posted June 27, 2007 08:01 AM              

I had a really good long chat lastnight with my best friend, he's a cancer who recently broke up with his girlfriend of 1 year. He remembers how unhappy i was last time with my current girlfriend and ended up telling me to end it before i get really hurt. We kept chatting and kind of got onto the topic of why i actually like her.

It was interesting because i coulden't directly answer the question. He told me that i deserve the best and to be happy, he told me that i am what girls really look for in a guy and he made me realise that my girlfriend dosen't really make me feel the way i need to feel to be happy.

He then brought up the fact that during my time apart from her (january to april this year) and how we were at a party and a beautiful girl arrived and walked straight up to me and we hooked up that night. Then a week later i saw her again and she was all lovey dovey and i lost interest. THEN he reminded me that i hooked up with another really hot girl 3 weeks later and the same thing happened, we hanged out for a week and a bit but then i started getting messages like "hey pumpkin, etc etc" and i lost interest.

He then told me "you love the chase don't you" and i reliased that it was the thing that attracts me so much to my current girlfriend! I never felt as if i conquered her, i've told her i love her and i get nothing but a hand squeeze back. As much as that makes me sad i've realised that she might not be ready to say it yet or she might be feeling it but too shy to say it back. My friend said that is ******** and i should move on if she dosen't love me because i deserve the best.

I'm so afraid that i'll keep just wanting the chase. It's the main thing that attracts me to her. I've got it all sussed now. VENUS IN ARIES (in the 7th house) is DESTROYING ME! I could of been in a perfect loving relationship with either of those 2 girls but because i didn't feel the chase i lost interest. But when i do get sick of chasing i get hurt and sad because i'm not feeling the right affection i need.

I have a see-saw chart, major inner conflict.
I have a feeling this problem won't go away. The horrible truth is that i need the chase to stay interested in someone but it just hurts me in the long run.

What do i do? Does anyone else have strong taurus with venus aries? I hear it's the worst placement for venus. I'm doomed! I don't want to keep chasing her and just wanting to conquer her finally to hear the "L" word.

posted June 27, 2007 10:01 AM            

I got this lil snipet from Bob Marks..

Venus in Aries: activates the expression of affection. Liz Taylor has this placement (and her Venus sits close to Uranus, planet of sudden, unexpected change; what a surprise). So did Marilyn Monroe and Jean Harlow. Julian Armistead once gave a lecture on Liz Taylor’s horoscope. He pointed out that Venus in Aries people need constant excitement in relationships. When things finally slow down and get comfortable, they start looking elsewhere.

posted June 27, 2007 07:45 PM            

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I'm so afraid that i'll keep just wanting the chase.

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I'm glad your friend provided you that "ah-HA!" moment, Tauro -- so you could see your actions clearly

posted June 28, 2007 01:59 PM            

In my case, I also have Venus in Aries.. but I think that people are always changing and improving, so they always have some sides that I find interesting lol.. and it takes so long time to actually truly know a person.. yet, we can never really know a person totally.. ^_^
Although my attention can wander around a lot, actually I prefer stability lol..

posted July 25, 2007 07:25 PM            

i have venus in aqua too.

i like the chase better than the kill!

story. of. my. life.

i go STRAIGHT for the a**holes. my friends never wanna meet the guys i date b/c the guys are always jerks.

admittedly, i just like the challenge and the win.

i also, assume that most "nice" guys are hiding their d*** qualities, so i gravitate towards the ones that just put it out there. no surprises when i realize he is just out for sex.... again, a protection thing.

aqua makes me crazy

posted July 25, 2007 08:47 PM              

It's wonderful that you were able to figure that out with your friend's help.

Now you get to ask yourself 1 more question:

If your current girlfriend gave you the right balance of chasing/being caught would she make you happy with her behaviour and how she treats you????

I think the chase part can be fun as well as the catching/being caught part. And you can find someone that will make you chase and engage you in a fun and appealing manner WITHOUT destroying your trust or relationship. She can treat you like gold when she allows herself to be caught and give you enough space to remind you why you wanted to catch her in the first place.

If this girl does it for you, then it's all good. But from what you've shared on here, she doesn't treat you with respect or affection.

But obviously, it's all up to you.