posted April 20, 2008 02:01 PM         

Basically I want to stick it out and hope that sometime in the near future he'll WANT to make it official. Is this in the cards? Also, what do you see in the composite charts/synastry? Are they mainly good or mainly bad?

HALP

Midpoint Composite:

Davison:

Synastry:

posted April 20, 2008 02:16 PM         

Comparing your relationship-charts I noticed a Venus-Neptune-pattern.
Venus and Neptune are conjunct in Davison and Composite, and in the synastry there seems to be a Venus-Neptune-square.
It could mean that there is the possibility of illusions, deception, disappointment, unrealistic expectations and clouded judgement under a cover of sweet romanticism.
(Venus-Neptune can be gentle and compassionate and a true soulmate-aspect imo, but I don`t like the square).
His Uranus conjunct your Mars can also be very unstable, unpredictable and unreliable, despite of some kind of erotic electricity.
There are good aspects, too, of course. But actually I would leave astrology out of this and ask yourself if you are really willing to let him treat you like that.

posted April 20, 2008 02:33 PM         

Nice aspects although l don't like his neptune in your 7th nor the saturn/mars/uranus loose conjunct.

posted April 20, 2008 05:18 PM         

His Neptune squares your Sun BOOM!!! That measurement suggests that HE IS DECEIVING YOU!!! You're feeling idealistic about him, which doesn't make him ideal. You are a naive 20 year old woman, and it's not a bad thing to be unless it is putting your health at risk and your life in danger.

He's a college age young man, that's what they do, he's supposed to be free and experimenting at this point in his life, so he's deluding himself also by trying to commit when he's not ready. College age men are supposed get drunk and party and find women to have sex with. They do it now so they get it out of their system before it's time to settle down for the rest of their lives. (That's my opinion) He is not ready to settle down by any means. Even if you are using condoms with this guy, if he's sleeping with other women, he's putting you at risk for HERPES and the very least, CRABS!

I'm very sorry that you are learning about this the hard way, but he is not going to stop this behavior, mainly because you keep taking him back. And I understand that it's not easy to let him go, if it was easy, no one would ever find themselves in this situation.

Please learn this lesson the easy way before he gives you some horrible disease. It's always the nice people who are giving these STD's and getting them. The bad guys know how to protect themselves.

I'm really sorry sweetie, this guy is bad news for you.

Geocosmic Valentine
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posted April 20, 2008 05:50 PM         

Unfortunately it mesmerizes you as well, it's almost like he puts you in a kind of lovely trance.

There's a lot of electric sexual energy between you, but the flip side of that is lots of anger. You have double whammy Uranus-Mars aspects creating that.

posted April 21, 2008 02:13 AM         

But also when this Genuius will make that stubborn decision to be with you, the he will stick to it.

I do feel somewhat concerned that both are less then 22 years old. I mean, as a Libra you would always love to see commitment and eventually marriage, but this Genius hasn't even had his Saturn return which is due after 8 years. Keep the friendship Alive for now if thigns dont work out, because this Genius will be missed and may be available after five to seven years if you are still looking.

posted April 22, 2008 12:21 PM         

He has a Libra stellium (Sun, Moon, Mercury & Venus), which one would think would make a very relationship oriented person. However, his north node is in his 7th house (but in Aries). So I guess it's more comfortable for him to be alone?

posted April 22, 2008 12:40 PM         

When you order a report from an astrological service, it's not their job to teach you astrology, it's their job to interpret the symbols or a person who is a non-astrologer.

If you want to learn astrology, start reading astrology books or take some classes. It's not something you learn over night. The internet can be very misleading in making you believe that you can learn it over night. It doesn't happen that way.

Saturn = Wisdom
Saturn = Time

Wisdom takes Time.

Also, there is nothing in any of these charts that you have posted or all of astrology that over rides
COMMON SENSE and INTELLIGENCE! There is nothing in those charts that's going to change the fact that he cheated on you and will continue to cheat on you because he can. The level of disrespect he showers on you as well, by not honoring you and allowing you the label of "girlfriend" also speaks volumes about his character, or really, his lack of character.

