posted October 21, 2007 06:21 AM              

I haven’t said yes to his proposal. I think I really love him too, a kind of soul deep connection that I could not find with my previous very kissable crush, which I managed to shake off 2 months ago. But I am still a little in shock and want to calm down first. I’m afraid of breaking such a beautiful relationship, a friendship – soul mate connection. Last night, I looked at our synastry the first time, and was astonished with the amount of connections. I don’t know how to post a picture, so I list the main ones. All connection are less than 3’ orb, if not stated otherwise:

Sun conjunct Venus double whammy (1 tight, one 7’)
Sun - Moon double whammy (1 sextile, conj wide orb)
Sun sextile Mercury double whammy
Moon conjunct Pluto double whammy (exact)
Moon sextile Neptune double whammy (exact)
Mercury - Jupiter double whammy (opp – trine)
Mars - Uranus double whammy (conj – trine)
Saturn - Mercury double whammy (square – opp)
Saturn - Uranus double whammy (square – sext)
Venus - Chiron double whammy (opp - trine)
Venus conjunct Pluto (exact)
Venus sextile Neptune
Uranus sextile Venus

Neptune sextile Mercury
Neptune square Jupiter

Jupiter trine Moon
Jupiter opposite Venus
IC conjunct Pluto / moon (exact)

Neptune conjunct Vertex
Vertex conjunct Mars

Now the ugly ones:

Sun square Neptune (exact)
Saturn square moon
Mars square saturn (also in his natal)
Mercury square mars (also in my natal)
Mars opposite mars
Mars square Jupiter
ASC square mercury
ASC square ASC
Chiron opposite mars / moon
Chiron square jupiter / saturn

posted October 21, 2007 10:11 AM            

I'm happy for you. I have to say one thing though, which is not astrologically based. If you weren't sure and you said that you THINK you love him too...I'd wait as long as it takes for you to be sure. You shouldn't jump into a commitment like marriage based on that and the idea that you're afraid of losing him.

Don't say "I do" unless you are completely sure that's what you want and 200% sure that you love him and he's the one you want to spend the rest of your life with!

posted October 21, 2007 12:14 PM              

Im very Happy for you Summerdream!!WHat a romantic History and you have an amazing sinastry and Composite.
If i were you i would also look at the Dracos,since it can show past life conections.

But im also with 8moon...You said you think you love him. If you really love him with your heart and you feel that he feels the same,then only you can know what your heart desires.

Dont mix the way he writes with feeling love - see if you love the man behind the writter

I wish you the great hapiness of your heart

posted October 21, 2007 01:03 PM              

Im a Virgo Sun but i have my head full of dreams (Neptune in the 3rd).

My relationship also started with a dreamy fantasy and it was love at first sight ( venus s~kuare uranus).

You have the venus/kiron Cinderella Linkage ( they say its the powerfull of them all regarding possible marriages )

The Venus/Pluto is seen as a SM conection and the Venus/Neptune ads that dreamy and romantic tune in the air you might have together.

We also have the Neptune/skuare(9º) but dont be scared of that one.Mostrly they say it has to do qwith deception and we start thinking that one or the other would probable deceive the ther counscioulsy.but its not like that.
The thing is that these relationships starts with almost a mystical air and often both feel they met the one.
The Sun person projects too many qualities on the Neptune ( utopic ) and the Neptune feeling bad about bursting the buble, tries to keep the "perfetc image" by trying to Be and act the best possible,not to hurt the other.
And as nobody is perfect and not able to forever keep that image, the other might feel somehow misleaded.So the best is to be honest and not to put the other in a pedestal

posted October 21, 2007 04:04 PM              

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ASC: Virgo

posted October 21, 2007 07:22 PM              

In synastry we have Sun square Neptune. I'm the Sun and he is Neptune, but it was me who was put on the pedestal. He calls me his Muse, his Golden Lady (honestly, no soap opera here!) On my part, from the beginning I've been confused about the nature of this relationship. While other times I'm scared of its intensity.

posted October 22, 2007 07:35 AM              

Azkahlash has a great text about charts that LL said:sth about there´s no bad chart that cant be overcomed by Love and theres no relationship that can be trully happy ( even if it has the best chart) if there isnt love

posted October 23, 2007 06:48 PM              

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"...the darkness is coming...do not weep as you have sown what you now shall reap..."

