posted May 31, 2008 08:26 PM
Hi, LEOs seem to be a "running gag" in my personal love life. Not only was my first boyfriend ever a Leo ... the man I had the most serious, "marriagelike" relationship with (for 9 years) was a Leo as well (also his ASC in Leo).
And so was my latest love, the one I've just broken-up with in April, after one year of an intense long-distance relationship.
Sooo ... I'd really rate myself as an "expert" as far as being a Leo-guy's girlfriend is concerned.;-)
Yeah - the "showing off"-factor is important. They want/need to be proud of you.
But every medal has two sides - so, PRIDE is exactly the factor where problems and frictions reside in a relationship with Leo - at least from my perspective/experience. They always want to be Number One, in every second. And they find it hard to grant you your own glorious moments. In fact, they want their partners to shine. But beware! And don't dare to shine brighter than a Leo in any social occasion - and be it just for one day. They cannot stand that.
They definitely lose all their generosity if anyone seems to be "more succesful" as themselves ... even if this is not a constant thing, but only temporarily.
Two of my three Leo-boyfriends could cope with the fact that I am a quite "successful" and independent person (in my social and professional life.) They accepted it - and sooner or later saw the benefits that brought to them as well. And even found a way to support me, somehow.
But the latest Leo seems to have been a less evolved Leo-type. He was loaded with jealousy and always tried to belittle, weaken or confuse people who SEEMED to have certain things going for them that he had no access to. He was the opposite of "generous" - very childish in his eagerness to be "the first" in all matters possible. He was a 42 year old who couldn't even stand to lose a backgammon-match for instance. (Honestly: he swept the backgammon-game off the table, when he lost 3 games in a row or so. Well, he was "blessed" with an ARIES-Moon as well, which opposed his Mars ....)
It makes me laugh now - episodes like that. But ... it turned to hell while being with him.
One day he presented me, his girlfriend, to his friends and talked about my profession and all, and behaved like a "proud mentor" ... the other day he couldn't stand the fact that I'd come up in some (minor) Televison-reports because of my profession. Once he switched off the TV, when that happened and said: "Your professional crap don't interest me at all." (Which was really rude, VERY small minded ... and just showed his insecurity to a degree that almost turned me off, already then, months before I left him. I tried to "accept" his vanity and have "compassion" for him so often, I have a caring Cancer-Sun - but I am also a cardinal being - and this didn't work well with the latest Leo I was in love with, not at all. He felt threatened all the time.)
So - I guess the evolved LEO-types can really make you feel special, from time to time. But the lesser evolved ... are just plainly childish, jealous, insecure with themselves and talk in quite mean ways about other people.
The best Leo can be a joy, a "proud man" to be with, a real man with some minor vanities, but: who isn't vain once in a while? ;-)
The worst Leo is a childish, small minded, vain and insecure beast - with a temper of a three year old toddler, a very aggressive one.