posted September 05, 2008 02:51 PM         

Our suns/moons are conjunct out of orb but sign conjunct both ways.
Our venus's are both in aries, our mar's are both in taurus. He is older than me.

Here is the synastry chart.
(l am on the INside)

EXACT (0 degree) aspects in synastry
(conjunct, opposition, trine, square only)

I HAVE ONLY LISTED EXACT ASPECTS BUT HAVE ALL THE ASPECTS WITHIN 4 DEGREES IF YOU WOULD LIKE ME TO POST THEM DD

NATAL MIDPOINTS of significance
His juno conjunct my sun/moon midpoint (0)
My juno opp his venus/mars midpoint. (0)
My karma opposes his venus/mars midpoint. (0)

NATAL/NATAL
My sun trine his MC (0)
My venus trine his Pluto (0)
My mars trine his lust (0)
My venus square his lust (0)
My Jupiter conjunct his valentine (0)
My Saturn conj his AC (0)
My Neptune square his valentine (0)
My NN conj his AC (0)
My isis trine his vertex (0)
My Valentine square his venus (0)
My valentine trine his eros (0)
My Amor conjunct his sun (0)
My amor trine his valentine (0)
My anteros square his valentine (0)
My union trine his lust (0)
My Pluto trine his union (0)
My DNA trine his psyche (0)
My valentine opp his lust (0)
My amor trine his valentine (0)
My Lust square his cupido (0)
My lust sextile his isis (0)
My lust square his vertex (0)
My ASC trine his atlantis (0)
My DC conjunct his vertex (0)

DRACO/NATAL
My dr ac square his n amor (0)
My dr mars opposes his n vertex (0)
My dr Pluto square his n isis (0)
My dr eros opposes his n karma (0)
his dr moon trine my n juno (0)
his dr juno sextile my n moon (0)
his dr moon square my n eros (0)
his dr venus opposes my n psyche (0)
his dr saturn conjunct my dr MC (0)
his dr juno square my n Pluto (0)
his dr amor conjunct my n juno/karma (0)
his dr amor opposes my n sun (0)

DRACO/DRACO
his dr AC square my dr sun (0)
his dr sun square my dr AC (0)
his dr venus conjunct my dr IC (0)
my dr MC trine his dr DNA (0)
his dr AC trine my dr jupiter (0)
his DR sun square my DR eros (0)
his DR sun trine my DR juno (0)
his DR moon square my DR amor (0)
his DR mars square my DR chiron/vertex (0)
his dr saturn conjunct my dr MC (0)
his DR juno opposes my DR atlantis (0)
his DR valentine opposes my DR sun (0)
his DR valentine conjunct my DR juno (0)
his DR amor conjunct my DR Neptune (0)
his DR lust conjunct my DR chiron (0)
his dr lust conjunct my dr AC (3)
his DR cupido square my DR atlantis (0)
his dr osiris conjunct my dr IC (0)
his dr siva trine my dr AC (0)
his dr valentine quincunx my dr AC (0)

SOLSTICE/SOLSTICE-NATAL
my solstice venus trine his solstice Pluto (0)
his solstice Pluto trine my N atlantis (0)
my solstice mars trine his solstice chiron (0)
my solstice mars square his N NN (0)
my solstices juno trine his N sun (0)
my solstice Osiris opposes his N karma (0)
his solstice karma opposes my N Osiris (0)
my solstice karma trine his N Saturn (0)
his solstice Saturn trine my N juno/karma (0)
my solstice valentine trine his solstice eros (0)
my solstice valentine square his solstice Osiris/venus (0)
my solstice psyche conjunct his N cupido (0)
my solstice atlantis trine his N pluto (0)
my solstice amor conjunct his solstice sun (0)
my solstice amor trine his solstice valentine (0)
his solstice valentine opposes my N juno/karma (0)
my solstice lust square his solstice cupido (0)
my solstice DNA trine his solstice psyche (0)

posted September 05, 2008 03:02 PM         

(conjunct, opp, square, trine only)

Composite sun/moon conjunct both of our sun/moon midpoints!!!
Composite venus/cupido conjunct both our venus's.
Composite mars/amor/union conjunct both our mar's.