posted October 25, 2007 03:34 AM            

You mentioned that you were concerned about so many Neptune aspects. I think it's good that you have that, since you both have a strong Neptune natally. I have a strong Neptune too, & I really don't think I'd be able to have an honest, long-term relationship with a man who didn't also have a strong Neptune/Pisces influence. I think you know what I mean...we need a certain sweetness b/c at heart we're gentle and sensitive (sshh, don't ruin my badass rep by letting that out ). I could never completely let my guard down or invite someone into who I am if they didn't get me, in that way. So the Neptune aspects you two have just brings that energy into your relationship, & it's someting that you'll both feel very comforted and seduced by. It's fantastic, trust me. My fiance and I have some nasty Neptune squares in our composite (to our Sun-Venus-Mercury conjunction), and that stays under control as long as we remember to communicate. I'm the one who's more guilty of not communicating. It's my damn Mercury in Scorpio, I tell you, carrying on unspoken conversations based off body language & "vibes". I can be dead on, & I can also be dead off, so his down to earth Mercury in Taurus reminds me to bring this communication out into the real world with actual "words", of all things (who'd a thunk it?).
So communicate everything, until he begs for mercy, & things should be fine.

posted October 29, 2007 07:37 AM            

We don't have many misunderstandings. We've always had an easy mental rapport. He's my favorite person to talk to. And all that Neptune comes into play in positive ways too...we really can communicate so much with a glance. No one knows me better than he does.

But there have been a few times when this connection completely fell apart and we heard the words but didn't get what the other meant. This hasn't happened too often though, and usually only happens when one of us is angry.

The way Neptune has caused problems for us is when we have hid from issues we didn't want to discuss. Issues we didn't want to discuss either because we didn't see the point (already being certain that we knew what's going on) or because we didn't want to know the answers b/c we feared they weren't what we wanted to hear. This all came to a climax a few years ago when we broke up for 6 months, both thinking we understood what the other wanted but neither of us really did. Now when problems come up, we discuss them right away. And not just major issues, but anything where we're assuming we know what the other thinks or feels about a situation. We verify that our comprehension is accurate. With Neptune involved, you just want to be sure to always verify what's real. I think an out of control Neptune can easily distort comprehension, making things seem better but also making them seem much worse. And the only way to know what's really going on is to talk completely honestly.

This is my own view, but I wouldn't worry too much about squares in the composite. I don't think composites can be interpreted in the same way as a natal chart, where squares = tension, trines = harmony, etc. My opinion is that with a composite, the type of aspect isn't that important; you just want there to be aspects. A square doesn't necessarily indicate problems, it just means that the energies of the planets involved are tied together. Our composite is almost all red at astro.com: squares, conjunctions, oppositions. Looking at that, you'd think we fight all the time and would both have ulcers from the hostility; we actually get along very well and rarely have emotional fights. My time with him is a stress release, not a cause of stress.

Anyway, it's completely normal to have occassional misunderstandings. They're nothing to worry about if you're able to later work through them.

posted November 02, 2007 04:11 AM            

Diandra - Neptunians can easily feel disillusioned when we focus too much on an ideal. Once we focus more on appreciating what's real, Neptune grants the sweetest acceptance and compassion. Communication helps us learn what's "real" and we must first learn that before we can appreciate whatever it is.
My most aspected planet is Neptune and Neptune is the most aspected planet in our composite, and this relationship is the one where I finally learned how to stop letting Neptune work against me in intimate relationships (disappointment when my ideals weren't met) and work for me (compassionate love and appreciation for what's real). Little disappointments don't bother me or make me think that this isn't the right person for me. Since you're a Neptunian person in a Neptunian relationship, maybe you will have a similar experience. Or maybe you don't even need to learn that lesson.

posted November 05, 2007 12:55 AM            

Do you have any Saturn aspects in your composite? I think Saturn is very helpful with materializing what Neptune dreams. I use the Karma asteroid, so I consider your Saturn-Karma conjunction in synastry significant. Do either of you have a strong Saturn natally?