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Topic: Do sagittarius men EVER commit?
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GrlyGirl20
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posted June 24, 2007 05:24 AM
  
Hey I am talking to a double sagittarius male (the same one from some months ago) and he contacted me out of the blue. We hadn't spoken in four months, now he contacts me about every week to two weeks...when before he used to not do that...and also he randomly told me he missed me. If any of you can remember he told me he never wanted to speak to me again, but he still kept my phone number and aim sn. I just want to know why all of a sudden would there be this interest in me. And is it for sex...before he NEVER said that he missed me or anything sweet to be honest with you. In fact he treated me like crap. Now he seems really different. Is his venus in scorpio and mars in pisces missing me or what? I'm confused because this just seems to not be a side of him I've seen before. I know for a fact he wants to have sex with me, but why would he go this way...as he has never done anything like this before, nor mention anything about no strings attached like before. Anyway can and do sag males EVER commit? And what can I do to facilitate the process? Or find out if he cares for me? He knows I'm a very emotional person, I just don't understand why he would want the risk of me falling for him again, without him thinking of the consequences (he does have a sun/moon conjunction to saturn). His placements:
DOB December 1, 1986 born in Baltimore, MD at 7:30 PM My Placements:
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aquaspryt69
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posted June 24, 2007 06:20 AM
I don't know if this counts or not. I was with a Sag for 8 yrs. We were drinking buddies. I couldn't have picked a more fun sign to get drunk with!  Was he faithful? I was never given any indication otherwise. Was he committed? If he wasn't then he fooled my dumb ass. IP: Logged |
yourfriendinspirit
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posted June 24, 2007 07:14 AM
GrlyGirl20
Please Read what you wrote again...
(This time, only the words in BOLD) quote:
Hey I am talking to a double sagittarius male (the same one from some months ago) and he contacted me out of the blue. We hadn't spoken in four months, now he contacts me about every week to two weeks...when before he used to not do that...and also he randomly told me he missed me.
If any of you can remember he told me he never wanted to speak to me again, but he still kept my phone number and aim sn. I just want to know why all of a sudden would there be this interest in me. And is it for sex...before he NEVER said that he missed me or anything sweet to be honest with you. In fact he treated me like crap. Now he seems really different. Is his venus in scorpio and mars in pisces missing me or what? I'm confused because this just seems to not be a side of him I've seen before. I know for a fact he wants to have sex with me, but why would he go this way...as he has never done anything like this before, nor mention anything about no strings attached like before.
Anyway can and do sag males EVER commit? And what can I do to facilitate the process? Or find out if he cares for me? He knows I'm a very emotional person, I just don't understand why he would want the risk of me falling for him again, without him thinking of the consequences (he does have a sun/moon conjunction to saturn).
Now let's answer your question:
YES!
He's calling you after his initial fear of commitment with you. He's thought it over and he does know what you're all about. To facilitate the process, stay happy-go-lucky, do not get all analytical and emotional, just go with the flow...
VERY important:
Do keep yourself busy with other interests and people. Do not revolve your world around him. This only makes you seem like a floor mat and he does not find this attractive, nor interesting. Before he knows it he'll be under your spell and craving you 24/7. Do not give in, keep yourself busy, busy, busy, until there's total undeniable commitment on his part. p.s. Enjoy the ride  Sendin' love your way,
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jane
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posted June 24, 2007 08:47 AM
Although exceptions always exist, I think it's a safe bet that if a guy is 20 years old, he wants sex. So don't let the fact that he's sexually attracted to you make you think that his feelings don't go deeper than that.I think yfis gave excellent advice on relating to a Sag. It would work on the female Sags too, if I'm an accurate representation. I hope Spry's post reassured you. Sag males do have a rep for being players, but I think Sag values honesty too much to cheat. He'll see other people if you have an open relationship, but if it's committed I think he's no more likely to cheat than any other sign. And she's completely right--Sags make the best drinking buddies. Especially when someone else is paying.  Have fun. IP: Logged |
aquaspryt69
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posted June 24, 2007 10:12 AM
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-Sags make the best drinking buddies. Especially when someone else is paying.
 That is so true!! My Sag was so good he could get the bartender to pay for his drinks and give him a tip! That is no lie. He was wild and a lot of fun. Definitely sit down, buckle up, and hang on! 
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Highly_Inflammable
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posted June 24, 2007 12:58 PM
Sags think more in depth before committing with every angle, more than a dozen pack of Virgo.... and still end f*cking it up one way or other....
