posted July 30, 2008 02:57 PM         

I'll be honest, I think he's the one.

For the first month or two, he agreed. He told me he was in love with me, never felt this way about anyone before, yadda yadda.

THEN, he decided (overnight practically) he didn't think he'd EVER be able to be with ONE person (he's mentioned threesomes with both sexes, but I know he's not actually gay). But he always wants me in his life...sex is irrelevent to him, whether we have it or not. It's our friendship and connection that matters to him. (??)

He refuses to label us as an item or couple (but we did at one time), yet we are exactly that in our actions. However, sometimes he refers to me as his girlfriend to people. He also makes analogies insinuating we are a couple...like comparing us to his parents and how they spend time away from each other.

I am just beside myself with his change of feelings. Yet, he still acts and shows the utmost respect (and romance). I just don't get it.

IS THIS TYPICAL ARIES BEHAVIOR!?

He says he doesn't get jealous or possessive, but rather "protective". The way he explains his feelings about love and relationships is that he just loves everyone and wants to be able to be free to do just that. He was sexually molested as a boy, by a man - perhaps this has something to do with this.

Any help would be so greatly appreciated, because I have found myself slumped into a deep depression full of confusion and apathy towards everything. I really think he's the one.

He's Aries Sun/Mars/Mercury,
Cappy rising, Venus Taurus, Libra Moon. Cancer rules his 5th and 6th (I believe, from memory). I can't post his chart at this very second.

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Sun in Libra
Asc. in Sagittarius
Moon in Virgo
Mercury in Libra
Venus in Scorpio
Mars in Leo
Jupiter in Libra
Saturn in Libra
Uranus in Scorpio
Pluto in Libra

posted July 30, 2008 03:28 PM         

I'll have to do up the synastry chart later, as I'm at work right now.

Thank you both so much for your help.

In the meantime, I can see if I have a synastry chart of us, but without Juno and Vertex.

posted July 30, 2008 04:30 PM         

It's odd, I also found myself attracted to people born in '81 quite a lot. But you must know I really dislike that Libra Saturn aiming at my free-spirited Sun!!

posted July 30, 2008 04:35 PM         

" Whatever you do, don't be possessive or clingy. He's got Sun trine Jupiter-Uranus and that spells free spirit. We don't like to be tied down to people, we like to come and go as we please. "

That's no problem with her. She's even a possessive,jealous type and prefers men like her in that way.

She has Moon-Saturn conjunction in Scorpio conjunct Pluto in Libra in 7th house. She has Venus in Taurus in 2nd.

she's not really a free spirit,but she's not into traditional female role. She is very liberal and a feminist. She's very reserved.

Her Sun trine Jupiter-Uranus in Sagittarius in 9th might also fit with her history of inter-ethnic relationships including with me.

I am a free spirit too,but I don't mind being tied down....especially if it's with the woman that I love.

posted July 30, 2008 05:01 PM         

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she's not really a free spirit,but she's not into traditional female role. She is very liberal and a feminist. She's very reserved.

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She's even a possessive,jealous type and prefers men like her in that way.

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posted July 30, 2008 05:19 PM         

You're a Cardinal sign. You know that we're pioneers, and that we always have agendas. His agenda is to experience as much as possible in the erotic relationship realm. Yours, being a Libra, may focus more on having a good relationship. He's got more flirting left in him, and lot's of passion for what he hasn't experienced. That's Aries Sun in the 3rd house all the way.

Look at his 5th house. On the cusp he has sexual Taurus followed by "I-don't-ever-want-to-be-bored" Gemini. That's the house that rules dating.

His 8th house cusp is in proud Leo. They say Leos like mirrors so that can watch themselves have sex. The other restless Mercury-ruled sign is also in the 8th.

posted July 30, 2008 08:29 PM         

I agree......Yes....she has Pisces Ascendant which is 16 minutes oppose my Virgo Ascendant.

