Posts: 162
From: Vienna, VA, USA
Registered: Jul 2006

posted July 23, 2008 10:31 AM         

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Hi!

I've been through this several times, it's not new, but still I'm always surprised when I get these kind of answers from this Aqua...
It happened 2 weeks ago, he forgot my Birthday, I reminded him a few days later about the "forgetting", he apologized and offered to invite me for dinner in a little more than a week and we agreed on a day that would be convenient for both of us...On Monday, he forgot about it...and so yesterday I nicely reminded him that he had forgotten that we were meeting for dinner and that I was feeling sad about all this... This is the response that I got last night:

"If feeling forgotten feels good, go for it. Or, remind me and have a nice time. My life is 100 times more complicated than yours. I don't think its unreasonable to ask you to help me remember things."

What do you all think? Is it me who is being "touchy" or what???

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From: Richmond, VA USA
Registered: Dec 2007

posted July 23, 2008 12:04 PM         

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That's a pretty dick response. Especially the whole "my life is just wayyy more interesting and complicated than yours so you can't EXPECT me to be a good friend/acquaintance/whatever to you, I just don't have time!"

I'd move on.

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From: Richmond, VA USA
Registered: Dec 2007

posted July 23, 2008 12:06 PM         

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Actually, let me make an amendment:

Maybe you should have called him on Monday to remind him. But I still meant what I said about his response.

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From: Vienna, VA, USA
Registered: Jul 2006

posted July 23, 2008 12:27 PM         

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Amowls,
That's what I did this morning. Nicely told him that it wasn't necessary for us to continue. I'm just sad that he could express something like this. i guess I was very stupid to believe so many things when clearly he doesn't care about my feelings. And I'm blaming myself for falling in the same trap over and over again. There was a lot of mental manipulation from his side.

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From: Bay Area, California, USA
Registered: Jan 2006

posted July 26, 2008 11:03 PM         

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Yeah, he was pretty much telling you he doesn't care about you. I am glad you took the not-so-subtle hint, however painful it feels, it's better for you in the long run.

Next time you're dating an Aqua, make sure he has planets in water signs like Pisces or Cancer. These will help him be more caring in personal relationships.

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From: Outside, to watch the nightfall in the rain
Registered: Aug 2006

posted July 26, 2008 11:07 PM         

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Aqu will always call in if they care. The way an Aqu shows they are not interested is either by saying they are too busy and distancing themselves or just not showing up. This is a good example of that case. Drop him, I say.

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From: Portland, OR
Registered: Jan 2004

posted July 26, 2008 11:39 PM         

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CP...you deserve much better than that. As much as his response/comment stings, I would move on too. Don't fight it or belabor it with him...don't approach the subject any more with him and just move on. Surround yourself with those in your life who can be more sensitive to your needs and celebrate you!

An Aqua's attention on you can be unpredictable, you never know when their concern will become apparent. However, when they do show concern or caring, it's genuine. But be prepared for that unpredictable nature of theirs to take precedent most of the time and detach from any outcomes.

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posted July 27, 2008 06:35 AM         

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hi crabplanet..

my brother and my bussiness partner are both aqua.
They think they are always right.They really make me angry sometimes.But they are not that rude,never..
What is his chart look like?
we can't have an opinion only by his sun sign.How about synastry?
It looks like you have stressful jupiter aspects in your synastry.Just guessing.
Don't want to monkey your bussiness but don't tolerate him this much.

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posted July 27, 2008 07:02 AM         

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What an ******* . If he genuinely forgot then he should be apologetic, not putting the blame on YOU.

Do not take this crap.

Pick up what's left of your pride and leave this rude ******* in the dust!

You are WAY too good for him.

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From: adelaide
Registered: Mar 2008

posted July 27, 2008 07:12 AM         

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ahhhh hun seriously
the guys not interested in you or anyone other than himself.
I hope you realise this guy cant feel anything for anyone hes not grown up yet!

Picture yourself sitting in your fav park with a picnic rug and say champaign maybe a hamper with some luxurious nibbles in there and your new man has arranged the whole dream b/day for you... feel the happiness?
now is that what that aqu makes you feel like? choices?

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From: U.K
Registered: Mar 2007

posted July 27, 2008 11:10 AM         

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Ooh can I jump in here(Aqua)
I just said exactly the same thing to someone yesterday.
He was Capricorn (Sorry but dull dull dull...but an absolute gentleman) Anyway I digress.
I said "I'm sorry but I can't see you any more because I am way too busy and I keep forgetting we were meant to be seeing one another and that makes me feel bad"

It didn't make me feel bad at all I was just softening the blow.

The truth is Crab,is that if we are busy we do forget and if someone stresses out about it our response will NEVER be
"Oh I am sorry. What an inconsiderate person I am. Please forgive me"

It will be...thinks Aqua...."Christ this is too much like hard work better forget it"

THEN...2 weeks/ months/ years down the line we will think
"I'm going to give BLANK a call. I have absolutely no idea what happened there"
Terrible terrible people. If you have a nth of sensitivity save yourselves!!!!

And here is the worst bit. This would be TOTALLY unacceptable behaviour if someone did it to me but in my world???

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From: Leeds
Registered: May 2008

posted July 27, 2008 01:34 PM         

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Make his life a little more simple and get rid.

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From: U.K
Registered: Dec 2007

posted July 28, 2008 04:24 AM         

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The purchase of a wall calendar solves these problems. It's not that hard to write up the birthday and anniversary dates of anyone likely to be hurt if their Birthday/Wedding Anniversary is forgotten. Or for techno-loving Aquas what about using a mobile phone text reminder facility? I know about this as I have my husband's old set and I got a reminder this year that my birthday was due.

No wonder his life is complicated if he isn't capable of basic organisation, and doesn't know or care what matters to a friend. He sounds a bit low on emotional intelligence.

Mars is in Aquarius on my chart, not Virgo, in case anyone wonders. Oh, and I agree with Kick It. Kick his Arse out, I say.

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