Sun conjunct moon (1)
sun square juno (1)
sun trine eros (2)
sun opposing siva (1)
sun trine MC (3)
moon trine Pluto (3)
moon square juno (0)
moon trine eros (3)
moon opposing siva (0)
moon trine MC (2)
venus conjunct mercury (4)
venus square Saturn (0)
venus trine Uranus (1)
venus opposing atlantis (0)
venus conjunct cupido (0)
mars trine Saturn (1)
mars square Uranus (0)
mars conjunct union (1)
mars conjunct amor (1)
mars opposing psuche (1)
jupiter trine Neptune (1)
Jupiter trine NN (3)
Jupiter square PF (0)
Jupiter opposing karma (1)
Jupiter square AC (1)
Saturn square atlantis (1)
Saturn square cupido (0)
Saturn trine union (0)
Saturn trine amor (0)
Uranus trine cupido (1)
Uranus square union (0)
Uranus square amor (0)
Uranus square psyche (1)
Neptune trine NN (4)
Neptune square amor (0)
Pluto trine MC (1)
NN trine psyche (4)
PF trine valentine (1)
PF square karma (1)
PF conjunct AC (1)
Vertex trine juno (1)
Vertex square MC (0)
Juno square siva (0)
Atlantis opposes cupido (0)
Union conjunct amor (0)
Union opposes psyche (2)
Valentine trine AC (2)
Karma square AC (0)
Amor opposes psychs (2)
Psyche square kaali (3)
Kaali trine AC (3)

posted September 05, 2008 08:04 PM         

Rule 2:

There has to be at least one exact conjunction or trine of Sun, Moon, Venus, Mars, Saturn, NN, Pluto, Karma, Valentine with the other's Sun, Moon, Venus, Mars, Saturn, NN, Pluto, Karma, Valentine.
My moon conjunct his venus (3)
My moon trine his Pluto (2)
My venus conjunct his venus (1)
My venus trine his Pluto (0)
My venus trine his valentine (3)
My mars conjunct his mars (3)
My Saturn conjunct his venus (4)
My Pluto trine his mars (2)
My NN conjunct his venus (4)
My NN trine his Pluto (3)
his dr moon conjunct my dr valentine
his dr venus conjunct my n mars (2)
his dr moon conjunct my dr valentine

posted September 06, 2008 02:07 PM         

Could you list the aspects between ruler of 1st, 4th, 5th, 7th and 8th house within about 3° orb?

Also, do you have any double whammies to the ASC`s? IQ said that twinsouls always have that.

You also can check if there are conjunctions and solstice conjunctions to either IC, which is a good sign for soulmates, too.

posted September 06, 2008 02:20 PM         

So your DC-ruler conjuncts his IC-ruler exactly?
And his DC-ruler conjuncts your Sun?

Wow.

Such sweet ties.

And then ruler of ASC are conjunct each other.

His Stellium of Saturn, NN, Moon on your ASC AND Venus.

Psyche psyche conjunction in 7th house.
The massive Stellia in 1st house.

THAT is strong synastry.

Ruler of your 7th house in Aries in 1st house - you are seeking that Martian energy. He has ARies - ASC and Moon and Venus there, - so much Arie.

he has ruler of 7th house in 1st house in Aries - so he is seeking the same martian energy

Yo have Sun and Venus and ASC in Aries - you fulfill that need in him.

It is a strong sign that you are natural partners for each other.

Your 5th house ruler in Taurus in 2nd hous, his Sun and Mercury in Taurus with Mars in Taurus in 2nd house.
There is a very sensual attraction, too. (You being the attracted one).

his ruler of 5th house in Aries in 1st house - conjun ct your ASC and Venus.
He is insanely passionately attracted to you on an erotic way. Kinda hot.

Theres also your Saturn on your 7th house - his Saturn in his 1st house - complimentary.
You are complementing each other in a Saturnian way. Maybe you dont really like it (Saturn is pretty heavy for highly Martian people), but a Saturn bond is really difficult to break.

You also seek Neptune in your relationship, the romantic tender soulmate.
I`m not so sure he can relate to that. Even thogh it seems his Mars gets a opposition of Neptune, so maybe he can.

Of course this opposition of Neptune / Saturn to Moon, NN is really challenging.

posted September 06, 2008 03:48 PM         

*SIGH*

Could you list the aspects between ruler of 1st, 4th, 5th, 7th and 8th house within about 3° orb?
SURE
1st Mars/mars – conjunct (2)
4th Moon/moon
5th Moon/moon
7th Venus/venus – conjunct (0)
8th Pluto/Pluto – semi sextile (0)

Also, do you have any double whammies to the ASC`s? IQ said that twinsouls always have that.

