posted June 29, 2008 10:01 PM         

Is there anything interesting in our chart ?Do we have some kind of "fate " ? I'm curious~

I has no plant falls into his 7th and 8th house, but his Jupiter falls into my 7th house. does that mean his is not attracted ?

I hope I can know how to interact with him and this relationship.Is this is possible a long-term relationship ?

posted July 03, 2008 01:03 AM         

Here's what jumps out at me. First, you have a nearly exact conjunction of your ascendants -- you see the world in the same way; you might even have a similar appearance to him or use some of the same mannerisms he does. When you first met, there was probably something very familiar about each other; you may see yourself in him.

There is a nearly exact conjunction of your moons as well. Normally, this is GREAT for an emotional connection; you may have had similar childhoods, and you tend to go through moods at the same time, your 'good' and 'bad' days will coincide, and you can really understand each other on a very intimate level. However... the moons are in unemotional Aquarius, making it difficult for those moony feelings to be expressed. What's more, he's got Saturn (restraint) opposing both his and your moons -- emotional expression does NOT come easy to him, at all, as his deepest feelings are constantly being held in check by Saturn, which is in a fairly prominent spot at the top of his chart (conjuncting the house cusp it rules). His poor moon does not have much of an outlet. I's also in an airy house -- the 3rd -- so he expresses his feelings in a very rational, mental manner, which may come across as seeming cold.

You also have sun square sun, indicating ego clashes; even though you understand each other emotionally, significant parts of your identities may be at odds.

There's a double-whammy of Mars square Venus (INTENSE sexual chemistry, though it comes along with a fair bit of conflict).

So, how does he feel about you?

His south node is touched by your Saturn, Sun, and Mercury (and maybe Venus depending on the orb). This is pretty significant. Right from the beginning, you felt very familiar to him, like an old friend he hadn't seen in a while. South node contacts are great for getting a relationship started (they create a very magnetic pull), but the danger is that he may feel you're holding him back in life, and the relationship might feel redundant to him. Make sure you support his goals and dreams and do not try to discourage him from things you don't agree with (these things are good for his soul growth). If you feel him pulling away or being distant, it could be because he's feeling smothered, stifled, and dragged back into the past.

With your Sun, Saturn, and Mercury in his sixth house, he might also feel like you are too critical of him at times. Even if you're not trying to nit-pick, he could feel like you're nagging him.

Your Venus falls into his 5th house of love and romance, which is pretty great. He definitely sees you as fun and this is an awesome placement for romantic relationships.

Your Jupiter and Uranus in his 11th house of friendship is good for general compatibility. You aren't just lovers; you are also friends.

My suggestion is to SERIOUSLY work on communication with your boyfriend. You also have your Mercuries square (at least by sign), which makes communication require a little more effort than normal... it is likely you don't always see eye-to-eye and you may have very different styles of expressing yourselves (his Capricorn Merc is reserved and quiet while your Aries Merc is impulsive, honest, and sometimes a little blunt). Make sure any conflicts or doubts you're having are brought into the open and discussed.

posted July 04, 2008 06:12 AM         

Your desciption is exactly what the situation is!I'm implusive and honest , I express my true feeling to him and I 've told him just say things to me directly as I do. It works badly sometimes. And when he angry his words are really hurt my heart.

Yes, I had the incredible feeling when we first contacted, that't facinated to me, several times he said words thatjust what I 'm going to say ! and we have the similar personal experience in our childhood. and so many things in common. I don't understand, based on these advantages, why can't we just open our mind and accept the other one ? I 've opened my heart ti him, why he be so cool ?

By the way ,this paragraph,about the south Nord,you said:
"
. South node contacts are great for getting a relationship started (they create a very magnetic pull), but the danger is that he may feel you're holding him back in life, and the relationship might feel redundant to him. ..."
.I think I support him a lot ,his work, his idea etc, is this a unchanged (never/hard to be changed) subconcious to his feeling?
How can I do ?

In term of my Venus falls into his 5th house, Is that good for a relationship ?

posted July 04, 2008 06:07 PM         

"I don't understand, based on these advantages, why can't we just open our mind and accept the other one ? I 've opened my heart ti him, why he be so cool ?"

A really big part of this is that Saturn/Moon opposition in his chart. He truly has a hard time expressing his emotions -- not just to you, but probably in any situation. It's possible, too, that his relationship with his father (represented by Saturn) influenced his inability to express himself when he was growing up, and so the habits he learned as a child cause him to still be very emotionally reserved. (This is just one possibility, though... it could just be a natural character trait, too.)

Since your moon is not in hard aspect with your natal Saturn, you can't relate to his emotionally cool behavior. You have nothing in your own chart to restrain your emotions... you probably wear your heart on your sleeve and don't hesitate to share how you're feeling. So even though you both have an Aquarian moon, he expresses himself in a much more conservative manner than you do.

I should mention that even though he isn't very vocal about his emotions, he probably DOES feel things deeply -- it looks like he has moon trine Pluto, a pretty intense aspect. He just can't get those emotions out into the open; they rest deeply within him, stifled by Saturn.

In fact, intuitively, I would guess that your relationship (how well you relate to each other, your similarities, etc.) scares him, causing him to freeze up even more. The more intense his emotions, the more difficult they are for him to deal with. It's possible that he is pushing you away because he doesn't know how to deal with the intensity. Instead of trying to understand and express his emotions, he might choose to run.

If that's the case, there's unfortunately not much you can do about it. It will be up to him to reflect inwardly and face his own emotional repression... and that can be a very painful, difficult thing for someone to do, especially if they've lived their whole life suffocating their inner most feelings.

As for the South Node stuff, yes, a huge part of it is subconscious. I actually had a relationship three years ago where I met someone with a whole bunch of planets sitting on my South Node. When we first met, it was the most incredible feeling of familiarity. We got along so easily -- I'd never experienced anything like it. But the longer we dated, the more I got this strange feeling that I was being held back, and that being with this man wasn't allowing me to follow my own life path. I can't explain it too well, but eventually something in me snapped and I had an overwhelming urge to break away from the relationship and do some soul-searching for myself. So it's possible your boyfriend is experiencing something similar -- a weird, indescribable feeling of being held back. It's almost certainly not from anything you're doing on purpose... I know my ex-boyfriend loved me dearly and wanted to support my dreams. It's more of a personal thing he might be feeling. (I should mention also, that breaking up with that man, even though I felt it was completely necessary, was one of the most difficult things I've ever done in my life. Nodal contacts act like glue sometimes, and when you leave someone you have those aspects with, it can feel like losing a part of your soul. Pretty awful!)

That said, South Node contacts don't doom a relationship, especially if there are lots of other good aspects like you and your boyfriend have. When you talk to him, just remember how difficult it is for him to express his emotions, and try not to get frustrated (even though you can't relate to his reserved style). Also keep in mind that he may be feeling a lot of things he just doesn't know how to put into words, or is uncomfortable expressing.

posted July 05, 2008 06:24 AM         

I love him by the incredible connection I found between us, I never met someone who can give me such feeling. I long for the sprit connection in my relationship, he makes me feel that someone really know you instinctively , really know what you are talking about.I had no such feeling with my other ex-boyfriends . Even this relationship is significant to me , I feel disappoint, deeply, especially when we hurt each other.Will his Satrun hurt my Moon all my life /forever?

My Aries character pushs me to be strong , I'm very optimistic,when my life is in trouble or something bad happen to me, I always want to give a fight to improve it.
I try my best, then go with the flow......