posted March 21, 2007 07:47 PM            

do any of you have experience with venus in the 11th house, natally and/or in synastry.

Just wondering whether with 11th house venus in a natal chart, one would want to be friends first, so that many of your partners used to be your friends. And vice versa - many of your lovers end up being your friends.

And with synastry I'm really interested in what your experience is with venus in the other person's 11th house. When someone's venus has fallen into your 11th house in the past, did you (more often than not) feel only friendship for them rather than any romantic attractions. I've actually read quite a few positive interpretations about venus in 11th house synastrically and allegedly it's often found in marriages, but I have no real life examples, so no idea how it plays out in real life. So I guess I'm just a bit sceptical and would guess the 11th house person wouldnt feel that attracted to the venus person initially.

posted March 21, 2007 08:34 PM              

I like your question about whether this would mean the relationship would have to start as a friendship or if it indicates the person only wants it as a friendship. I don't know and I rarley seems to see anyone popping up that they have 11th house contacts with their lovers despite having asked on a number of astro boards over a year ago...

posted March 21, 2007 08:44 PM            

If I can't be good friends with someone, I couldn't get close to them physically. Friendship first, everything else later.. otherwise no go lol

If a man approaches me in a purely sexual or romantic way.. I’m as cold as ice.. after which they say stuff behind my back like “she’s shy” or “she’s a bi*tch” or “she wants me and doesn’t know it” or “she’s a prude”.. you know? Typical boy with hurt ego crap. Anyway, simply walking away and leaving it at that, isn’t a piece of cake (being an Aries), but there’s that Cap Mars and Pisces Mercury screaming “breathe, relax.. remember though shalt not kill – not even thy very obnoxious male.. waaaalk awayyy slowly” lol so I do, usually.

Funny thing is, if a man approaches me purely as a friend.. I’d be much MUCH more genuine romantically and I would feel comfortable being sexual towards him. If my male friends would ever meet the male wanks lol they’d have very strange conversations like “she’s such a prude” “a prude? She’s so easy going”.. “na she’s cold” “cold? She like wild”, “she’s shy then”.. “errr na man she ain’t shy” .. “are we talking about the same girl”, “I was just about to ask you that” teehee It’d be like sudden ego death for the male wanks ahhh day dreams..

posted March 21, 2007 09:02 PM            

The man I'm completely and utteerly besotted with has his mercury and venus in my 7th, yes the classic, in my eyes he is the ideal partner! But my mercury and venus fall in his 11th house...unfortunately I have no idea yet, whether it is just friendship from his side. Do you think it could make a difference/be significant that his NATAL mercury and venus also fall in his 11th house? Because wouldnt that mean I mirror exactly what he seeks in terms of a relationship.

Coral, that's interesting. Actually the man I've just mentioned seems to behave in a similar way. Around his friends and in a 'friendship'environment he seems to be a completely different person than when he is 'hit' on by woman.(had the pleasure of witnessing the spectacle once, (wasnt me, but another woman getting active). He seemed to completely freeze up and become all shy ...well,wmay have been his saturn in 5th house of course.

Anyone else with thoughts, experience to share? Very curious!

posted March 21, 2007 11:27 PM            

Venus will always function as the planet of love/sexuality and attraction no matter where it is. So his love and sexuality is expressed through the sign Venus is in (in that way) in the area of the 11th house (friends).. He's very likely to be attracted/fall in love with people in that area - friends..

If he sees you as a friend, that's a great thing (for this particular aspect).. You could go as far as to say that Venus in the 11th people are actually attracted to their friends more than they are to anyone else.

posted March 22, 2007 10:25 AM              

D. is my friend and physician. We have our own spouses of 17 years. Hmmm. I think we're attracted to each other in a sort of odd relentless way but I think this placement also works because we really can only be an friends at this time and place on the planet.... My Taurus Venus falls in his 11th house. His Venus falls in my third which makes it a very Happy Yappy (communicative) spot.

I think what Coral's says about Venus is interesting...it's looking at venus as venus and then piecing how it may play out in the hosue as opposed to assuming its limitations if it doesn't fall in 7 5 or 8...

posted March 22, 2007 11:05 AM            

I have a "semi" friend...(I consider her an aquaintance). Her Venus is on my 11th house cusp. She's normally a shy, reserved, person who doesn't like going out or interacting with other people, she doesn't have many friends at all (if any) and likes it that way. And she's a bit weird. But for some reason, when it comes to me, she just comes out of her shell a bit and constantly wants to hang out with me and spend time with me and do things. Like she tries *really hard* to create some kind of close friendship with me. Which I find odd, being on the other side watching how hard she tries and not knowing why...cuz I literally don't do or say or encourage anything. But yea, that was a ramble...