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posted July 31, 2008 03:22 AM         

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I am facing a divorce situation in the next few weeks and my husband wants an answer.
I just went through the pluto thing wich destroyed my marriage and we have been feeling it comming on for a while 2 years
I don't want to make any commitments to him because I believe that my future husband is comming into my life very soon.
I have been having dreams of him and all the planets are in the correct positions.
But I am scared and wondering if it is just neptune messing with me. I do care about him as a friend as we have been together for 15 years and have two children but, I have fallen out of love with him.
A long time ago I did a divination bord with my grandmother and it said I would marry a man named Matt, have two kids, divorce him and marry another and this is the man who I am having dreams of and his planets progressed. I have never been on my own and not sure if I can do it alone, I have no support of family or friends right now, no career and no job.
any insight would be great!!!

MY info :

3/26/1975
Frederick, MD
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posted July 31, 2008 03:57 AM         

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vesta-sister

without looking at your chart, i'm just going to offer you this. forget astrology for a moment and look inside your heart. also forget about someone else in the future and ask yourself how do you feel about this one person. that's all you need to be focussed on. it's not fair to stay with him because you think that no-one better is coming in the future for you. you either want to be there or you don't. any other detail is irrelevant.

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From: colorado
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posted July 31, 2008 04:14 AM         

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I understand, It is just that I am scared of independance. I just don't know what I should do for work ect.. It has been so long since I worked and have never been on my own plus worried about the kids. I don't want to stay and be unhappy but I don't want to hurt my children and when I think about telling them that mom is leaving I keep seeing my little girl in tears. I love her so much that I would stay for her and yet that is not fair to me. I know that sounds selfish, But I just want to be happy and I'm not happy with him any more.

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posted July 31, 2008 04:27 AM         

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i understand that completely. i think about this. and i think there are two parts to it. one, children are more astute than we give them credit and in time your daughter would see that (or even hear in an argument) that you are there purely on the basis of duty and as our children follow our path and patterns (subconsciously too) you are showing her that that is what women do. the other side is that the rest of your life could be a long time and that's an awful long time to be unhappy. but it's not black and white - there are custody issues and also to consider that not only you would find another partner in the future too and that your present husband could also find another wife and then your daughter would have another female mother role-model in her life. so, i understand. for the independence - i think you can do it - if you think you have the strength to be in an unhappy situation for the rest of your life or for another 10-20 years at least - then you are strong enough to go on your own. no-one can make this decision for you. it would be good to hear from other women who have done either of these things and you can see from their experiences. but mostly - don't judge yourself because it seems that's what you are doing - just in your words. whichever way you go - make loving yourself and doing for yourself a priority. maybe that's what's lacking right now?

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posted July 31, 2008 04:47 AM         

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posted July 31, 2008 05:02 AM         

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I was gonna make a bossy and fatherly comment like a proper Capricorn but then I realized you are 13 years older than me...

but good luck to you anyway, all I can say is just be happy and enjoy yourself.

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posted August 08, 2008 01:47 AM         

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wow...tough situation! didn't you say you had two kids, what about the second? if your love is so strong for your daughter, can you use this strength to help rebuild your marriage? the bond you could form with your husband could be stronger than ever after what it seems you have struggled with so far. dig deep into your heart, trust your inner strength and those that care for you. have you told your husband how your feeling - maybe its time... best wishes

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posted August 08, 2008 02:21 AM         

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How about taking each day as it comes for now. Your future husband may not exist (cynical, I know). Luckily, your husband is your friend. It could really nasty if you up and leave. Are you able to be on your own, because that may be the future you are choosing for yourself.

I guess, what I'm thinking (all my opinion, of course), is that you have the power of choice. You CAN leave. You probably will meet another man - the liklihood is pretty big there. But are you willing to go through the separation? Do you think your husband is going to amicable about all of this? Are you prepared to meet a toad, rather than a prince?

Anyway, there are so many variables to think about. I guess when someone wants to leave, you can't make them stay.

I think that if you are going to leave, try not to place all your hope in meeting your next husband, based on that divination board. Leave because it would make your husband and you better, happier people.

It's a tough one!

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