posted October 30, 2007 10:49 PM            

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Nam, I think you will receive much better insight if you pose your questions to everyone here. I would be more than happy to answer your questions.. and I will, in this thread.. but it will take me some time, since I am not in holidays yet and am quite busy.. I don't particularly feel like posting that often.
In the mean time, I'm sure you'll receive great advice from the other girls here

posted October 30, 2007 11:20 PM              

And no, I have nothing aginst you silly, I am not like that

posted October 31, 2007 06:11 AM            

pffffffft still can't believe you fell for it..

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And no, I have nothing aginst you silly, I am not like that

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Nam, that's alright then. I don't either

posted October 31, 2007 06:48 AM              

But to really answer the question. The man I *want*, if that's what we mean by 'the perfect man' would have these qualities:

* Hot and sexy but not arrogant about it (looks aren't a prerequisite, but I do want to be physically attracted to the person)
* Kind, caring and nurturing but not smothering
* Warm-hearted
* Physically affectionate
* Loyal and protective and always defends me
* Faithful, and saves all of his affection and hot sexiness for me only - lets other women know without a doubt that he is taken! lol
* Listens to me talk
* Does little things for me like bringing me cups of tea or putting away my washing
* Gets a *little* jealous but not too much
* Doesn't get insecure when I dress up and look good
* Puts me first
* Enjoys being sensual with me
* Shares his secrets with me and is emotionally honest
* Encourages me in my interests
* Makes me feel beautiful
* Is energetic and fun, with a calm centre
* Makes me laugh
* Likes shopping with me and will carry my bags.
* Doesn't have to spend a lot of money on me, but isn't miserly about it
* Likes doing things with me like going out to bands or going for walks, exercising, meditating etc.
* Not a heavy drinker or drug taker. I prefer relatively health-conscious men.

Then again, I'm not sure I would learn much from a person who had every single one of those qualities. Life would be too easy.

posted October 31, 2007 11:12 AM            

Although I appreciate beauty, I don't need my guy to be a Greek God, just not ugly nor shorter than me (as I'm tall T_T ). But I must confess, I do expect my guy to have the traits I stated, or at least developing them.. :P (but well, if a guy has these traits and is a Greek God then it would even be better ahah)

posted October 31, 2007 05:02 PM              

I had no idea there was drama here!!! no offence.

posted October 31, 2007 05:30 PM              

I totally agree with GeminiLover, so many times we seek a perfect guy who obviously doesnt exist and we find ourselves wishing for someone who only has positive traits we all adore like romantic,kind,caring,etc etc....

What we dont expect is that we attract what we need and that doesnt necessarily means what we want isnt it?

I found some time ago that my perfect man inst the Charming Prince of whom i dreamt about when i was little and naive- my perfect guy is a normal human being with whom i can be who I AM,showing my weaker traits ( the ones i didnt wanted to show).
He shows his "perfectness" when he looks at me after i wake up as if I was beautiful; or when he tries to confort me when im in pains and say he would take them from me to him if he could...

He also knows me better than it was expected too..it doenst scares me instead it makes me feel comfortable and with a sense of familiarity.

He is Perfect showing me which ways i should work on me to become a better person and to face my own insecurities and fears - there it is the awakening of the Soul and the Mind

Perfect = union of the heart into mine

posted October 31, 2007 06:24 PM              

Also my bf´s Mom is a Cappy and she is an adorable woman - she has the Cappy Traits ive mencioned above but she isnt dettatched at all

Im a Virgo myself but i dont fit into the category of the Eaths signs - im more emotional than it was "suposed" to...i guess we are all a bit of each others in some moments but the key of our Self lies deeper inside and beyond any surface.

Just a thing: i understand why people started to see "dettachment" in Coral´s answers in the other thread - but i think its not the exact word -it is more having to do with logic and the way Earthy people see love in a diferent perspective.

in this way im also like that: Imagine you love someone and thats not only atraction;you risk to be intimate with that person thinking that your love is being returned and lovemaking turns to be a significant moment then cause you CARE. Then,he disappears and doenst answer and you keep calling and calling cause you feel "it just cant be,we had THE moment" -how can he disappear? This is the time when you reject any logical thinking and keep trying to take back sth that it might never have existid ( im not saying it dindt) - it just cause for me,if there is LOVE and not just an enfatuation or attraction,doenst matter if he´s working,studying or on another country - the minimum a person in love can do is SHOW respect,care and willing to be with the other again.

If he acted like that,he could very well been having bad transits ( i know what that is) but if it would be WORTH it, he would call and would show interest right away.

Thats why the harsd words of Coral - it´s like the Saturn planet - face reality and see the things we dont want to and listen to want we dont want but need...

For an Earthy LOVE is another diferent thing and yes,we do can wait long time before feeling this is it,but when it comes,we surelly knows see it and risk it

posted October 31, 2007 10:29 PM            

Nam, I actually think deep down we are all the same and a majority of people are probably well intentioned.. What is different is the way we do the things we do and our principles.

Anyways, what would you like to know? My opinions on what makes a perfect man.. or something more specific? You’re welcome to ask anything.

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I usually find people with Cappy and Scorpio traits to be a bit aliens to me.

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These two are more different than they seem, although they can go together like “a horse and carriage” lol. I’ve known a few Scorpio Moon people.

This quote is from an astro joke (about Capricorn), but it made sense to me.. http://funny4myspace.com/widgets/zodiac/?gclid=CNSEx_DWgI8CFQINPAodEl-Y2w

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“If you cross them, they don’t get angry, they don’t get even. They just turn their internal thermostat down about 100 degrees when they see you.”

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I actually thought that particular line described my emotional reactions – having a Cap moon/mars – quite well.. though I have my Aries moments.. but 7 or 8 times out of 10, I react more like Cap. It’s very different to the Scorpio mooners I know.. because they tend to get angry and they also get even sometimes lol The temperature of their thermostat is much higher

Diandra, you made some great points. It is definitely about reality and being aware of reality, because I think generally people would be much happier if they opened their eyes to what is happening.
In the story you wrote.. with the girl who sleeps with the guy etc.. What happens is usually the fact that one of the people (it’s not always the girl, I don’t want to sound sexist) idolizes the other in a Neptunian way.. and doesn’t actually get to know them – before they have sex.

posted November 01, 2007 12:21 PM              

you´re talking to a very Neptunian girl here
Although im the Virgo Sun i also have my neptune highly conected in my natal..that points me as one of THE who actually see the ones they love as Prince Charms ( i have my venus/mars in Leo) so that also makes me very stubborn and proud in relationships.

With time we learn how to live isnt it? In my experience i have been slowly having awareness that no one is perfect,specially the ones we love ( it is a faster process cause they are the ones who we trully know) - it is a very hard process of how suddently we realise the naturally imperfect human beings that we are and the consequent actions of having limitations.

I cant say im more happier now that i stopped living in the clouds but im definatelly feeling that this awakening is pushing me to be stronger and mature.

it is easier for everyone to idealize and dream at daylight - we dont suffer about the other cause he doenst do anyhting wrong and everything is perfect.

But once we get to know the other and be and getting to know better,all who he is,inside and out,thats when we know if we love or not - I know I DO - and the same happens with him - what do i feel? I feel i always wanted to seem perfect cause of fear,but now i know i can be who i am without worrying so much about perfeccionism

He´s no Charmimg Prince - he has his own ghosts - but that same "darkness" makes him more perfect to me than anyone else i´ve ever knowned