"Btw (and very sorry for being offtopic, LC), how did your girlfriend handle the 3 malefics at war (Mars opp Saturn-Pluto)? I'm curious about other people's experiences with this."

She's very disciplined,good willpower,and she is nonviolent...she's never been into a fight. She stays out of a trouble. She is one of the good girl types.

posted July 31, 2008 07:33 AM         

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comparing us to his parents and how they spend time away from each other

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actually means because somehow I don't think he is talking about fishing trips and shopping.

What is he comparing you with? He mentioned it, so it must have some relevance to what he expects from relationships. Or maybe I am seeing things that aren't there. Maybe AG is right, he is like a kid in a sweet shop and will grow up in time. Or it may go a little deeper. It can take a long time for a person to question his/her past and how it effects their behaviour and he might not be ready for this ~ I'm focusing here on what I think is his Sun (CNJ Mercury) Opposite the Moon, and do I see your Saturn at the Moon end? .

But I confess my radar was bleeping right off from the opening

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He told me he was in love with me, never felt this way about anyone before, yadda yadda

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It sounds confusing, like you are confused by him, and he is all over the place. So given that general impression I was interested to see I think there maybe a synastry Square between your Sun and his Neptune.

posted July 31, 2008 12:24 PM         

He's HAD a threesome in the past. But, he says he's extremely adventurous. Which is true. He LOVES trying new things ALL THE TIME: Food, drinks, this and that, you name it.

We share a very special connection. We've both admitted to feeling this and still talk about it. But why would he once tell me he thinks I'm the one, that he wants to marry me one day, he STILL tells me he could see having children with me (but with others too). It's very hard to explain in such quick time that I have right now, but he KNOWS we have a very special connection but isn't ready or sure he'll EVER be ready for one person. He wants to pursue a career in music. Speaking of 'finding himself', he has said he wanted to join a monastery for like a year, for the experience. Sadly, he once said he always feels alone, that he'll never find anyone like him. I feel just awful. But, he once told me I was the one, talked about marriage, yadda yadda. We still spend EVERY weekend together (b/c of our work schedules), are intimate, say we love eachother very much, etc. Sex for him, he says is "numb". He says he's never had a normal sexual relationship with anyone, with one exclusion. He says I'm comfortable sex for him (this due in part to his molestation?). He was once into deviant sex, he sometimes even talks about necrophilia. He's a very unique person. He's also an alcoholic (not everyday, but has a problem). He's been a drug addict in the past but no longer.

I just dont even think he knows who he is and what he wants. He DOES need to find himself. He once said if we were together, he'd want to bring home another woman or a man. He also once thought he was gay (because he was molested by a man), but realized that after getting attention from one, that he wasn't). He seems extremely confused.

Yes, he DOES like to communicate. He's an amazing write. We have the greatest conversations. I think that's what drew me to him. But, now, part of our problem may bet that I'm so in love with him, I have the "der" syndrom. I get stupid around him because I feel too comfortable to the point that I just want to be physical with him.

posted July 31, 2008 12:30 PM         

Strange things have happened to us with numbers and finding things.

1) Few months back, I kept seeing three 4’s... on a timer, clock and something else. A strange feeling came over me as if this meant something. This happened four or five times. A month or two later, he writes three songs, all with the number 4 in them. HE NEVER PUT NUMBERS IN HIS SONGS BEFORE! I immediately got chills and told him about the number 4. He then drew out "I LOVE YOU 4EVER" and bolded certain areas so there were 3 fours. WEIRD!!

2) We were at a garage sale (which we both adore), on a table of cups and knick-knacks, we see two white plaques, one with the Libra scales and the other with Aries Ram…..*TWILIGHT ZONE MUSIC PLAYS* I immediately called him over to show him. He says “fate”. How freakin’ weird is this?????

posted August 28, 2008 03:51 PM         

I never met a FAITHFUL aries man in my life and half of my ex's are ARIES.

they are polygamous by nature!