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neptune5
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posted June 24, 2007 01:06 PM
i thought i'd include my opinion since i have sun conj. venus in sag, as well as mercury in sagittarius. I think that when it comes to commitment, it depends on the person, and her values, especially their philosophical outlook on life.IP: Logged |
GrlyGirl20
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posted June 24, 2007 01:09 PM
Yeah you're right...I know he HATES cheaters as he was cheated on by his ex from a year ago...that ex actually ended up pregnant after she lied to him and told him she was taking birth control pills. He had to drive back to his home state and go with her to and get an abortion (which he was against) and it was a lot of drama...so when he and I met all of his ex drama had happned only five months prior. I know that he is VERY honest, as he would have said that if he just wanted no strings attached sex that would have said it...as he had said it in the past (we've known each other for about a year now). And he knew how much I liked him, and how our aggreement on no emotions didn't work for me (I AM a cancer afterall). Anyway I haven't seen him in quite some time (since December), and I was just unsure where all the sudden interest is in me...in fact he is messaging me from Maryland and I'm in South Carolina (we go to school in SC, and he had been away last semester on an internship in another city close to school, when he told me he was done with me which happned in Feb). He has told me he misses me, that he wishes I were there, he wants to see me, and even told me to dream about him. I'm just perplexed...I guess I feel that's a bit of a stretch for someone only wanting sex from me, I don't know how to act to be honest, as I have never seen this side of him like I said. In fact my cap moon is a bit cautious if he actually IS being honest and really missing me...I asked him to not say anything he didn't mean, and he said he was certain he missed me. To be honest I'm wondering if he questions if I'm over him or not...which I don't even know if I am. I thought I was because I was dating someone up until a couple of weeks ago...and randomly I started thinking about him, and the next night he out of the blue instant messaged me. Could that venus and mercury in scorpio, mars in pisces, and sun/moon saturn conjunction be actually showing he isn't shallow afterall...and wants more than just sex? IP: Logged |
Azalaksh
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posted June 24, 2007 01:56 PM
Yes. They do. Try them after Saturn Return.  I find it kind of strange to even speculate that 1/12th of the men in the world, by virtue of being born in November/December, cannot commit..... My dad was Sag Sun and Moon. Married 48 years to my mother. IP: Logged |
SagSun
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posted June 24, 2007 02:00 PM
Being heavily influenced by Sagittarius myself (Sun, Mercury, Jupiter, Uranus and Neptune in Sagittarius) I can assure you that Sagittarians CAN commit. Of course every person is different, but I am a very faithful person and would NEVER cheat on someone. However, I take quite some time to make up my mind. I think things through over and over and over again. I value my personal freedom and before I give it up to be with someone, I want to be 100% sure that I am making the right decision. But once I have made up my mind I am commited 100%. Also, Sags are big on honesty ... we usually don't lie. Hope this helps a little!!! Good luck with your guy!!! IP: Logged |
Highly_Inflammable
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posted June 24, 2007 03:15 PM
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However, I take quite some time to make up my mind. I think things through over and over and over again. I value my personal freedom and before I give it up to be with someone, I want to be 100% sure that I am making the right decision. But once I have made up my mind I am commited 100%. Also, Sags are big on honesty ... we usually don't lie.
tht is 100% true for my self...
as much as a sag is prone to give into impulses, those playful gestures... they are no real indicator of 'committing'... I need to look, think, evaluate, re-evaluate to be sure.. that it will work now and ever.. once a sag committs, (s)he gives 150% to make it work, is ready to change and adapt.. we put all efforts in it and try to improve if it is going down.... getting out of a committment is most difficult thing atleast for me.... perhaps that is the reason I wanna be extra cautious when deciding for it. IP: Logged |
Jupiter
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posted June 24, 2007 06:16 PM
Of course Sag men can commit- you can't generalize a sign. Not all Libra Women are into fashion and art- not all Gemini Individuals are two faced- and certainly not all Sag men can not commit. I've studied astrology for a long time,and I believe in astrology. But there is also a whole personality that has nothing to do with astrology. What I'm trying to say is everyone is different- you can't define a person by their Astrology sign.
I hope I'm not being rude it's just that I used to be the same way, and then I realized I was being silly.
