posted July 23, 2007 11:49 AM              

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I don't know what it is but lately my guy has been showing me either jealousy or some sort of insecurity. So recently, a certain Gemini celeb has been my eye-candy(not serious!) and he's been acting really weird. & me, super Aries think nothing of it. I was wondering if this would make a Virgo guy jealous or more insecure-even though I reassure him that he is the perfect guy for me I just wish he wouldn't take things so seriously.

...also he's been taking his frustrations with his Scorpio and Libra friends out on me too! I'm tired of this! what the hell can I do?

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posted July 23, 2007 12:17 PM              

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im a Virgo girl and i dont know if this applies also to guys hihiih

But im insecure for nature and sometimes i also get jeaulous because of that same insecurity.
its not in a extreme way or bad behaviour - its just sadness sometimes - for example:he goes on the street and women are always looking and tryin to get his attention - or he says that actress is just amazing - i know that he loves me but i secretly think "am i more beautiful to him then them?"
Stuff like that - nothing serious but its normal in Virgos i think

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posted July 23, 2007 12:23 PM              

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awh thank you. I know that Aries can get worse, but he's done that to me before with Lindsay Lohan. I get mad, but I figure he wouldn't be with me if he didn't think I wasn't attractive-I know that much about a Virgo.

p.s.yay Portugal! I have a couple friends in the Azores right now.

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posted July 23, 2007 04:11 PM            

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Yep! My husband can be very jealous and Insecure. Me being a Cancer you would think that I'd have it worse.. but I don't. Anyway... I have to be careful with him.

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posted July 23, 2007 05:35 PM              

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HURRAY hihihih

I Love my country also!
I hope your friends come back from Açores with great stories,especially about its language ( its hard to cath up with their accent, even for me that im portuguese )

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posted July 24, 2007 12:29 AM              

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hey! I put azores because I couldn't find that C looking thingy...most of my Portuguese friends come from the island, or have family there. Most of my friends are Portuguese though. I'm always going to functions at their church/halls. Love you're guys' culture!

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posted July 24, 2007 02:25 AM            

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Many Virgos I know get more insecure than jealous. It's almost as if they LOOK for reasons to be insecure. They think things like, "Why does s/he want me? What does s/he see in me?" Usually these insecurities are cray-zee and the Virgo is all gorgeous and great.

It doesn't always work that well to reassure them directly and verbally ("you're beautiful, you're my favorite", although it can't hurt), but it always seems to work to make them feel needed. And to hug them.

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posted July 24, 2007 03:12 AM            

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I was in a relationship for 2 years with a Virgo and I agree that it's insecurity that causes the jealous behavior. (I've also had long-term relationships with a Scorpio and a Taurus and their jealousy stemmed more from a basic possessiveness, although of course everyone gets insecure from time to time.)

I agree with Lucia that making a Virgo feel needed is the most effective way to treat his insecurity. Virgo is the sign of service after all. If you're too good at entertaining yourself and giving your attention to other things, he'll doubt whether you need him too. So maybe treat your bf like eye candy for a while, just to let him know that no one else does it for you the way he does. He'd be flattered to be your new crush. It'll lift his spirits and maybe then he won't be so down about his problems with his friends and time with you will take his problems with them off his mind.

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posted July 24, 2007 12:56 PM            

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Lucia--totally agree with you after two years with my Virgo he still randomly asks me, "Babes, do you think I'm good looking" or "What do you think about our sex?" It's continual, the reassurance and stroking of his ego. I don't mind, because in turn he tells me what he likes, wants more of and DEFINITELY lets me know what he doesn't like...But I'd also like to say to get past his super jealous/insecure stage(the 1st year was tough) I practically had to mother him.Pry cause his Moon is Cancer? IDK I was beginning to sound like one of those self-help tape cassettes you listen while you sleep. LOL. Hope that helps.

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posted July 24, 2007 01:54 PM              

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for some reason... Virgos are very insecure in the core.... no matter how good looking they are, how successful, they somehow feel they are not really UP there..

... something to do with their perfectionist streak.. they set very hard standards for themselves.

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posted July 24, 2007 02:49 PM              

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Thanks guys. I had a talk with him last night, for a while he didn't want to talk about it and just was quiet. Cricket chirping quiet. So he told me about what was bothering him...and it was really deep, deeper than anything he's ever told me. He tells me he is afraid we're going to lose our spark and that he can't imagine his self with me because of the way he feels about himself...like his insecurities pull him away from having a secure relationship with me (we've been off and on [from his word] for almost 3 years)...
So bottom line, this was really not even jealousy. He's deep when he wants to be.

He has a Cancer ascendant & Libra moon,
and I was wondering for his sake, if anyone could take a look at his chart and see if there is any sign of depression to come or any other obstacles?

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posted July 24, 2007 09:36 PM              

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The questions Virgos ask might seem like insecurity...however, at least from my point of view, it is more like making sure that I'm on the right track. There are people who don't voice their complaints, so I go out of my way to make sure everything is fine, that I have not accidentally hurt someone or was not able to fulfill their expectations. I think the little things that make up psychology is what drives virgos to do the things they do. Others are not as sensitive to the details that make up human nature, and as you know, virgos are all about the details. I sometimes don't do anything or say anything, though I know i should, b/c I fear that I do something wrong accidentally and ppl take it the wrong way. Virgos also hate being lost, so plenty of assurances help them know where they stand every step of the way. You know when you want to fix a crooked picture on the wall, you'd say either go up or go down until you get the exact position....Virgos are all about that. Just my opinion...

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posted July 25, 2007 01:33 AM              

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So this is his chart...what do you guys see?
Anything that sticks out?

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posted July 25, 2007 07:35 AM              

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Mars446,

That is my description exactly!

Many times i really dont say or act in some way on a specific situation because i think if in someway the person might feel hurted,or I myself do something wrong and mess up with in an important situation.

I know it might not be the best thing to do cause people really dont seem to be knowing ut the real way we are, unless we start to believeing more in us and DO - whatever it might hurt or be wrong - its just the way we are - perfeccionist and horribly insecure - we prefer being misunderstood than making something wrong

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posted July 25, 2007 09:19 AM              

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I'm a Virgo woman and I agree with what everyone else is saying for the most part.

My apparent "insecurity" has to do with 2 things:

1.Wanting to make the person I'm with happy. I always wonder if the person I care about would be happier if I was more _____ or less _____ or if they would like this other person more. Maybe because Virgo is "mutable" I'm able to at least try to make myself into what I think my beloved wants and it can be the total opposite of who I really am but it will feel pretty natural as though I'm just emphasising a hidden part of myself.
2.Because I want to have a safe, secure place to express my love. I hate it when I love someone and want to give my all to them, but they just want a little of this or that and really want someone else. I mean if you want me to do something(within reason), I'll usually do it, but if it's someone else you want tell me that too so I can move on to someone who wants *ME*.

sigh.. sorry bout that. lol

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posted July 25, 2007 01:56 PM            

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I totally agree Diandra, it's insecurity. Us Virgos want to please our partners and we're always worried we're not doing a good enough job.

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