posted March 22, 2007 08:47 AM            

Have you experienced this? Was it bliss, or was it "too easy"?

posted March 22, 2007 10:09 AM              

I have been married 17 years, have two or three friends from 20 years ago, and have a small number of neighbors, former bosses, and male friends etc who have been in my life for say 15-20 years. What do they all have in common? I have good Mercury aspects with all of them (deep, juicy communication aspects not always the traditional love, sexual attraction,romance aspects) and a very generous dose of squares (less oppositions than squares). I notice that I have few long term relations with heavy conjunctions with persons outside of this household who I love asnd respect. I have more conjunctions with my children than most other human beings.

Some of this conversation is about longevity ..... I love the short quick ease of an easy chart but my personal relationship history good or bad prefers a bit of challenge, some work and God I love people who are a bit like minded but really clearly diffferent from me in some way. I think it is because I think I learn through them. It is very hard for me to learn from and love someone whose every thought, mood political view, and behavior are transparent or a mirror of mine.

posted March 22, 2007 10:49 AM            

I'm asking, because a friend of mine has this amazing synastry with a guy she's been seeing for about a year. We don't know his birth time, he's not on good terms with his mother and doesn't know, unfortunately.

I'm always wary of telling other people about their synastry, so I just tell them about the great potentials that are there and emphasize the potentials and talk about the "challenges" and impress upon them that there are no deal breakers. Relationships are about learning, etc, etc.

Although I don't know what his angles are... I see no Saturn aspects, even with a 5 degree orb (I usually use much less, but I was reaching!). Which is a bit baffling, because although he lives 5 hours drive away and they only see each other a few times a month, they're incredibly close. She's madly in love with him and from what she tells me, he loves her too. I would have thought for the relationship to endure this long, there'd have to be some Saturn... or is a year not enough time for the "Saturn glue" to kick in or fail the relationship?

But the contact between their personal Planets and Pluto and Uranus is nothing short of mazing. They're like 2 pieces of a puzzle. They share the same birthdate (5 years apart), his VEnus is conjunct her Mars, his Pluto is conjunct her Moon... and then depending on his time of birth... his Moon is either opposed her Moon or conjunct her Venus. His Jupiter is conjunct her North Node too! These are all within a 1 degree orb!

So, I'm just really curious. Plus the 1-year duration is throwing me off, because if I didn't know them, I would assume it would be an extremely intense, short-lived fling. Unless, her Saturn is conjunct one of his angles... which we don't know the placement of

I'm just trying to learn and connect the dots between theory and practice... thanks for your help Lily

posted March 22, 2007 11:19 AM              

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Unless, her Saturn is conjunct one of his angles...

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Exactly. It amazes me how many, MANY people only look at the aspects and completely ignore the synastry house placements.
But when making birth chart interpretations these same people somehow manage to place a lot of emphasis on planets in houses.

posted March 23, 2007 07:04 AM              

I suppose synastry is just so complicated that we are just learning to see the big picture.

posted March 23, 2007 10:35 AM              

Each house has its intrinsic focus, its upside it's deeper underbelly.

posted March 23, 2007 10:54 AM              

And yes, I understand the complexity of astrology, but it was just a short comment instead of a deep-penetrating analysis.

posted March 23, 2007 12:07 PM              

Hey Venus. I'm glad it was somewhat helpful...On the Saturn comment. I don't think it has to be on an angle..etc... I think astrological research has however borne out that saturn contacts to personal planets in synastry are very frequently found in marriages which have survived the test of time. Saturn is a task master but a grounder and I think it's difficult to have long term bonds without a few solid hits coming from it.

I am currently trying to analyze the charts of the British couple Percy and Florence Arrowsmith who were the longest married couple alive until he recently died. They were married 80 plus years and featured in a GUARDIAN article and the infamous Guiness Book of World Records .... What is so juicy fascinating is the number of hard saturn contacts (like moon oppose saturn being one and I believe uranus conjunct saturn being another). Both have Leo Moon (he PISCES sun, her Scorpio Sun) and they were cute, still holding hands and smooching at the end.

posted March 23, 2007 12:43 PM            

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Sun in Libra
Moon in Cancer
Jupiter in Cancer
Venus in Virgo
Mars in Cancer
Ascendant in Cancer