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alvarella777
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posted July 22, 2008 09:36 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for alvarella777     Edit/Delete Message
***edit***: Hi - I posted this 2 months ago - but it still hasn't stopped! It is still going on! Break up has happend almost 6 months ago!!! This guy is still coming over to my website regularly - as if he'd wanted to control everything I do! WHAT IS THIS? Six months after we broke up? Haven't met each other since then, not even talked to another ... I cannot help but see his "clicks" when I open the backroom of my webpage ...

Hi out there.

3 months ago, I broke-up a relationship (long distance) after one year of intense passion, romance - but also with heavy mind and power games going on. (I told about that love story in other threads before). The weird thing is: Although 3 months have passed and we didn’t ever talk to each other since then, nor exchanged e-mails or anything … it seems that both of us are still obsessed, can’t let go.

How I know? Well, I am running my own (rather personal) website, and I must admit: I’ve got a “visitor counter” running in the background – and from that I can see that he still clicks on my page daily!!! As if he wanted to “control” what I am doing …

So – he is obsessed with my website – and I am obsessed with seeing his “clicks” – WEIRD!

Here is our Synastry and Composite:

-edit: me on the inside, he on the outside -edit -


Although it was me who broke-up (in order to save myself, a matter of survival instinct) I still have strong feelings for him! “Pride” is a matter for both of us…

We’ve got several so called “strong” Synastry-connections, like my Pluto cj. his Venus and my North Node cj. his Vertex and my BM cj. his Sun.

COULD SOMEBODY TELL ME PLEASE: Is it just his instinctual need for “control” – or could he still have “romantic” feelings for me? Why is it that he can’t let go of my website???

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amowls
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posted July 22, 2008 11:58 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for amowls     Edit/Delete Message
I think you hit the nail on the head with the Venus conjunct Pluto & NN conjunct Vertex. Plus you have a yod pointing to a Pluto/Venus conjunction in your composite.

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Dooza
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posted July 23, 2008 05:24 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Dooza     Edit/Delete Message

Two Venus in Virgoes are HOT HOT HOT - No wonder you're obsessed! Intimacy must have been EXCELLENT!!

I notice his IC and your DC conjunct. Would that account for anything?

Your Eros on his IC must have a potent feel to it.

Good to see those asteroids included

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alvarella777
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posted July 23, 2008 06:25 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for alvarella777     Edit/Delete Message
Thanks for your replies so far!;-)

But ... "passion" can be benevolent & goodwilled ... and it can also be on the more evil side.

I ALWAYS had such a strong impression that this guy would want to "control" me in a way - and I always got some "sadistic" impression fro him - quite selfish.

What I am wondering about ... if you look at the charts: WHY is he still watching my page??? Is that ... due to a "romantic" impulse??? In that case: Would it make sense to even contact him again?

Or is his interest just caused by ... don't know what.

I am buffled, that after 3 months he STILL is watching what I am doing, daily!!! (And I can't help but notice, because I see my visitor-reports automatically when I open my web-account...)

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cristiname
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posted July 24, 2008 11:18 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for cristiname     Edit/Delete Message
things left unaddressed between the two of you; problems unsolved; classic mistake - you can't move on untill you close this chapter in your life - as in CLOSURE ;-)

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Dooza
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posted July 24, 2008 05:01 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Dooza     Edit/Delete Message

Venus conjunct Pluto synastry can pack a whack in the attraction/obsession dept.

Vertex is bang on NN as amowls pointed out. Now that is significant!! I'm not quite sure how with it taking place in the 3rd and 6th houses. I would say that you really had an impact on this guy and may have been, I repeat MAY HAVE been his best lover. Maybe you opened him up to needing to think about his life in a realistic manner (wake-up call).

If he really is my astro-twin - although there really are a lot of differences in our charts - then I would say he is really obsessing over this love and will not be released from it for years. But he will eventually move on and met someone else.

His venus in virgo in the 3rd H could give venus some challenges I imagine - it could highlight virgo's analytical mind, putting the softer yummier aspects of love on the back burner.

I'm really thinking that AC/MC and IC/DC conjunctions have a huge impact as well, but am still learning myself on these points.

Will ponder further.........

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Diandra23
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posted July 24, 2008 05:53 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Diandra23     Edit/Delete Message
Hi Alvarella

Obsession i see clearly in the venus/pluto conjunction but you already know that.
Maybe if you look closely to asteroids you will discover more than what you would imagine?

