posted April 27, 2007 11:55 PM            

I may want out, but it's not because I have a problem with the other person.. It's just that I don't feel comfortable anymore or there's something in me that says 'i don't want this anymore'.. It's not them at all, or anything they’ve done.

Then I'd feel like the fakest person in the world if I actually said *this* to someone, since it's so commercialised.. but this is how I feel.. "it's not him.. it's me"

Do you (other Aries people or Aries influenced) find that sometimes you just feel like moving on, even though you may like the person.. and nothing bad happened between you.. but you're just off to somewhere else.. Do you know what I mean?

Maybe I’m scared of something serious these days.. I find relationships burn me out.. my Mars is in the 7th.. When I’m dating someone or we’re just friends.. I feel energized by them.. when I’m in a relationship it’s a different feeling.. I got out of a fairly long relationship (my 1st one and probably not long by some people’s standards.. but for me, at this age, it was long) - late last year, and I’m still mates with him. I liked it.. but in hindsight, looking back I was sooooooooooooo drained by it.. I just don’t think I can do it again. I don’t want to hurt anyone but there’s something in me that says ‘I can’t do this again’.. not for a very long time..

posted April 28, 2007 12:40 AM              

It truely is an Aries thing I believe.
I have an Aries ascendant and have quite often found myself in this situation. It seems a bit like bordom at the time. In retrospect it seems that spiritual growth was needed and could'nt proceed with this person in my space.

Please don't worry about the cliché, use the phrase if it fits best.

Don't sacrifice your growth for someone elses happiness.- Ultimately your unhappiness will prevail and ruin the relationship anyways.

Be considerate and polite. Be true to yourself and firm, then move on as was meant to be.

posted April 28, 2007 03:19 AM              

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So... go with your gut feeling. Trust your instincts. If the new guy wants more than you can offer at this time, don't give in just to please him. Stay true to yourself and your needs. Talk to him, tell him you need more time (it is pretty characteristic for an Aries, after giving this lecture, to fall in love with the guy and become the pursuer - maybe this is what bothers you? That he's chasing you and not the other way around?). Don't get into something you don't quite feel ready for.
And don't worry, you will love again

posted April 28, 2007 10:43 AM              

yes, i do move on , intentionally at times .
but its them as well as me , not me all the time .
having said this , this is something that hasa become more pronounced in the recent yrs. i dont rememeber if it wasa so earlier too .

posted April 28, 2007 11:19 AM              

But I do kind of understand.

posted April 29, 2007 07:38 AM            

Thanks for all the replies. It isn't that he's boring or anything like that and I *do* like him. I just didn't want a relationship. I think he's taking it the wrong way. I'm not sure, he just left. I went to the bathroom and he left in the meantime

posted April 29, 2007 07:56 AM              

better send a message or email as sweet as possible..

wait atleast 24-48 hrs before calling... but send the written message now..

posted April 29, 2007 08:26 AM              

send a kiss and sincere I am sorry... come to me, I miss you in my arms..

sags have a problem, they see a problem from both ends.. their and their partners as well..

posted April 29, 2007 01:04 PM              

Slayer,
I'm sorry you had to go through such painful times. Break-ups are never easy . But there's a new man in your life, if I understood correctly? Good luck, I hope he'll make you happy!

posted April 30, 2007 05:51 AM              

Take care, Slayer! Best of wishes to you!