posted June 21, 2007 11:56 AM              

I have this pisces guy that keeps reappearing just when I think he is gone -

how do you look at a chart to see why?

I have prayed to keep certain people out of my life that will be bad for me - I'm presuming my prayers haven't been answered or he is supposed to be there

Now he says he wants to cook me dinner - not sure if that's a good idea with Mercury in retrograde

posted June 21, 2007 05:26 PM              

Don't answer his calls. Don't see him. Eventually, he'll get the hint. If he doesn't, tell him you don't want anything to do with him. If he doesn't comply, get a restraining order.

posted June 21, 2007 06:38 PM            

People from the past often "come back" when Mercury is Retrograding... in Horary Astrology the Rx Mercury can bring back lost items, in the transits, Mercury Rx often brings back "unfinished business". So, check to see when the person usualy reappears, and how often it happens under the Rx Mercury.

Blessings...

A

posted June 22, 2007 02:03 PM              

Samsara - I did say this to him and he was highly offened - I don't want to hurt the guy I just wish he was more dependable and consistant - sometimes he disappears for 2 weeks without a word - then all of a sudden he needs to be in constant contact -

Aselzion - most times I hear from him once or twice a week , but like I said above sometimes he disappears for 2 weeks so I think he's gone

Mama Mia - Oh boy - that doesn't sound like fun

I didn't mean I prayed for him to be out, just people I don't think would be good for me -

thanks everyone

posted June 22, 2007 07:10 PM              

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I don't necessarilly want him out

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Bingo! So, he won't be. No need to pray for things you don't really want to come to fruition, because your prayers won't be answered if you don't do your part. God helps those who help themselves.

You should tell him you want him to be more dependable and see if that helps.

posted June 23, 2007 12:20 AM            

Say you were close friends but it was her personality to not keep in touch consistently.. would you feel as though - if she didn't call for it a week and then wanted to be "in constant contact".. would this bother you?

I know for instance with my double Gemini friend who I've been friends with for ages.. We don't keep in touch regularly.. I can go a couple of weeks without seeing her if we're both busy or whatever.. but we know we are friends.

In the same way a Sag guy (not the one I'm dating) who I have known since high school.. I go months without seeing him but then we always pick up again where we left off and I know we'll always be friends regardless..

Or my Pisces best friend.. if I didn't see her for a while or she didn't call and I didn't either.. who cares? We can call a week later and go out then.

Mutable signs are more likely to drift in and out - both in friendships and relationships.. but they actually have very long lasting friendships - in my experience.

Why is this bothering you so much.. Is it lack of trust in him? Look at it this way, if he keeps coming back - he obviously cares about you.. If my double Gemini friend didn't like me - I bet she wouldn't call a week later - or two weeks later - or at all for that matter.. neither would the Sag guy - neither would my best friend.

There is a difference between someone being the way they are – because that is their personality – and someone playing games. Has he ever given you any reason to believe he is acting a certain way intentionally to annoy you?

posted June 23, 2007 12:25 AM            

If you were happy and everything was fine - I don't see why you would mind him drifting in and out.. Do you particularly need him for something every single week? Is the plumbing not working? or maybe he needs to fix the shower?? lol

posted June 23, 2007 12:59 AM              

He sounds shady from what she's said. And she knows it on an instinctual level, but she doesn't want to believe it's true.

posted June 23, 2007 01:16 AM            

Just keep it light while you feel you don't trust him.. don't get physical and keep it at friend level - or kiss or whatever - but obviously don't have sex with someone you don't trust..

That doesn't mean you can't stay in touch with him and talk when he calls.. or have a crush on him like he has a crush on you – It doesn't have to be the most serious thing in the world.

What I don't understand is .. would your life be any different if he wasn't in it at all? Is there a reason you don’t want him there… like would it somehow improve your life experience to say : "Stop keeping in touch Mr Pisces." If you think that it would make your life better for him to never keep in touch again – then by all means..

What I'm saying is whether he drifts in and out.. how does it affect you and *why*.. He can drift in and out all he likes.. if he has done nothing wrong - why not be mates with him?

Whatever you could do without him in you life.. you can also do with him drifting in and out of your life.. This really shouldn’t affect you in any way – unless you have expectations about how a guy should be making your life better – which he isn't living up to – and that you cannot let go off..

posted June 23, 2007 01:56 AM              

Now, if she is insecure by nature, then maybe he hasn't hurt her before. Or she just likes him and is afraid of being hurt.

I feel there is a romantic undertone, because she wouldn't care so much otherwise. She would also be able to be firm with him and keep him out of her life. Since she prayed that "People that were 'bad' for her would stay away," I put two and two together and inferred that she thinks he's bad for her.

Maybe I'm wrong, but from everything she's said, she is uncomfortable with him in her life, yet can't stay away from him. That equals stronger feelings than friendship to me.

PS- What guy wants to cook you dinner if they don't like you romantically? And what woman, if they don't like the guy romantically has angst over it?

posted June 23, 2007 07:23 AM            

Don't box yourself into one guy – before you are in a relationship with him.. It's not a good idea in my opinion. But no reason to diss him either.. Like you said , he has done nothing wrong yet.. Study him a while longer.. Take it from my Cap Mars.. You might trust him eventually..

posted June 23, 2007 01:53 PM              

But ultimately it's SoConfused choice.

I do think she should tell him she wants to see him more regularly, since it seems that's what she wants.

posted June 24, 2007 03:13 AM            

I think you should make a list of what you want in life - to build that for yourself.. and stop worrying about what ill willed people have to say. Some people will love you - some will hate you - some have mental problems and they create dramas.. Trust me when I say this - their drama can't touch you - unless you let it happen. You need boundaries.. and you need to think about life more so in terms of "you" and what "you want" and "what you need" not what "they want" or "what they think".

Samsara, please don't say victimizing things to yourself such as: "made a fool of me", "stole my privacy", "I'm a broken person" etc.. I'm sure there are nicer things you could say to yourself about your personality and where you are in life - rather than defining yourself in accordance to what some - so and so - had to say..

posted June 25, 2007 11:02 AM              

yeah - I pretty much feel the same about anyone - male or female

I don't think he's doing it to intentionally annoy me - but he makes a plan to work with me on some graphics and then has to cancel last minute - so finally I got fed up with it and told him he was on his own - now I haven't been making the effort - I leave it up to him, but since I hadn't heard from him - I figured he didn't need my help anymore.

Well, originally, it statred out as romantic , but I don't trust him. I knew him many years ago becuase he dated my friends co-worker and I have seen him ot once in a while over the years. I remebered why he and that girl broke up, which is why I don't trust him. Yes, I know people change but I'm not sure he has changed that much and I don't need that kind of aggravation in my life.

I've basically told him so, but he keeps contacting me - hence why I wanted to know if you could tell from a chart why this is happening.

posted June 25, 2007 01:24 PM            

I just want to say one thing. I think I misunderstood the spirit of your post.Please forgive me if I came on too strong. With a gentle intent I say,"sorry".

posted June 25, 2007 11:51 PM              

I'm a woman. Did you think I was a guy? Online,almost everyone thinks I'm a male.

Now that you've given more detail the whole thing makes so much more sense. You don't trust him because of past behaviour and you can tell he hasn't changed.

I don't know what the synastry would be, because I don't do synastries, but it sounds to me like he can't, or won't, respect your boundaries. If you have his natal info, could check that for you.

posted June 26, 2007 06:21 AM              

I don't know what time he was born - I'm going to try and find out - I know that would help

Thanks