posted January 04, 2008 02:39 PM              

I'm a Cap sun, Sag moon, Scorp rising.

What makes YOU feel that you are close to someone - whether it's a lover, friend, or relative. Also say your sun/moon/rising !

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Capricorn sun / Scorpio rising / Sagittarius moon

posted January 04, 2008 05:33 PM            

Best pal, sons, husband, would be included. Not many else.

posted January 04, 2008 06:25 PM            

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What makes YOU feel that you are close to someone

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Good communication. Being able to tell the person anything. Trust. Basically having a strong mental connection. I like to feel understood and not have to explain myself much. Someone who has similar principles in life will draw me in. A person who comes across as reliable but also very mentally alert and fun to be around.. I want to feel like we click on a vibe level.. so they have to be at least sort of similar to me.
I couldn't feel close to a person if we didn't have a fair few things in common. I could still like them, but I'd never get that close.

posted January 05, 2008 03:06 AM              

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I think I've become like a Taurus. I need time now. I didn't know what to make of my Mutable girlfriend for the first year despite her being the best friend I've ever had a relationship with. After she spent that long with me I figured her flighty tendencies must not involve me (else why would she stick around?). Now I'm able to be much more open about everything without feeling the risk of her suddenly taking off.

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posted January 05, 2008 06:06 AM            

But it's not confined to touch. Anything that shows the person knows my needs or at least cares to learn what they are, and then does what s/he can do to fulfill them, makes me feel closer to someone. When someone has my back and I have his, I feel emotionally close to him.

I also feel close to people who I can share big laughs with. The kind that leave tears. I even want to cuddle afterwards. It's hard for me to take seriously people who have no sense of humor.

It's also really important for me to share a similar value system with someone. I feel close to people who think in similar ways to me.

I do need some nonverbal communication too, like inside jokes that are communicated in a glance, feelings expressed with a facial expression. A shorthand communication.

Overall though, the main thing I need is the sense that the person understands me emotionally and wants to be there for me (and vice versa).

Oh, and anal. Can't forget that.

posted January 05, 2008 07:14 AM            

You took my answer!! Anal, indeed

Seriously, I'd have to agree with your whole answer. The laughing bit is especially important to me. If I can laugh my arse off with someone, in that moment of breathlessness, I think I want to marry them.

posted January 05, 2008 07:27 AM              

you`re HILARIOUS:

And yes, I second that, to share laughs gives me just an incredible feeling of closeness to a person. At least for that moment.

posted January 06, 2008 01:14 AM              

Sometimes the laughter establishes the respect and trust.

posted January 06, 2008 03:04 AM            

i think the equation is different with different ppl..

u can feel close to ppl ur comfortable with ...as in ppl u can talk any **** in front of...jus be urself basically

posted January 06, 2008 04:31 AM            

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How interesting, AG. I've been through exactly the same thing... after the first year with Mr Gemini I finally figured out that he wasn't going to suddenly take off, and that his flightiness was unrelated to me or the relationship. And I've only very recently become absolutely sure of that! You would think, that with your and my mutable ascendants, it wouldn't take us so long to figure it out.

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Yeah, I don't know about you, but it seemed like there were so many indications that things may not be stable it was difficult to trust that she was going to stick around. After awhile you've just got to realize what you've got and go with it.

Jane,

posted January 24, 2008 05:35 PM              

Laughter I guess...! Or I don't know, it's just those small moments... All the time, any time. Just being there with my friends is enough I guess. Being told secrets, and giving away my own. Trusting someone, having a good time=)