posted April 10, 2007 08:47 AM              

I broke up with my aquarian girlfriend last december because she was just so detached and aloof and i was falling in love with her and getting hurt so i cut all contact, very upset about it all but just as i'm finally getting over it, her friend gets me to design her wedding invitations. Her friend was my boss at my old job so we are friends still. ANYWAY just as i organise to meet her in the city for a coffee and to discuss the designs, i get a message out of the blue from my ex asking to call her regarding the wedding stuff. I decide to call her back.

I call her and she asks for my permission to goto coffee with her friend because she wants a second opinion, i pause for a long time and say "don't you think that will be a bit awkward?". She says she is really sick and probably won't be able to make it anyway. Then after about 20 mins of just chit chat that i knew i shoulden't of let happen, we both say goodbye. THEN i get a message from her saying "thanks for the chat, missed you very much. Can we please catch up some other time". I write back "Thats ok, missed you too. only reason i'm not your friend is because i'll always have strong feelings for you and risk getting attached and hurt again."

Then no reply. Then the next day "hey how did you with the invites, did she like the designs?, did you want to catch up next week sometime?"

I'm such an idiot, i wrote back and organised to meet her for dinner. It's so screwed, i have no idea why i did this.

THEN 2 weeks before all this happened i met a girl at a friends 21st and hooked up with her, she's a capricorn and we just talked the WHOLE night, we clicked straight away. I've seen her twice since then and i can tell she is getting close to me. But it's almost as if we get along TOO well, like there is no chase whatsoever. Even though i've craved a nice stable and secure relationship, it seems to me that i just need to be in one that isn't working!!!

There is something seriously wrong with me!
This girl i've been seeing says she is capricorn with gemini rising and i can see that in her because she is very talkative. She's also very sexual too, sometimes i feel smothered? I don't know.

Can someone look at my chart and see what the hell i should do/how to handle this.

Sun Taurus 28°08'03 in house 8direct
Moon Taurus 20°07'56 in house 8 direct
Mercury Taurus 8°04'01 in house 7 direct
Venus Aries 15°20'23 in house 7 direct
Mars Gemini 15°40'28 in house 9 direct
Jupiter Aquarius 16°31'24 in house 5 direct
Saturn Scorpio 24°34'30 in house 2retrograde
Uranus Sagittarius 16°44'14 in house 3 retrograde
Neptune Capricorn 3°07'32 in house 4 retrograde
Pluto Scorpio 2°40'03 in house 1 retrograde
True Node Taurus 18°14'19 in house 8 retrograde

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Ascendant Libra 3°57'25
2nd House Scorpio 10°34'07
3rd House Sagittarius 8°31'59
Imum Coeli Capricorn 2°34'53
5th House Capricorn 26°58'43
6th House Aquarius 26°01'35
Descendant Aries 3°57'25
8th House Taurus 10°34'07
9th House Gemini 8°31'59
Medium Coeli Cancer 2°34'53
11th House Cancer 26°58'43
12th House Leo 26°01'35

Sun Opposition Saturn 3°34
Sun Trine Ascendant 5°49
Moon Square Jupiter 3°37
Moon Opposition Saturn 4°27
Mercury Trine Neptune 4°56
Mercury Opposition Pluto 5°24
Venus Sextile Mars 0°20
Venus Sextile Jupiter 1°11
Venus Trine Uranus 1°24
Mars Trine Jupiter 0°51
Mars Opposition Uranus 1°04
Jupiter Sextile Uranus 0°13
Neptune Sextile Pluto 0°27
Neptune Square Ascendant 0°50

posted April 10, 2007 09:05 AM              

You asked!

posted April 10, 2007 09:07 AM              

I bet your ex really wants to be friends with you, but being an aqua has no idea that you are still potentially attracted to her in a harmful way.

I recently was in touch with an ex (from TEN years ago) and could not stop myself from crying on the phone...totally ridiculous.

I suggest hanging out with the cap a little more, see what happens......It's a POSITIVE to have someone who is into you.....and it's a NEGATIVE to be obsessing about people who are UNAVAILABLE. Sounds easy I know....

posted April 10, 2007 09:14 AM              

I'm going to tell my ex i can't be friends with her because of how ridiculous my feels are still for her.

posted April 10, 2007 09:15 AM              

I'm going to tell my ex i can't be friends with her because of how ridiculous my feels are still for her.

posted April 10, 2007 10:06 AM            

My guess is that even though the Cap is lovely, the vibe between you just doesn't feel exactly right--and that really might not be about astrology, or about something being wrong with how you conduct your relationships. Definitely give yourself time to get to know the Cap and see how you feel when you're with her...without putting pressure on either of you to instantly create a deep "relationship" that has the same kind of hold on you as your ex did.

A "nice, stable, secure" relationship is what happens when two people who are really, really into each other take a lot of time to really get to know each other, usually over years. To get there, you have to see how things unfold with people.

But if it's early on in spending time with someone and you're already feeling, "this isn't quite right...I don't quite feel inspired and joyful and thrilled and safe and excited", that's SO fine.

Based on your chart (double Taurus!) you definitely do want a secure, reliable, un-risky relationship...and then there's Libra rising, adding a bunch of idealism about it. But relationships aren't something that can be done once and perfectly, and then, lo and behold, there you are in something solid. They're a DAILY adventure!

posted April 10, 2007 10:35 AM            

How long did you date your ex? Honestly, experience has taught me that time is absolutely the best healer. You should take the SAME amount of time that you were with your ex, to be alone, regroup, reflect, and heal. Jumping into something with this Cap is probably not the right thing for you to do, especially since it is obvious that you still have feelings for the Aqua. You may end up hurting someone unintentionally.

posted April 10, 2007 03:23 PM            

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Sun in Libra
Moon in Cancer
Jupiter in Cancer
Venus in Virgo
Mars in Cancer
Ascendant in Cancer