posted April 26, 2008 01:22 AM         

As for relationships, it you shouldn't have problems. Your 5th house ruler (jupiter) and 7th house ruler (saturn) are in ok shape and aren't badly aspected to each other. I don't want to sound as if I am scaring you, but your saturn is also conj NN which might indicate some importance for having a relationship and you might be going through your saturn now or sometime soon (not sure where saturn is at the moment).

posted April 26, 2008 07:36 PM         

I think the problem you described has to do with your sensitivity and insecurity.

You must be extremely sensitive with both Sun and MOON in the 12th house. And I don't know how close that Moon is to Ascendant but I think it makes a conjunction. So both your Mercury and Moon conjunct Asc. This probably makes you talk talk talk, and maybe too much sometimes. So it is possible that you give too much away, like an open book + your sensitivity is SO obvious to men I think. Other aspects: Venus opposite Neptune - more sensitivity, dreams, illusions; Venus square Saturn - insecurity.

I picture the following. You are in a bar. A guy comes up to you. Tries to make a conversation with you. Asks you a question. You give an answer, then an answer to a question that haven't been asked yet. Then YOU lead the conversation. And he is observing you. And in his mind he thinks you're trying too hard because you're insecure, and you're very emotional = needy (doesn't like that), and basically that he's got to go any time now.

posted April 26, 2008 08:29 PM         

It's usually that if 10 men will be interested in a woman for only physical reasons, only 1 will have more serious intentions. It's like, you could find a guy to have a casual rltnship with any time, but for something more genuine sometimes people have to wait for months or years.

I guess with lots of Cancer, you WANT to believe that their attention is not superficial and since you are more romantic/emotional this upsets you more than less emotional women.

posted April 26, 2008 09:04 PM         

I hope you find what you're looking for.

You have a very beautiful chart.

posted April 26, 2008 10:22 PM         

me, for instance, find people who "normal people" find dirty and trashy super attractive. and people who i find "boring" are the nice and sensible people in a general sense. it's just the combination of who we meet who. you are a respectable person of your own. and there are people in the world who need you type. it really doesn't matter! i'm sorry about your problem, but in a different degree, i think all of us have the same problem with not getting exactly what we want. i wish more trashy and dirty bum types liked me for instance. ha ha ha... ugh.

posted April 26, 2008 11:06 PM         

I don't mean for the above to sound egocentric. It's important to GIVE and I would also GIVE double measure in return.. but it is a two way street. So if you give and the other person takes without reciprocating – you need to put your foot way down and say *enough* - EXIT is thata way!

Why are you doing anything physical with these men, in the first place?
You need to set some rules. They'll understand, trust me. But you can't be that nice (like being with them because - you feel sorry for them or their puppy ran away from home last night or they need a confidence boost) You have to be at least a little rough. With all that Cancer this won't come naturally. Force yourself to be rougher. They can take it.

Another thing – you're trying to impress them?

posted April 28, 2008 10:14 AM         

I think there must be great guys out there,
who could appreciate you for much more than just sex.

posted April 28, 2008 10:21 AM         

True love will find you in the end
You'll find out just who was your friend
Don’t be sad, I know you will,
But don’t give up until
True love will find you in the end.

This is a promise with a catch
Only if you're looking will it find you
‘Cause true love is searching too
But how can it recognize you
Unless you step out into the light, the light?
Don’t be sad, I know you will,
But don’t give up until
True love will find you in the end.

posted April 28, 2008 12:42 PM         

I like the lyrics to that song.

posted April 29, 2008 02:06 AM         

And CF made excellent points. If you're already dealing with a world where many guys just wanna get laid and are looking for someone to satisfy that for them, you have to put up some boundaries and send out some clear signals that that's not your thing, or they'll see you as being that since they so desperately want a woman who will be just that.

If you're too nice and let someone else shape you to serve their needs, many will take advantage of that and not give a thought as to what your needs are. And with your Sun and Moon in your 12th, you may be very aware of who you are and what you want, but others don't see that part of you. So you have to make a conscious effort to communicate who you are with words. Don't expect your body language or actions to be sufficient in clearly expressing your identity, as tempting as that type of nonverbal communication may be for you (Merc sextile Mars).

posted April 30, 2008 06:13 PM         

triplecancer,