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babeefoxx
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posted September 16, 2007 08:35 PM
 
a Virgo guy?
or better yet, how do you ask for more...
attention? love? passion?Long distance relationship, he's always working, I'm in school and starting a new job soon and even now, we hardly talk because he is "ALWAYS TIRED". I miss things they used to be and I've talked to him about it but he just gets ****** off. We still feel the same about each other I know, I just don't know how to approach him anymore or get that spark back! ...and remember what Linda says about Virgo men, they need many moments alone.
(and Aries feels hurt when Virgo is doing something else that doesn't include her). ------------------
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ASC: Libra
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Lucia23
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posted September 16, 2007 11:34 PM
They're workaholics. To lure them away, you need to offer them:
1) peace and purity, a sense of everything being "perfect" and ideal and
2) the feeling of being needed, but not drainedMy advice? Turn to him as an expert on something and ask for his thoughtful, analytical Virgo advice. NOTE: Do NOT ask him for advice on something you're genuinely, emotionally needy about. It should be something pretty impersonal that he feels like he can help with. Like, say your Virgo was a great surfer, and you were new to surfing. Calling him long-distance to ask what kind of board he'd recommend, and for tips on building up strength and stamina in the beginning. (I'm serious--something that mundane and unromantic is best--if he likes getting lint out of drawers, as some Virgos do, well, ask him about lint.) Then, use the Virgo's suggestion and call afterwards to thank him. Not "thank you for the great advice," but something subtle--"this board really works for my level. I'm glad I had you to turn to about this." Don't talk about "the relationship" to him. He's probably busy, confused, truly tired and hates being away. Make "the relationship" a place where the Virgo can solve simple puzzles, put things in order and be useful for now. After a few experiences of success with this, he'll start to feel safe and loved. He will think of you and have that peaceful, grateful feeling ("Well, what an awful day, but at least I solved The Aries' problem and got everything in order for her.") Fire signs love to solve a problem head on and talk about it directly. That's because we don't feel too guilty just going on ahead and being happy, gratified, or optimistic. Virgos, on the other hand, have worry as their operating principal, and talking directly about relationship problems when you can't hold him afterwards will just make him feel anxious and inadequate and pressured. Meanwhile, I see you have a Cancer moon. Me too! (Leo sun, cancer moon here)...Long-distance is hell for us! And we can get to a place where we only show our worst, needy, clingy, side...which just makes men who love us feel bad and helpless. No matter how great and faithful the guy is, I think it's SO important that you find other sources of reassurance and support for yourself during this busy time. That way, when you do have contact with the Virgo, both of you can enjoy it more. IP: Logged |
yourfriendinspirit
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posted September 16, 2007 11:40 PM
Ahhhh!
I know this one  You do this in an organized, methodical, and technical way. You say he's long distance and you want to bring the spark back? You take the time to create crossword puzzles, word finds, hidden message poems, etc. All of these must be focussed on personal things between you [romantically inclined] You send him these one day at a time, just "one" per day.
He will without a doubt complete them, it's in his nature. He will absorb the messages they convey, he's a mental creature. He will also appreciate them!
Secret: He'll most likely save them always as treasure to his heart.
He'll then be putty in your hands in no time! He will long for your attention... Secret #2: He needs to feel needed!
Create a "Honey Do" list, be the damsel in distress... Does he fix things? Good luck to you on your adventures ------------------
Sendin' love your way,
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Lucia23
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posted September 16, 2007 11:45 PM
Hee, yourfriendinspirit, we were posting at the same time!I'm glad we're in agreement: provide the Virgo with solveable problems! IP: Logged |
yourfriendinspirit
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posted September 16, 2007 11:47 PM
LOL!
Yep, I was once married to one of these guys *Edited to add:
It's 16 years later and we're still great friends, though he's still hooked!  IP: Logged |
GeminiLover75
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posted September 17, 2007 04:05 AM
This is what I think. Sometimes, as much as people don't like to do this and sometimes people get offended it's helpful to generalise: most men don't like to talk about 'relationship' stuff. This is probably why he gets annoyed when you bring it up. Women's approach is generally to talk things though, but men (remember that Mars is the male principle) respond to action. So, doing some of the things that people have mentioned here, ie the crossword puzzle thing, could help bring you back together - whereas wanting to always 'talk' to him could wind up creating more of a distance, especially if the topic makes him anxious! So when talking fails, show him the way you want things to be by doing things that make it that way. If that makes any sense. 
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comica23
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posted September 17, 2007 06:09 AM
hi there ^_^ hmm if he got more work lately, then maybe he's really been tired with all the stuffs, so give him a bit time to "digest" the change.. ^_^ Maybe he is also wanting to be with you more often, but the work has been tiresome.. But if he continues to always be tired for a long time, then you guys should have a talk to understand the situation and decide what to do.. Coz when you are in a relationship, you have to put some effort to take care of it, as it is like a plant that needs to be watered and not ignored for too long..
You have to be understanding for him, if he's been tired coz of the work (if you're really important to him, then he would sure need you to be understanding and supporting him, specially in difficult times like this), but he also has to understand that you can't be understanding and waiting for him forever..
But well, just give him a bit more time.. ^_^ He would sure appreciate your effort to be understanding and support for him..Btw, I'm also an Aries, and I agree with this (although I'm not with a Virgo) lol
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and Aries feels hurt when Virgo is doing something else that doesn't include her
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babeefoxx
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posted September 17, 2007 06:06 PM
Thank you all!but one thing, what kind of mental puzzles can I do with him? I don't want to get him frustrated or even more annoyed(yeah Virgo with moody Cancer rising, Libra moon) with leading him on but I do want him to be like putty in my hands! Would writing letters mean any significance to the Virgo male? Lucia, girl I know. We've been dating for almost 3 years now. It's getting better as time goes by though, we've gotten the hang of things. But I have Libra in my 12th house and from what I've heard, that means that there is a secret union in your life. True, because I am hiding this from my parents. I'm so afraid of disapproval! I don't know why I fear it so much either! I know when I build up my courage to spill our relationship will flourish beyond what it is now. IP: Logged | |
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