THANK YOU DD... WE HAVE THESE.. HAVE I DONE IT RIGHT BY MIXING DRACO/NATAL?

his n AC conjunct my n moon (2)
my n AC square his dr moon (0)

his n AC conjunct my n venus (2)
my dr AC opposes his dr venus (0)

his n AC conjunct my n saturn (0)
my dr AC conjunct his dr saturn (1)

my dr AC square his dr chiron (1)
his dr AC square my dr chiron (4)

My dr ac conjunct his n karma (1)
his dr AC square my n karma (2)

My dr ac square his n amor (0)
his n AC square my n amor (1)

You also can check if there are conjunctions and solstice conjunctions to either IC, which is a good sign for soulmates, too.

WE HAVE THESE CONJUNCTIONS TO IC...
His dr IC conjunct my n Jupiter (1)
My dr IC conjunct his n Lilith (0)
My n IC conjunct his dr moon (2)
his solstice IC conjunct my solstice IC (1)

But apart from that what do you FEEL?
And why do you just feel it NOWß Has something happened?

Well since Mike, l have been finishing up the remainder of work l had to do on myself and after that, just before l moved house a few things happened... which l will list in order...
1. A mutual friend of both this guy and mine said to me "you really adore the son you have with A, don't you?" and l got to thinking about A (this guy) and what happened to end it between us. Then l realised that l was still in love with him and that l had been putting all my focus, pain and love for A into our son, almost like l idolised our son because he looks just like A
Then l totally saw how, being 6 months pregnant when we broke up l had shut it away deep inside me, to forget because l couldn't deal with it and now it had come back.

2. 2 days later, my psychic friend and l were chatting on phone (we talk every day) and we are so in sync... she said to me "why did you and A break up" so l tolf her the story of how we met over 15 years ago and he drank too much back then... he wanted me to go out with him and l said no. He invited me to all his birthdays over the years and then he got married just before l met my ex husband. I didn't go to the wedding, for some reason it really upset me that he was getting married!! So we kept in contact a little and then we met up in Jan 2005 to do some business together. The feelings were instant again, and l had just left my husband so l denied my feelings. By April it was too much and we had an affair. I got pregnant within a WEEK (!) even with contraception and he was very happy about it.
I guess the universe had finally found a way to keep us in sight of each other for the rest of our lives!

3. My friend Lizzie also reminded me that she had told me before l knew a man called Mark who was my soul mate in this life. I had no idea who Mark was... until l went to find my son's birth certificate the other day only to discover that A's real FIRST name is Mark!! I couldn't believe it.

4. Lizzie told me that A was going to come over to UK on the next full moon (this phone conversation actually took place on the new moon) and the VERY next morning after speaking to her l woke up to a text message from A saying "im coming over on 14th (full moon) for 2 weeks and would love to see you both"

Since then so many people have mentioned A's name to me, which rarely happens... including another mutual friend who flippantly told me that A had broken up with his g/f...

I feel like something is happening.. coming together. I am just doing the soul mate meditation all the time and focussing on unconditionally loving A and on my kids... we had such a great relationship when we were together and even planned to live together... until l found out he had a g/f in France. So we agreed to end it.
He was messed up then, having come out of a sad marriage and l was going through a bad divorce but now it's different. Now the timing is better, if it's meant to be.

I just know he is my twin soul on some levels and then try to deny it on others because this involves our child etc.

aaarrrrgggghhhh!!!!!!

I feel a lot of peaceful and complete love when l think about him and l do miss him. He was everything rolled into one. Just depends on whether he is living consciously enough to be able to see the soul mate in me too

Thanks DD - l never looked at our synastry before now and l was amazed to see that we have the same birth time lol

posted September 06, 2008 04:02 PM         

OOPS... I MESSED UP. I AM ON THE INSIDE!!!!

MY VENUS IS CONJUNCT HIS SUN (3)
HIS VENUS IS CONJUNCT MY MOON (2)

So your DC-ruler conjuncts his IC-ruler exactly?
HIS DC RULER CONJUNCTS MY IC RULER (2)
And his DC-ruler conjuncts your Sun?
MY DC RULER CONJUNCTS HIS SUN (3)
MY DC RULER CONJUNCT HIS DC RULER (0)

Wow.

Such sweet ties.

And then ruler of ASC are conjunct each other.
RULERS OF ASC CONJUNCT EACH OTHER (2)

His Stellium of Saturn, NN, Moon on your ASC AND Venus.
MY MOON/VENUS/SATURN/NNON HIS AC AND VENUS.

Psyche psyche conjunction in 7th house.
The massive Stellia in 1st house.

THAT is strong synastry.

