posted October 04, 2007 05:37 PM              

so what i am wondering is.. he was with his girlfriend for three years and they just broke up a few months ago. do you think he could be saying he doesn't remember me because he feels like to admit having a crush on me would have been cheating? we had just had a conversation in which i told him that i am a 100% loyal person, so maybe that was part of it too? or would a cancer just not bother lying about something like this? he is very evasive about feelings (understandable since we haven't hung out in this new context of maybe starting a relationship yet! he is coming to town and we are meeting tomorrow though!!) but he has expressed a couple of times that he finds me VERY attractive and he seems to be REALLY into me.

so.. i guess it doesn't matter too much, but i'm just wondering if a cancer would maybe lie for those reasons? i have never dated one and he is hard to figure out! oh also i'm wondering if it could have been just his moon conjunct ascendant in the first house that would mirror back to me how i was feeling about him? or something??

any insight would help!! cancers are interesting and adorable but.. confusing! my moon is in the 4th so i can relate but i'm sure it's different than a highly saturated cancer man. the thing that is bugging me so much is that it REALLY feels like he does remember me.. i mean our eye contact was SO hugely potent and feeling and amazing.. any idea on what's really going on with that?

posted October 05, 2007 10:27 AM              

It sounds to me that it is this feature of his chart masking all the cancerian romanticism.

posted October 05, 2007 10:41 AM              

Look at my post "gemini girl...ditching cancer man..." It has LOADS of information from other Cancers on this forum and it has been a saving grace! I'm dealing with a Cancer man and I played it WAY wrong in the very beginning (Gemini all the way...couldn't help it!)

I agree with the prior post. Keep cool and give him space - from what I've learned, most of them don't like to be emotionally "confined" from the offset and prefer to take their time.

posted October 05, 2007 02:01 PM              

the question is , his interest in you when he was still dating someone , when cancers are known to be pretty faithful people .

the answer is , he might not have been very much into you at that point of time , he was just flirting .
or he was just testing the waters , may be bcos he wasn't very much into his own gf of the time .

so he definitely was flirting with you at that moment . and he doesn't want to admit it bcos that would
1. hurt his prospects
2. tarnish his image in his own eyes .

now for sure the situation is completely different .

i am saying this as i am cancer sun, merc and my sun is in third house .

posted October 05, 2007 03:07 PM              

He is probably also fighting a break up, if he is looking somewhere else with those eyes; he is probably not a 100% in the relationship, but trust me on this one, there is nothing you can do to drag him out of the relationship, not only we are very faithful (or faithful to the committment) but you also don't want someone by your side that doesn't even know himself.

posted October 05, 2007 04:18 PM              

well, just to clarify, he and his girlfriend broke up in may.. and we only actually started talking a few weeks ago. i didn't know he had a girlfriend (and i would have felt guilty looking at him if i had known he did!) at the time.

so just to clarify, cancercg, you think he probably does remember me but for those reasons he won't admit it? i'm just confused by you saying the situation is different.. do you mean, our situation, or what is really going on?

we are meeting tonight.. and the thing is, he already knows allll my feelings about him. his uranus sits exactly on my asc in sagittarius, so it's like i can't keep my mouth shut even though i am like whhyyy am i telling him all this!!? well, the good news is, he really seems to like it.

we chat for hours every day and whenever i am feeling like maybe i am bugging him (we usually have a really great flow in our conversations and whenever there is a lull i think uh oh i hurt his cancer feelings with that last joke), i ask if i should let him go and he ALWAYS tells me to stay.

so i am thinking he likes the reassurance of knowing my feelings about him..? of course we have not spent any real time together in person. maybe i should play it a tiny bit cool. well, he knows i am shy so maybe shy is a nice happy medium.

oh also, yes his moon sits on his asc, in the first, and sits on my dc in my 7th. he does seem like maybe he has some old hurt or rejection that he covers up, it sounds like maybe from his dad.

