posted July 23, 2008 08:08 AM         

His Saturn quincunx My Venus

What does it mean to your relationship when your Saturn is quincunx to your partner's Venus? Your concepts gathered during previous relationships are preventing you from fully experiencing love and attraction in the present. You are finding obligations and responsibilities which inhibit or restrict your ability to spend time with your romantic partner. Your partner may be reacting to your inability to express your feelings by distancing him or herself from you.

posted July 23, 2008 08:46 AM         

Reason I'm asking is because the quincunx is all about adjustment. Let's say you were the one in the relationship that had extra caricular duties that prevented you from spending time with your guy. Well, since the quincunx is about adjustment, you would MAKE time for your guy.

Let's say that your guy was being emotionally distant, try being more expressive of your own feelings for him and yu relationship and see if that warms him up to you more. Just remember that adjustment is required with quincunx aspects.

posted July 23, 2008 06:56 PM         

Saturn - "Your concepts gathered during previous relationships are preventing you from fully experiencing love and attraction in the present."

And the "you are finding obligations and responsibilities which inhibit or restrict your ability to spend time with your partner."

He is the Saturn in this aspect, and his marriage pretty much scarred him...to the point where I do think it is preventing him from experiencing love again. Of opening up his heart again. I feel like I am paying for everything he went through, and for how bad his marriage was. I think he just swore never to let someone that close again, because when they get that close, they end up hurting you.

And he is a workaholic. He's married to his job. (Juno in the 6th house!) He travels, and there is lots of pressure, and there is never any time for me in his life.

I have been struggling with this for two years now. I mean, how will he ever know what it will be like unless we actually begin? When it actually starts to be a relationship? He has kept it at this in-between place, somewhere between dating and a relationship.

It's almost like he doesn't want to let his guard down, you know? I told him that what we have is what people look for, that this is what people hope they will find. It's just really easy, and compatible, along with amazing chemistry. It's this great sense of oneness when we are together.

I went to psychics, because I just didn't understand why it didn't step up to the next level. And they pretty much told me there is tremendous fear on his part. That I'm going to hurt him. That he will be hurt again. He feels that women have only hurt him, have only taken from him.

And the workaholic aspect, they said that he fills the hole in his life with his work. Because he won't let love in again.

I know that the quincunx is an adjusting aspect. I have tried to give him as much space and understanding and time as I know how. We are at two years now. I told him if I stepped back, and gave him any more space, that I would be in Alaska! And that's some space, considering we're in Florida.

It also doesn't help that he is a Capricorn Moon, and his Saturn is in Scorpio in the 5th house. Lot's of reservation and caution there. I finally told him the weekend of May 31st that I was tired, and I couldn't do this anymore. That I wanted a relationship, and he didn't, so I guess he won. But in the bigger picture, he lost me. He said he didn't want to lose me, but he didn't want to lose himself in the process.