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dexter249
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posted October 22, 2007 08:39 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I hear this is a bad combination for love, but it seems to be going smoothly so far. What are the strong suits of this relationship? What should I be cautious about or what are the weaknesses?

Also I dated a scropio and a Virgo before for a while suppose to be good signs for a cancer and they didn't seem to work out very well does that mean anything?

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coromoro
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posted October 22, 2007 08:52 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
My experience with an Aquarius was a bad one (I am also a Cancer). We were great friends and got along really well, but then we began to go out and things weren't the same. I think she was more physically attracted to me than anything. I felt our communication wasn't great at all. I couldn't open up, and she didn't seem to either. I was looking for a serious relationship, and perhaps she wasn't. Things ended in bad terms, and though we said we would try to remain friends, it was never the same. We ruined what was a great friendship.

Anyways, so that's my experience. Of course, there are other factors other than our Sun Signs in play here.

I wish you luck, my crab brother!

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hippichick
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posted October 22, 2007 09:41 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for hippichick     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I MUST get back to this later to expand upon and provide a link on this fourm, do not have time now.

In a nutshell---Cancers are caretakers, nurturing, even clingy, obsessive, EMOTIONAL!!!

Aquas want to be free, need to be free, respect distance and detachment..

They mix like oil and water, unless, ofcourse the Cancer native is highly Aqua and the Aqua native is highly Cancerian...

Be back soon

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posted October 22, 2007 10:02 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for CoralBird     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Hmmm….seems to a few Cancer / Aquarius connections lately….
From what I understand there are many different aspects that come into play, but in a nutshell I have found...
Strengths:
• When he (Cancer) gets agitated, I (Aqua) can bring him back to reality
• I can be a little quirky at times and he seems to like that; actually come to think of it...he can be just as quirky
• He is a protector, but also expects me to stand on my own
• He is emotional and/or moody; I can remain relatively detached
• I envision; he builds
Weaknesses:
Biggest weakness is our communications styles
• Misunderstandings are created when each assumes what the other person wants.
• Aqua are straight forward, Cancer indirect. It can be very frustrating for both.
• He is emotional and/or moody; I can remain relatively detached

Funny thing is…he thinks I’m too emotional and fragile, and I in turn think he values freedom and can detach easily.

This is what I have for now...I may think of more...


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posted October 23, 2007 02:50 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for juniperb     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I`m an Aqua and have been with my Cancer for 13 years.

Learning to communicate openly, honestly, and listening is the key to solving the differences between the signs.

When one loves another, all works out as it is ment to

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Diandra23
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posted October 23, 2007 03:16 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Beautiful Juniperb

My Bf is a Cancer AC with an Aqua Moon hihihi - so at times he is both detatched and extremely emocional - its like a rollercoaster

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heart cakes
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posted October 23, 2007 04:22 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
i am loving the aquarius-cancer relationship i am in. as mentally confusing as it can be for the aquarian at times, it is such a unique and deeply sweet vibe. i think cancer and aquarius has a lot in common, but we just experience, or assimilate experiences in different ways. but that we are basically very similar.

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heart cakes
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posted November 08, 2007 01:30 AM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
hippichick, can you copy that link here?? i would to read it myself!!

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hippichick
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posted November 08, 2007 09:05 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for hippichick     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I can't find it!!!

It is a beautiful and profound statement that Gemini Nymph wrote about Cancers and Aquas...

I will continue to look now that I have a few days off.

I think the thread was started by cancerrg (sp?) and if I remember correctly maybe last Feb on Soul Unions or Astro, the title had something to do with aquas and cancers, too, I think!

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posted November 08, 2007 09:20 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for hippichick     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I found it!

I had the good sense to bookmark!
http://www.linda-goodman.com/ubb/Forum1/HTML/012828.html

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heart cakes
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posted November 08, 2007 12:01 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
YAY! i am soooo excited to read it!

before i do, i just had a quick thought:

i remember recently reading twice that aquarians are often so weird and aloofish because they are abused or forced into painful, difficult roles as children so they are forced into their minds to protect and occupy themselves. i had never heard of this before until just recently, and it totally fits for me.

so here is my theory that has finally just surfaced on the similarity between cancers and aquarians. for us, our shells are our minds and we lock our hearts up and to protect ourselves we run it all through the filter of our minds. however we feel DEEPLY and we only seem aloof because we are so afraid to allow ourselves to relax; so our caring manifests itself as humanitarianism and in more abstract ways. maybe because our own needs were neglected, so the focus is a little more cerebral because we have not learned how to personalize it as much. maybe that is a bit of a stretch and it is certainly a generalization, but i think that explains the aquarian aloofness paradox..

and so we are similar to crabs because they are so preoccupied with protecting their feelings. so when we are not aligned in ourselves, we behave differently and *that* is where the similarity ends. and that is where trouble can begin. because aquas have learned to shut off their deep emotions and cancers then feel totally unloved, etc!

but i think that is why it is also so intriguing and has such awesome potential! also, i think both cancer and aquarius are the weirdest of all the signs, and i have a feeling it relates to the intensity with which we both feel and because of not being able to express it directly. so it comes out in funny weird ways! kookiness!

okay, i'm gonna go read the thread now!! so excited!!!! thank you hippichick

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hippichick
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posted November 08, 2007 01:53 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for hippichick     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
heart

You certainly have a very valid point, but the differences, while intruiguing as opposing similarities in theory, are quite difficult to deal with in relation.

