posted November 12, 2007 10:22 AM              

1. When dating, I usually know within a few minutes if I have a connection with someone, people have gotten mad at me because I don't give relationships a chance. However, it's one of those undefinable things, I just know when I know, and if you aren't ultimate marriage or long term relationship potential, then I won't waste my time, I'll just move on til I find that....might not be right, but it is what it is.
2. I'm pretty stable and successful and I'm not looking for a suit or career obsessed guy, but come into the relationship being able to take care of yourself. I want to feel protected by my man, not have to take care of him.
3. Please don't kiss my ass. Treat me like a princess, but don't act like I'm the most wonderful person in the world, especialy if I treat you like crap....Make me want to chase you a little.....
4. Be someone I look up to. Maybe it's overinflated Aries ego, but I think I'm pretty awesome, so I want to be with someone that I think is really really awesome. And someone that I respect and aspire to be better for.

posted November 13, 2007 11:37 PM            

Green Fairy - We have the reverse going. You have Venus in Gem in the 10th; I have Venus in Cap in the 3rd. What's your Moon sign? If it's earth or water, that could mitigate the flirtatious, light and breezy approach to love that Venus in Gem is said to give. Your Venus could mean that you place a very high priority on mental stimulation in a relationship. If you have a strong earth or water chart overall, then your Venus in Gem probably wouldn't override your basic temperament, and since it's in the 10th house, there's going to be a Cap feel to it as well.

I haven't been in a relationship with a man with Venus in Cap, but I think, in general, men or women with this placement will prefer monogamous, long-term relationships, so they will be more likely to be attracted to someone who they perceive they could have that with than with someone who would just be a fling. So I think you'd have to take into account all of his chart to see what he's looking for in a partner. Having Venus in Cap won't necessarily mean that he'll want someone with Capricorn traits if the rest of his chart indicates otherwise. This is true for all Venus placements, but I think it may be even more true for those with Venus in Cap since we're more cautious and want long-term compatibility.

Edit: If I had to pick a trait that a Venus in Cap is attracted to, it's someone who s/he respects. What they respect will be influenced by the whole chart, but I think it's hard for a Venus in Cap to take someone seriously enough for a relationship if they don't respect them.

posted November 18, 2007 06:55 PM              

Hmmm. Where do I begin ? I agree with some of the other posts. He is not likely to play the field ! Think the main thing is feeling "secure" in the relationship. He fears being rejected more than anything. Thats is why he probably wont make a move until he is sure in case you are wondering why other blokes chat you up and he ignores you !

If the man with Venus in Cap doesnt trust you he wont open up. So flirting with other blokes wont work in front og him. But when he does "open up" he will be very loyal and sensual.

I guess he isnt very demonstrative in public but will be in private. Touch is very important to all earth signs.

posted November 19, 2007 02:06 PM              

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Green Fairy - We have the reverse going. You have Venus in Gem in the 10th; I have Venus in Cap in the 3rd. What's your Moon sign? If it's earth or water, that could mitigate the flirtatious, light and breezy approach to love that Venus in Gem is said to give. Your Venus could mean that you place a very high priority on mental stimulation in a relationship. If you have a strong earth or water chart overall, then your Venus in Gem probably wouldn't override your basic temperament, and since it's in the 10th house, there's going to be a Cap feel to it as well.

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posted November 19, 2007 05:47 PM              

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If it's not too much to ask, what about physical traits?

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What they look for? IMO, "natural" beauty (not being drowned in makeup) is appreciated, but Venus/Capricorn cares less about physical appearance than other factors.

posted April 09, 2013 09:55 PM            

but are 10th house venus signs similar to the way venus in caps interact or respond in love? I have the 10th house in venus (and mars) but it's in Leo, I'm not sure what that entails to, but I'm not really all that interested in money or career related folks, don't care too much about status either... but I do agree many of my relationships in the past were with much older individuals because I was very attracted to their maturity and their minds.

How would this change or react with a moon in Scorpio?

And jane, I saw that you are a venus in cap in the 3rd house. How is that like, and is that similar to venus in gemini?

posted April 12, 2013 05:25 PM            

- Usually (like others have said in this thread) I know pretty quickly if there's a connection with someone, if there isn't then I'm gone without a second thought.

- I'm not interested in casual relationships, only long-term serious ones...so I haven't been in a lot of relationships.

- I want an equal at least, if not someone superior in terms of intellect and job position.

- I want someone ambitious.

- It can take me ages to think about going into a relationship, I analyse everything.

- I want someone romantic and creative.

posted April 13, 2013 10:46 AM            

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Originally posted by Vradec:
I'm a Venus in Cap but I'm female but here's how I feel about relationships anyhow:

- Usually (like others have said in this thread) I know pretty quickly if there's a connection with someone, if there isn't then I'm gone without a second thought.

- I'm not interested in casual relationships, only long-term serious ones...so I haven't been in a lot of relationships.

- I want an equal at least, if not someone superior in terms of intellect and job position.

- I want someone ambitious.

- It can take me ages to think about going into a relationship, I analyse everything.

- I want someone romantic and creative.

- I'm very loyal.

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I'm also a Venus in Capricorn but I have so many negative aspects to it I'm not sure which apply to "just" the Capricorn.

*I want a man who adores me
*I want a man who takes care of me
*I want a man who is a hard worker, esp at home.
*I want romance
*I want security
*I want complete fidelity, if you cheat... you may be forgiven but I'll never forget and it will ruin the relationship.

The one thing I've always wanted and never gotten is a man who doesn't even want to look at another woman. I want the type of loyalty you only get in romance books. I know it's unrealistic, but that's what I've always wanted, and of course never got.

posted May 12, 2013 04:46 AM            

1. I may never know which flavor to go for in a ice cream shop. But, i almost always KNOW what i want from a particular man. I can pen down a list and give him. Only i don't do that, becoz its freaking rude,.isnt it?! :P

2. Romance is just like front cover. I look for SUBSTANCE. A best friend who is very convenient to share a household with, is my ideal person.

3. He must be an active, fit guy ,.someone who is good with hands,say who does stuff like gardening, cleaning regularly..Great sex would be huge plus!

posted May 29, 2013 02:36 AM            

-I do believe in romance, but the "Brokeback Mountain" kind; where the two people are limited by many factors and have to make the best of an awkward situation(I know,I know, I'm twisted).

-I'm into my work or what I "do". Any romantic inclinations are likely to happen with someone whom I am working with or someone at my workplace.

-I don't show my interest openly and can even deny it to myself, but I do find subtle ways to let you know how I feel. (Perhaps I'll touch you affectionately, and discreetly, when you least expect or give you an affectionate smile across the room etc.).

-I am seldom overwhelmed by my feelings and even when I am, I reason them out to a mellow point. I am not the type to go "head first" and chat someone I am interested in up without first observing their interaction with others, their mannerisms and their ability to smile etc.

I am often drawn to well-spoken, eloquent good looking "Libra" types. I find them very receptive and attractive.

posted July 19, 2013 11:51 AM            

I dislike needy,mentally weak girls. Any mention of depression or therapy turns me off.