I see that your Vesta conj his Pluto - Vesta stands to sacred,to vows like the ones ancient roman virgins made for their Godessess - you are somehow dedicated and devoted to him,and to his intensity.Do you feel magnetized by him?

Your Llith conj his sun - you may awaken in him feminine energies that are deep within him.Lilith is also dangerous and quite strong when it comes to primal energies,ones that we cannot control.

your amor conj his Moon:you love his emotional world,you might found romantic the way he shows his feelings?

his kiron/eros conj your IC:he hits your inner core.Both erotically and capable of wounding and healing also.

Your NN conj his lust/vx :fated relationship definatelly.And again this aspect denotes an erotic love between you

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alvarella777
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posted July 24, 2008 05:54 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for alvarella777     Edit/Delete Message
DOOZA: His Venus is in his 1st house, actually. ;-) Thank you and the others for adding your thougths;-)

It is gettin even MORE SPOOKY now!!! And this comes from MY PART of the story now.

Sounds unbelievable, but ... : I got a suprising job offer yesterday - the job will last for 3 weeks only - it will be in HIS COUNTRY, in HIS TOWN!!!! All is very urgent, they need someone there (sort of a correspondent thing) - and they asked me!!! Just yesterday!!! The job will be payed very (!) well, and I'd love to do it.

But .. it is HIS town! Where we spent so much time together ... and we had plans that I'd move there this summer - before we broke-up then. (That was part of my hurt - that I had prepared everything for my big move already)

So .. this is a HUGE flashback from ... fate (?) now - isn't it??? I honestly cannot believe this ... just as I started to re-think all of that story, (posting this thread) - after 3 months of hard work, trying to forget him.

Now the offer to work in HIS TOWN - dammit!

The problem is: It is a rather small town ... and it will be hard to avoid him. Of course I will try everything I can NOT to bump into him on the street or anything.

I also considered not to accept that 3-weeks-job ... but it is a FINE job and extraordinary well payed.

Besides ... I cannot help but hear "karma" calling me here. There MUST be something to this coincidence.

At the same time ... I am quite clear with myself that I really DON'T want to get back with him. I did so much work to get over him, lately - and my heart has stopped beating for him already - all that's left is some mental riddle, WHY he might have acted the way he did. Honestly: Even IF we met, any conversation wouldn't help us - because he just wouldn't be able to speak frankly, he is definitely too cautious, proud and all ... So - I know in advance, a "talk" wouldn't help - actually I am rather fearing disappointment, seeing him (coincidentally) again.

I clearly do NOT want to meet him again, this time.

I am especially afraid of seeing him with a (probable) "new love"....

At the same time ... I am willing to risk it. It is too intruiging! This coincidence. Today, I accepted that totally surprising job offer. (Not without checking my upcoming transits, of course - they're great and promise some strength and charisma to me, in many ways, in the respective ways.)

I wil be there from the 4th of August onwards ...

What a .... SICK adventure!!!! Help me someone, please!!!


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Dooza
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posted July 25, 2008 02:24 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Dooza     Edit/Delete Message

OMG! Karma certainly is calling, you are right!!!

Just think of all the knowflakes you are going to keep intrigued on this one!!!

Very quickly now, as it's my partner's birthday and I have things to do.... I read somewhere (will try to search it out over the weekend) that the AC DC IC MC are electric and magnetic connections....

Congratulations on your job, btw.....

Gotta go!!! Have fun pondering your new future!!! We will be here for you

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alvarella777
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posted July 27, 2008 12:25 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for alvarella777     Edit/Delete Message
Dooza, once more: Thanks a lot for your kind attention to my ongoing weirdo-story! ;-)

IF you should find some material on the axis-overlay (his AC conjunct my MC etc) I would be very grateful if you post a link here. Because I searched myself already - and found nothing.

Actually, his birthtime is probaly correct, he got it from his mother, and I am very sure that mine is correct too ... and the AC-MC-cojunction is a tight one ...

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Dooza
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posted July 29, 2008 06:59 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Dooza     Edit/Delete Message

Sorry about the delay Avarella! I just can't find that website. I though I had saved it in my favs.

I haven't forgotten though! I shall keep my eyes open!!!!

I'll correct my self, too - I think the AC/DC is magnetic and the MC/IC is a gravitational attraction, from memory.

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alvarella777
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posted October 02, 2008 07:23 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for alvarella777     Edit/Delete Message
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