I am a Pisces sun who is so hugely Aquarian/Uranian. My ex bf was a Cancer sun who was highly Cancerian with all of his Cancer planets in the 8th (and to boot we share the same asc, down to the degree.)

Anyway with our very failed relation"ship", he always wanted/needed emotional support, he need cuddling both physically and emotionally, always need to hear verbalizations of love...while my Pisces soul understood this, my Aquarian side found it quite annoying. I always felt and still do that love is just something that is, it is or should be unconditional and anybody who is secure with her/himself should not need constant reaffirmations of "love."

So, this is where the Cancer and the Aqua differ hugely!!! Cancers live off of emotions, Aquas run from emotions cause they just do not "need" it to live...Aquas live off mental things, Cancers live off emoting...

It is not that Aquas do not need nor are void of emotions, they just operate in a quite different manner. Aquas would rather be out conquering the mental realm where as Crabs would rather be at home cooking and loving (I have a Taurus moon in the 6th and my Sun and Venus are in the 4th) so I am NO stranger to the homey things.

I still say, inherantly that the Cancer/Aqua relation is one of the very most difficult, simply for the fact of clinginess vs aloofness...

As I have always said on this fourm, energy is everything!

But I so get the Aqua too!

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heart cakes
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posted November 08, 2007 02:38 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
hi!

hey i have a taurus moon too with lotsa pisces! my moon is in the 4th, so maybe having these would qualify me as being a cancer-sympathizer?

i totally get what you mean though. i think it is only VERY recently that i realized i could enjoy a cancer. seriously every time i would read about cancers before i would get squirmy and clausterphobic! just reading about them!

i remember this one cancer sun/moon/asc had a crush on me and he was sooooo sweet to me it drove me up a tree. it really felt like over saturation!

maybe i have found a good balance though cuz my guy is a gemini moon and ascendant which balances out his cancer and fits better with me and my elements!

but taken on their own, yeah, cancer and aquarius are like oil and water! challenging!

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posted November 08, 2007 04:59 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Crabplanet     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Just got (at last!) away from an Aqua. Two very different worlds. Unless you have important planets in Aqua, Moon, Ascendant...or your Aqua has lots of water, I don't see how they can understand one another. I'm a Cancer, Moon in Capri, Mars in Aqua, Sag Ascendant, lots of planets in Libra, and it still wasn't enough to handle this weird relationship. I got my experience with this Aqua, and now I don't regret meeting a passionate Pisces/Scorpio...works better with my element...Good luck to you!

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posted November 08, 2007 05:08 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
If you have a lot of water and a concentration in the 4th, it's probably really nice together.

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mantoinette
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posted November 09, 2007 12:59 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
hey, can someone help me please..please go directly to my post cancer men help, and taurus lady with cancer man please help, its in the section of astrology.

i been reading you guys replies on cancers please help me!!!!!
im a taurus 32 & met a 42 yr old cancer man.we went 2 grab a bite on 1st day we met.he said he dont have girlfren, divorced n 2001, work 3 jobs monday-sat, get his 14 yo daughter sat-monday. he plays a sport and practices a few times a wk, and competes. he went back outta state. talked on phone over a month. wanted me 2 meet the daughter, i said i think he should take time 2 get 2 no me be 4 i meet her. we shared sum things over the phone, i went down there. was introduced 2 three folks, went to dinner at this really nice place. went 2 breakfast nex mornin. we chated on fone off and on. sum of the 1st talks he mentioned if you feelin sum one in the heart u make time. so 3 wks after i went 2 see him. there was opportunities he coulda seen me and didnt. i sent this long email. we talk about the email. and i went to see him a 2nd time. i dont think i over did it by takin sum food and 1 pot. i planned to cook. but we ate sumthin else. he said sumthing, he not use to this. i didnt get like he meant that in a bad way. well i left next day. he had a competition to go too, wanted me 2 send sum pics, i did while he was gone, a card, and we talk before he left. he tex me out the blu all good. i didnt no what he was referrring to. and i started thinkin 2 much. and text him theres no communication cuz he left me hanging to figure out what he was talkin about. i tex him do he see me as a frend with potential. rong ?. he said cant focus on strong frendship. then all my true feelins came out. i felt like i was fallin in luv and u been on my mind etc in all these tex msgs. i tex him days later was he upset wit me he said no. recently i tex him sumthin bout my mom, he came out the blu he still luv his daughter mom and hope my mom is ok. i replied like a frend. he cald me later we rapped about the text msg showdown and he said gotta go with the flo, and he said i be tellin him not to analyze. that was 10 days ago. i since text him how was he, sent him updated pic of me and left a nice msg. i dont know if now i scarde him or how to get my frend back. help!!! based on the last talk 10 days ago i got the feel we was still flowin but i dont no. during the course win we met i sent him 2 card congratulating about his competition and a b-day card to his daughter. heres my number. 267 230 6205. its my pager only. i hope i can have some people to talk to about this. easter standard time zone

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