posted February 19, 2008 11:31 PM              

This is really a rant, so I should warn you! I am realy confused at my lack of success in relationships. I have great friends-friends I have had for years, some since I was in elementary school. I love my friends like familiy and they are very important to me. People think I am nice, some say, witty. I can be serious of course, reserved, and I love being able to be independent, but I would like to really connect with someone. So I really can't seem to understand how at age 24 I've had not one single relatioship with a guy. Is there something in my chart which reflects problems like this? I feel as if my life is one endless cyclical pattern-one I am trying to change.

Here is how it has gone in the last two years: I meet a guy I am attracted to or who is attracted to me, some miscommunication (or lack of communiction)ensues, which leads to them treating me coldly, and basically rejecting me. OR, a guy takes a fatherly interest in me, treats me delicately, and unmistakably at a distance. When all I really want is a nice guy who I can laugh and connect with which so easy to other people. When I am really attracted to someone it also is really hard for me to let go, especially if it had a negative outcome, which is often. So I am beginnng to wonder what's wrong with me.

I really believe in reincarnation and all that, and that there are life lessons we are all here to learn, and as of this moment, I am convinced that having healthy, positive relationships with men is one of those lessons. This does leave me to wonder what I could have done in my past life!

Am I just attracted to the wrong guys? Do I project too much independence? What is going on!!

posted February 19, 2008 11:44 PM            

I'm also a Capricorn with Gemini rising (though I have a more difficult chart), and I'm honestly in my longest relationship right now at age 35. My girlfriend and I have been together a year-and-a-half now.

posted February 20, 2008 12:33 AM              

I disagree about waiting until 30 to have a serious relationship. It's always good advice to develop oneself before entering into anything long-term but I think maybe you just haven't met the right person. Or it could be that you get stuck in that game-playing stage with certain guys.

Reading your post reminded me a little of myself a couple years back when i first moved to NYC. I would meet men whom I'd fall for instantly only to have them back off after a few dates. I generally go for older guys too so it was a frustrating time in my life because I just wasn't interested in guys my age.

My advice is to go after what you want when you find it but don't feel like you have to rush because you're 24 and haven't been in anything serious. Serious happens only with the right person.

Sarai

posted February 23, 2008 03:04 PM              

I agree that I do need someone who is down to earth and practical and that moon opposed saturn is hard to deal with especially, since my moon is a singleton in Taurus (stability, security) which opposes saturn in the 5th (or 6th house, since it's late). But, wait until 30!!? I have heard that for people with saturn in the 7th though.

AG- THanks so much for replying. You always seem to reply and give good information for me. We do have a really similar chart-but why do you say yours is more difficult? The Venus/Saturn contact? I like my Mercury/neptune/jupiter conjunction in the 7th house, and I do see what you mean about comunication being an issue-I am trying to figure this out myself. That aspect seems to be good for the poet that I am, but maybe high expections in relationships w/ that neptune involved. Congrats on your relationship!

Sarai- Thanks for your advice. I admit that I do feel rushed, a little odd (maybe it's that venus/uranus conjunction?) because of this situation, but it's true and quite possible that I really haven't met the right person yet-I never thought about that before.

Now that I think about, I am wondering of my taurus moon singleton has a lot to do with my relationships-taurus usually choose security and a "one on one" relationship over many.

Does anyone here know anyone with a moon singleton??

posted February 23, 2008 04:44 PM              

You also have venus opposite TN, in the 12th. You may need to develop your independence in this life before you have a relationship. It sounds like you've done this, so you may be ready. This means you have venus conjunct SN - meaning it's natural for you to fall into a relationship, or focus on one.

I'm a late bloomer too, like AG. I think it's because I have my venus aspected by saturn and uranus. Of course, there are non-astrological reasons as well. I met the wrong people - people who were no good, basically. I also think it takes some of us longer to be ready. I wanted to work on myself, making myself healthy and mature, so I could meet someone who is healthy and mature. I also take relationships very seriously. I guess that's my venus conjunct saturn.

For you, you have pluto transiting your 7th house. A lot of people meet someone under this transit. Just be prudent....think, pluto observation, when you meet someone find out what they're really like before jumping in, because this transit can bring the negative plutonian types in if you're not paying attention.

posted February 23, 2008 05:43 PM            

I can relate with you. I'm also 24 and I haven't been in a serious relationship. I always thought it was my retrograde Venus in Virgo squaring Chiron in the 7th and Jupiter and Uranus in the 1st, sextiling Saturn (lol, that's a lot). But, maybe it's not those things.

I'm not going to give you advice, being that I don't really have any good advice to give, since I'm in the same situation, but I will say this... I know that it's hard to feel like you're behind. That's the way I feel. Like I'm completely behind and I don't know how to catch up.

I wish you the best, and I hope that we can both figure out ways to improve ourselves in this area.

posted February 23, 2008 06:52 PM              

You sound like a really nice girl. I am sure you will be OK with the right guy. Cant force that to happen so chill in the meantime and enjoy it whilst you can. Maybe you are putting too much pressure on yourself to be in a full blown relationship.

posted February 23, 2008 06:58 PM            

Nep in 7th - maybe seeking ideal or confusing those in relaitonships with you
Saturn in 5th - restrictions or at least seeking serious relationship. Also mars conj pluto - intense maybe frustration that lovers pick up on.