a hard placement to live with)
Its very hard for me to let go. But if someone wants to break up with me, then fine. I will not beg someone back if thats what they want. I have my moments wherein I get really moody, not wanting to speak to anyone and just stay at home mooning about my breakup. But I give myself just one day to do this and the next day I brush myself up and keep busy with work, friends, social circle, whatever. Whenever that feeling of sentimentality comes, I give in to it but not to the point where I am in need to go back/contact that person. I convince myself it is over and I always think that it is a lesson learned...probably my scorpio moon acting up, that I never let a breakup get to me or break me. It may take me awhile but I pretty much bounce back like new. Girly, I have a venus in taurus in the 11th like you too.
I hope you're doing okay....
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Pluto's Muse
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posted February 11, 2007 01:07 AM
Eat ice cream, go out with the girls.------------------
Seduce my mind and you can have my body,
Find my soul and I'm yours forever.
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Sun - Gemini/Cancer Cusp
Asc - Cancer
Moon - Taurus *29
Venus - Taurus
Mars - Libra
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GrlyGirl20
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From: USA
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted February 11, 2007 05:00 AM
Was I in love with him?I want to say I wasn't but in my own way I was. I was/am still very attached to him, I think the only issue I have a problem with is he doesn't want to stay friends and I do (I blame my damn 11th house venus for that). He says he can't. I am fine with no "physical" relationship, but I just couldn't imaging not talking to him or seeing how he was doing. So I think in my own way I loved him, just not really in the traditional way. I am ok with him being with someone else (even though I want it to be me) but I want him to be happy first and foremost...so if it's not with me then that's fine. To seveneieghtorange:
Do you experience the annoyance of your venus in 11th? As much as I want to be typical and hurt and move on (and vow to NEVER talk to him again...my pluto aspects would want that) my house placement overrides everthing and I still want to stay "friends."
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cristiname
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Registered: Apr 2009
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posted February 11, 2007 07:12 AM
staying friends is a trap. a painful one - in this case, I'm afraid, for you. he's moved on - you're still clinging. I was in the same situation once and I wanted to shut it off completely (scorpio moon conj uranus, maybe, either "with me" or "not at all"). but he wanted to stay friends. and what happened was that... he was minding his own business, while I kept hoping, and waiting for "us" to eb back together - for him to "realise" somehow how great we were together. and it ust prolonged the suffering - mine. he was fine. he didn't care anymore. so, for the bottom of my heart, don't! pack your baggs (emotional baggage  ), and get out and away from him. cut the cord. move on... of course you loved him. but that's another story... IP: Logged |
silvermoon
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posted February 11, 2007 07:57 AM
Cancer Sun/Capricorn Asc.here.
I really feel for you in your situation.
I have been through some heartbreak (also with a Scorpio) and it took a long time to get over.
Although I respect the need to grieve, I believe you are on the right track in taking good care of yourself and living life anyway. In the final analysis, I think love is the only real cure for heartache. If you're out there taking care of yourself you've won half the battle.Also,you never know who you may run into
I will keep you in my thoughts and meditations...IP: Logged |
CoralFrequency
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posted February 11, 2007 10:09 PM
Hi Grly,The reason I asked is because Cancer tends to love people more than they love themselves and they sacrifice their happiness, a lot of times, unnecessarily. If you would love yourself as much as you care about other people in your life, including him then you'd do for yourself what you'd do for a good friend in your situation. You wouldn't abandon her and let her sink into depression would you? Help yourself. IP: Logged |
GrlyGirl20
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From: USA
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted February 12, 2007 12:56 PM
I just thought I would update you guys...so the reason I knew we were over was because he had told me he had a gf...well I found out he lied to me. I'm not sure to make me jealous, or what. To anyone who had known our "relationship" was kinda like a sick game. I had told him that I was with someone else (a boyfriend) in like October. I feel like he is kinda punishing me and using what I have done as an excuse to get back at me. I kinda want to play his sick game some more. Because I feel like he wants to make me jealous because I was the one who said I was done...but that I wanted to stay friends. IP: Logged |
seveneieghtorange
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posted February 18, 2007 03:47 AM
***To seveneieghtorange:
Do you experience the annoyance of your venus in 11th? As much as I want to be typical and hurt and move on (and vow to NEVER talk to him again...my pluto aspects would want that) my house placement overrides everthing and I still want to stay "friends."**-- Yep...I feel ya girly!! It only really applies to the exes that I havent had extreme emotions with though. My last piece-of-scum Pisces ex, I will never even have the idea of being friendly to him. To me he is dead and non-existent. But to, say, my Taurus ex, our relationship wasnt that deep so I could easily be just friends with him.
But I do understand what you mean. When I first broke up with the Taurus, I didnt want to ever speak to him again. But as time went on, I began just brushing everything off, which was great because then I really knew I was over him. IP: Logged |
artgirl
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posted February 18, 2007 05:01 AM
I am a virgo and what I usually do is find a replacement ASAP or try my best to .
since the attention from a new person will take your mind off him. I know you have to go through the mourning period and sort yourself out and all but I am not very good at dealing with pain and i sometimes take the easy way out.IP: Logged |
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