posted January 30, 2008 03:42 PM            

I think that a good man is a man that puts God first in his life, and man that takes care of his family, and man that is honest and keeps his word and man that is stable in most of his ways, a man that will know when to drop his pride simply bc he knows love is stronger then pride..A man with a humanitarian heart..This is a good man for me..

posted January 30, 2008 03:48 PM              

And a good person will always put their s-elf at first. rest everything falls in place.

And I personally do not believe placements have got anything to do with this.

BTW: I am the best man!

posted January 30, 2008 03:54 PM              

For me a good Man is a kind,romantic,and comprehensive guy - who does not only think about himself but valours and nurish the others,being able to put himself in other+s shoes

posted January 30, 2008 04:02 PM            

Sincerity counts for a lot with me, after that, someone who is willing to put themselves out to help other people and doesn't just care about themselves.

This pretty much counts around the board for anyone, really, male or female.

In a boyfriend? Well, the same, plus good with kids would be helpful. As a bonus - keen on Star Wars, trains, and handy at mending things and assembling transformers and pre-packed furniture.

Gemini Sun - Libra Moon - Scorpio Rising

posted January 30, 2008 04:09 PM            

I mean perfection to myself is a guy who has found a way to be himself yet at the same time contribute something worthwhile to society. That means being accepted for all his faults as compared to the benifit he brings to everyone around him. Lets face it; If we had a stencil idea of what perfection is, life would be so damned boring Lol! And honestly, its usually the person who presents a different view then what we are used to that wins out on the attraction area because that individual allows us to see a different side of ourselves.

So I am perfect because I am Imperfect ; Someone who doesn't sees himself being tied down by conventionalism so much that he loses his identity yet at the same time, wants to make this world a livable place by adhering to some set guidelines (Fair laws being one of em . Hey without laws there will be anarchy and that ain't helpful.)

And I cherish the same trait in others. I adore those who can show me a different side of myself through their own actions and their personality. Hey just ask my girlfriend the biter Lol!

posted January 30, 2008 04:09 PM            

perceptions are relative too.

I think that I am good guy. I feel that I treat others as fellow human beings and souls. I don't smoke,drink,do drugs,nor sleep around. My mother asks me to help her out financially,and I do. I care about people in general. I am Dyslexia,Dyspraxia,learning disability,neurodivergent,neurodiversity mental health human rights advocate/activist. I am a strong believer in those causes and it bothers me that so many people are ostracized, medicated because they don't fit the continuous narrowing norms of society.

here is a poem in 1997 that I wrote that pretty much sums me up.....I feel that they stem from special education in early childhood because of my Dyslexia,Dyspraxia,ADHD and my multiethnic Black,Portuguese,English,German,French,Italian,
Puerto Rican,and Native American ancestry.
I didn't know anything about Astrology at the time.

UNITY

Unity is our ultimate goal
for we are the same
underneath our skins
that come in many colors.
Remember our blood
is the same color.
So keep that in mind.
Don't throw away the dream
which is unity.
There are no separate races
for there is only one race,
and that is the Human Race.
We are all created equal
because we are all human beings,
and so we should unite
on our home planet, Earth.
In order for our world to survive,
we have to stop the violence
and eradicate the hate
which will ultimately destroy us all.
Eternal peace will only be achieved
through love and compassion
as we struggle to coexist.
We should love each other
for we are all related
and should be in unity.

posted January 30, 2008 04:35 PM              

To me a good man is the same as a good woman. A good person. And a good person to me is someone who respects others, is honest and trustworthy. Anything else is just icing on the cake.

Unfortunately for me a good man is not always necessary for me to become involved with him..I think I have a disaster fetish ;-;

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Capricorn sun / Scorpio rising / Sagittarius moon

posted January 30, 2008 04:54 PM            

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I want to know from you all what makes a man a good man

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Existing.

They're all good, in the eyes of certain beholders.

But ok, for me personally - the further away from socially 'typical' he is the better.

Someone who is strong minded and has his own opinions without parroting opinions heard from friends/family/media/social norms.

Healthy self-esteem.. (but even a touch of arrogance will put me off)

Humanitarian.

Respectful and understanding.

Good conversationalist - sense of humor

posted January 30, 2008 05:35 PM            

- Knows himself
- Kind towards others (I'm personally trying to get over allowing people to walk all over me, abusing my kindness)
- A thinker (not superficial)
- Values fairness
- Respectful/Won't put you in harm's way
- Shows that he is engaged in his relationships
- Creative
- Romantic
- Eccentric
- Prudent
- Cooperative
- Is a little possessive without being stifling

posted January 30, 2008 05:41 PM            

Everyone has what they see as a good man from their perspective the good man FOR ME has to put God first..Where as others may feel they are a good man with out having to put GOD first or a woman may feel like that..What ever works for you..Don't know why you guys keep comparing or commenting what your beliefs on a good man is to others..

posted January 30, 2008 06:11 PM              

one that goes willingly against all odds in life because his understanding of high principles of life do not expand his ego at the speed of light but happen naturally, through trials and results.

i met one guy like this. scorpio sun, pisces moon, venus and neptune in sag, mars in capricorn. no air signs, i dont know his rising sign though.

but after analysing him, (and comparing with me) quite obsessively for 1 ****ing entire year, i came to understand that if i'm his opposite side for everything i said above, he's very much the opposite side of me as well.

among my qualities, i'm deeply and sincerely sincere, generous, loving, caring, attentioned,... and....

all i can see, i that if me and him were one person, without mine and his crap, then you would have a ripped soul.

(me - my crap) + (him - his crap) =

my crap = my inflated ego which troubles me in my day to day relationships.
his crap = his ego's misconception of his real place in the world.

but here, i think everyone has to be a bit selfish, by human nature or at least when we are born, then, may be we evolve, but someone who's not selfish his rare.

i think that for us normal human beings, paradoxically, in order to become less selfish we need to be selfish, cause someone who's willing to please (and i'm one of those) he's hiding deeply his own desires behind a veil of generosity (at least whenever he truly don't act from the heart with nothing but real love.)

so by accepting our selfishness and living with it we probably can accomodate it to our reality, like my scorp angel.

the trap that i hope he'll avoid is the other extreme. to be unable to open up to everyone, even enemies, because he would be judging them worthless or simply not understanding them.

to sum up, my idea of a perfect man is a perfect imperfect man. and there's plenty of this everywhere !!!!!!!!!!!

posted January 30, 2008 06:22 PM            

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Don't know why you guys keep comparing or commenting what your beliefs on a good man is to others..

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posted January 30, 2008 07:16 PM              

Aqua ASC, Cap SUN, Libra MOON

posted January 30, 2008 08:34 PM            

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Sun in Libra
Moon in Cancer
Jupiter in Cancer
Venus in Virgo
Mars in Cancer
Ascendant in Cancer

posted January 30, 2008 09:19 PM              

Lauren Bacall's said about husband Bogart...'he owns himself.' i want a man like that.;-) walks into a room and you know he owns himself. he is not codependent, he is real, he is brave!