My suggestion is to look at this person based on the individual he is and forget his Sun sign.IP: Logged |
BlueTopaz124
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posted June 24, 2007 06:16 PM
I have FOUR planets/placements in Sag: Sun, Asc, Mars & Jupiter - I am a very loyal person, one at a time, thank you very much.Would have to agree, that the sun sign does not determine whether a person cheats or not. IP: Logged |
hippichick
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posted June 24, 2007 07:26 PM
I played flirty games with a Saggie man co-worker for a few months, then gave up...Only when I totally blew him off, detached and became disinterested did he come after me... In spades... Now he plans to cook dinner for me later this week... Hunters they are, mounted steeds with built in arrows to shoot at the object of their interest..roaming the hills and vales...free~~~ IP: Logged |
alanabelle86
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posted June 24, 2007 08:52 PM
Y...E...S
I'm with a Sag myself (Sag Sun, Mercury, Venus, Saturn, and Uranus...with Moon conj Jupiter). It's been about 3 years...he's the most faithful person I've ever met. He can't *not* commit. I used to find myself, a Scorpio, running away from his clutches
Anyone can commit with the right amount of understanding
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Seeing Stars 7.21
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posted June 24, 2007 09:34 PM
My closest Cousin is a Sag and I have only seen him in two comitted long term relationships.. and I think he is still with the second as far as im concerned he only aims for long term relationships.. it all depends on the man..IP: Logged |
GrlyGirl20
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posted June 25, 2007 02:17 AM
I didn't mean to sound like I was generalzing, when I had made posts in the past about him everyone who replied would say yeah he's a sag...so that's why he won't commit. I honestly think that he likes relationships but he was burned in his first one and he was cautious of getting hurt again. Especially when he and I met things had just ended with his ex 5 months prior. IP: Logged |
CoralFrequency
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posted June 25, 2007 02:26 AM
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Do Sagittarius men EVER commit?
Yes. IP: Logged |
GrlyGirl20
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posted June 25, 2007 02:55 AM
So now that I know he can commit...what should I do to help the process...I don't know whether his venus in scorpio would be more involved in that or what? I don't even know how much space to give him...so far he contacts me about once a week to two weeks and then in the meantime I contact him...is that enough. Plus I would prefer phone calls over instant messages so how do I suggest that too him.**Thanks for all the help, I'm realizing that I actually am almost 22 years old and even though I have had many bf's I'm still clueless as to how to act with someone I really like or am interested in.** IP: Logged |
hippichick
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posted June 25, 2007 10:26 AM
GGLet HIM chase YOU!!! I learned this....with my Saggie friend! Men are hunters period!! Goes way back to the beginnings of huamns in evolution, and the Sag man is the hunter elite!!!!! They are huge flirts! Mr friend and I have engaged in some downright sexual flirting. I told him once that I would have bet that I scare the hell out of him!!! He replied no...he LIKED it!!! It gives him the drive to continue to engage me, and that is almost exactly what he told me! I remember once while at work, I was on the phone with an old flame and there was flirting going on with my old friend. The Sag was sitting next to me and I could tell he became very nervous and I could almost see the wheels turning in his head as to what to do to re-engage me. They are hugely free!!! Let him be free, cause he is going to do that anyway, let him hunt you and dodge the arrows for awhile, his wandering spirit could become bored if his prize is caught too soon. BLessings and good luck!! IP: Logged |
GrlyGirl20
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posted June 25, 2007 10:04 PM
Hey hippi thanks for the advice...does the whole don't let him catch you thing apply to that venus and mars of his. I would think that the mars in pisces would be less inclined to chase someone and more inclined to hint at it. And what about the venus in scorpio...i guess I'm trying to see what parts I can work with because I am not a hard to get person, I'm either all the way in or not and if I'm in you know of my interest (I blame my mars in 1st).IP: Logged |
hippichick
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posted June 25, 2007 10:32 PM
Still he is a man, a Sag man.Sun signs are always the first and foremost important, from what I have witnessed... My friend has a Mars in Scorpio and still likes to be the one to come after me. I have a dear friend, an Aqua male who has Venus and Mars in Pisces and while he is sweet and caring, soft and cuddly he is a man first and enjoys to pursue... I love what Cesar Milan says about dogs and we can apply to humans as well..."Animal first, breed second, name third..." Men first, sun sign second, other placements third. Look at yourself, for instance. Study how Venus and Mars act in your life, I will bet your sun is truely who you are. IP: Logged |
hippichick
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posted June 25, 2007 10:32 PM
ps::: it is worth a try!!!IP: Logged |
GrlyGirl20
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posted June 26, 2007 10:13 PM
I just want to know if I'm more than just sex...you know. I guess I don't understand why all of a sudden he feels the need to contact me. Like I honestly can't understand if I'm only sex and no strings attached hooking up...which he hasn't alluded too yet. However I just don't understand that if I'm only in theory sex...why would he want some girl who's very emotional and gets attached when when doing anything physical so why on EARTH would a guy want to deal with an over emotional girl they don't care about? IP: Logged |
BlueRoamer
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posted June 26, 2007 10:39 PM
I've been told I think too much.Have other saggies been told this? IP: Logged |
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