And it is now beginning to speak volumes about the amount of self-respect you are losing by continuing to allow him to wipe his shoes on you.

posted April 22, 2008 01:33 PM         

Maybe he cared for her more than he does for you?
I know this is not what you want to hear, but I completely agree with Geocosmic Valentine.
His behaviour tells you clearly that he won`t commit to you (and he even told you so), and the astrological charts don`t look so grand either.

his Uranus conjunct your Mars
his Sun square your Uranus
his Venus square your Neptune
his Mars square your Chiron
his Uranus opposite your Chiron
his Uranus conjunct your DC

Those aspects alone describe that it is very challenging and maybe impossible to make this relationship a committed one (a little bit Uranus is nice, but most people can`t deal with too much Uranian influence; it`s too erratic and unreliable).
I don`t like the T-square to your Chiron either; often squares to Chiron can feel very painful. Yes, it is also the asteroid of healing, but before the healing takes place, there will be wounds, and it will be your wounds (your Chiron).

Of course there are also better aspects. Otherwise there would have been no emotional and / or sexual attraction.
Your Venus opposite his Sun (I guess this is rather wide, isn`t it? I can`t see the degrees) is a sign of magnetic attraction. Opposites attract. You are Venus, so I guess you are the most attracted. You are so charmed by him.

But all in all, his actions speak for themselves, as you surely know.
And I am just unsure what exactly is it that you want us to do?
Giving you advice on what to do?
Analyzing the charts?
Tell you what you want to hear?

But returning to your questions in the first post:

"Basically I want to stick it out and hope that sometime in the near future he'll WANT to make it official. Is this in the cards?"
No. I don`t think so. NOt after what you told us about him.

" Also, what do you see in the composite charts/synastry? Are they mainly good or mainly bad?"
I have only looked at the synastry. I see a lot of electricity, excitement and chemistry. But I also see the risk of being deceived and a highly unstable relationship. Rather an affair than a committed relationship.

After a first glance the composite seems to confirm that.
Uranus square Moon
Eros conjunct Sun
Venus sextile Mars
Uranus exactly opposite Chiron

Good physical chemistry and attraction, but unpredictable and unstable (URanus square Moon as the chartruler), and someone will get hurt (Uranus opposite Chiron).

in the DAvison:
Uranus opposite Chiron on the relationship-axis
ASC, Saturn and Uranus conjunct: strange combination: a lasting unstable relationship? (Saturn can make this thing last, but he can`t make Uranus disappear; so even if you will stay together, it probably will still be very Uranian, unpredictable).

Sun in 12th house: either highly spiritual or a secret relationship

Moon trine Venus / Neptune: romantic and idealistic feelings between you two.

Moon opposite Mars: could get ugly over time; Emotions could get volatile and uncontrolled, which is nice in a passionate sense, but difficult if you want to live together

posted April 22, 2008 05:27 PM         

darkdreamer: I doubt that. He never talks about her except once when he called her boring. His Sun is at 1 Libra and my Venus is at 29 Pisces, so a 2 degree orb.

to everyone else: I know what the "common sense" approach to this situation is. I came here for astrological advice. I only gave background information because it seems to make people want to read charts more (which I really hate doing because it makes people look for the patterns of that story in the charts, instead of taking an objective look at them).

In any case, I can't stop seeing him. When he's not around I miss him. He misses me, too. It's easier to say "THIS IS STUPID IM BREAKING IT OFF" than to actually do it.

posted April 22, 2008 05:41 PM         

Like any stressful aspect, with time it tends to become easier to live with.

posted April 22, 2008 05:48 PM         

I actually agree with you that it is easier said than done. If it was easy, no one would ever find themselves in this situation. Here's some gentle advice for you because you've already heard the tough love stuff. Instead of saying, "I can't," turn that into, "I'm having difficulty breaking it off." That way your mind subconciously readies itself to gently begin the process.

Also, Libra's are not stereotypically inclined toward wanting relationships. More often than not, a part of Libra's karma is learning to handle relationships, learning to balance within relationships. They usually have the most difficulty with relationships than most of the other signs. If not Libra Sun, then Libra Rising and Libra Moon's as well.

You may find that if you don't end the relationship, he will. With all of that tense Uranus energy, this will be a roller coaster ride complete with lightening boltz and electrical shocks the whole time.