posted October 05, 2007 04:59 PM              

and hey, just keep believing!! i think law of attraction really works with love! just get clear on what you want and know that it will happen! i was still pining over my ex when i first saw him, and my intentions were really strong and true about being a great partner for him, so i kind of feel like maybe i was rewarded with this guy?

posted October 05, 2007 05:51 PM            

I’m generally the first to dig deep into complex and sometimes confounding Cancer motivations, but this is such a small and casual thing – I seriously doubt your Cancer crush is lying about anything. He doesn’t have any good reason to lie. My guess is he was being charming, and picking up off of your vibe. Maybe there was a part of him that thought he recognized you and was trying to figure out who you were, but he didn’t see it as anything deep or important and probably doesn’t remember it. Most Cancer men I know are charming and friendly to everyone they meet. It often isn’t even flirting – they just like to know people like them.

I wouldn’t let it worry you, my dear Aqua. He notices you now. Don’t let yourself get too confused this early on. Haha. This is just the first inning – you still have a whole game ahead of you.

Kindest regards,

posted October 05, 2007 06:01 PM              

but i won't worry about it!! i believe everything happens for a reason and one moment at a time is the way to go.

posted October 07, 2007 06:20 PM              

wellll.. we just spent 20 hours together and they were the most amazing twenty hours of my life. he is everything astrology cracked him up to be and i will never ever be skeptical about astrology ever again!

he is SUCH a cancer and everything i have ever wanted. i am serious, on all levels it was perfect. it is so weird.. my mind constantly rejected it as impossible but everything between us just felt so right. i mean, even the awkward stuff; like when one of us was awkward or nervous or anything, the other just knew how to make it better instinctively.. and .. it just felt so .. pure and new and real and everything was 100% in the moment and i have never ever experienced that with anyone before..!

i think you are maybe right that it was my ego that wanted to be remembered, but i think there was more. it was that *i* intuited that we had this connection and somehow felt it and just knew it was this deep and it confused me because his eyes seemed to reflect that, but i think they just contained it and i recognized it, you know? i didn't ask him if he actually remembers me and i don't care. i actually really love that he is shy about expressing his feelings, because i can feel them and it is much sweeter to take care of his feelings than to have to be asked for reassurance constantly (haha that is my department, and luckily he likes reassuring me! but i found i needed it less and less.. ); his moon is in my 12th house so i think this must be why..

which reminds me that my moon is in his sixth and i was amazed to see it in action. he wanted to cook our meal and wanted to clean up after us and grab stuff from the other room and things like that and it was just so awesome (well as you can see i am used to lazy selfish guys).

posted October 09, 2007 06:35 AM              

well there have been some developments. he was supposed to leave town after his 20 hour visit and then he showed up the next night when i was at a friend's for dinner. weirdly, i felt like he was going to come over and when i got home i picked up the phone knowing there would be a message (and he said he would not be able to come back since he was an hour away for thanksgiving). he left me a message telling me that he'd called many many times and been by knocking on all my windows etc. i thought that was sooo adorable (although some might find that overkill, i love it, but my moon IS in the 4th after all!) so then, when i called him back he said he hoped he could come but he just walked back an hour to his friend's and they were supposed to be heading back home (9 hours away) in a couple of hours, but that he'd call me back in half an hour. well, 45 minutes later i suddenly just had the urge to jump up and go look outside. i did and did not see him or hear anything. so i came in and called him and he was 20 feet away walking up to my house! this is just one example of how in synch we are. it is really bizarre!

so i don't know how it is going to go since our lives are pretty complicated. i feel like if it is meant to be it will work itself out. it feels so right but our circumstances really are not the most conducive to our having an easy ride.. but can i tell you something else wonderful that he did?

i was so overwhelmed with feelings for him and was so sad that he was leaving and it was making me neurotic (he knows, accepts and loves this about me already and does not mind or tire of helping me out of that knot!) and so i just decided to feel what i felt about him and not hold back since i hoped that if he was as great as he seems he would understand. so i just let it happen.. i cried in his arms and he held me SO tight and he cried too and he held me for a VERY long time. isn't that just the sweetest thing!!?

posted October 11, 2007 07:58 PM              

Good luck!