Ruler of your 7th house in Aries in 1st house - you are seeking that Martian energy. He has ARies - ASC and Moon and Venus there, - so much Arie.
RULER OF BOTH 7TH H IN 1ST HOUSE.
HE HAS SUN/VENUS IN 1ST
I HAVE MOON/VENUS IN 1ST

he has ruler of 7th house in 1st house in Aries - so he is seeking the same martian energy

Yo have Sun and Venus and ASC in Aries - you fulfill that need in him.

It is a strong sign that you are natural partners for each other.

IS IT STILL THE SAME EVEN THOUGH I HAVE MOON/VENUS AND NOT SUN/VENUS IN ARIES/1ST H

Your 5th house ruler in Taurus in 2nd hous, his Sun and Mercury in Taurus with Mars in Taurus in 2nd house.
There is a very sensual attraction, too. (You being the attracted one).

his ruler of 5th house in Aries in 1st house - conjun ct your ASC and Venus.
He is insanely passionately attracted to you on an erotic way. Kinda hot.

SO DOES THIS STAND IF ITS HIS ASC CONJUNCT MY MOON/VENUS

Theres also your Saturn on your 7th house - his Saturn in his 1st house - complimentary.
You are complementing each other in a Saturnian way. Maybe you dont really like it (Saturn is pretty heavy for highly Martian people), but a Saturn bond is really difficult to break.

GEEZ, NO WONDER ITS SO HARD TO BE ANYTHING BUT IN DENIAL OF HIM, WITH OUR SITUATION!

You also seek Neptune in your relationship, the romantic tender soulmate.
I`m not so sure he can relate to that. Even thogh it seems his Mars gets a opposition of Neptune, so maybe he can.

Of course this opposition of Neptune / Saturn to Moon, NN is really challenging.

Is your Neptune opposing his Saturn on the relationship axis?

MY SATURN OPPOSES HIS NEPTUNE (4)

This might be a very serious hint that you indeed are twinsouls, who have been forced apart.
There is a great link on that aspect "Through night`s fire". I`ll look for it when I am home again.

THAT TOTALLY SUCKS IF THAT IS TRUE AND WE HAVE BEEN FORCED APART.
MY EX HUSBAND ALWAYS ASKS ME WHEN I'M GOING BACK TO A.

HIS VERTEX RIGHT ON MY DC IS KIND OF SPOOKY TOO...

THANK YOU DD.

posted September 06, 2008 04:18 PM         

My sun is also conjunct his Venus/mars midpoint exact

posted September 06, 2008 04:23 PM         

"Could you list the aspects between ruler of 1st, 4th, 5th, 7th and 8th house within about 3° orb?"
I also meant the aspects between ruler of 1 and 7, 5 and 8, 4 and 7 and so on, all of them, preferably conjunction or opposition or even solstice conjunctions and oppositions.

"1st Mars/mars – conjunct (2)"
Basic temperemental compatibility. Also the fact that you have the same ASC means that you see each other exactly as he is or at least sees himself.

"7th Venus/venus – conjunct (0)"
Great for a close relationship. You want similiar things here.

"HAVE I DONE IT RIGHT BY MIXING DRACO/NATAL?"
Well, IQ Hunk would say NO. Me, myself I say, FIRST look at the purely tropical dw`s, THEN at the Draco`s.

So, you don´t have any PURE ASC- double whammies (but you can check other asteroids for this, too), however you have really strong Draco aspects, so this is definitely a very karmic relationship.

Solstice IC conjunct IC seems to be a very strong and intimate connection, too.
Also the IC-Draco Moon-connection. Very soulful.

"Then l realised that l was still in love with him"
How did you realize this?

Why didn`t you want to go out with him in the first place?

I think those synchronicities are really awesome and amazing, and yet I`d say trust your gut feeling when you are seeing him, more than any kind of signs or predictions. Because as great as psychics can be some times, you alone know the truth deep inside your heart.

I think, if you did resonate with what your friend told you about your soulmate deeply, then this is because it triggered some deep truth inside of you, a feeling that was already there, ready to be adressed - again.

posted September 06, 2008 04:44 PM         

When we broke up this wise woman told me he would come back to me in a few years... I just remembered that now.

Yeah, it did resonate and I think the timing was wrong before because I was dead emotionally having just left my abusive husband.

When I first met him and he was a drunk he would literally grab at me and fall over!!

I was naive and stupid then... He is 15 years older than me and I probably thought he was too old!

I care very deeply about him which has always come naturally to me and if he asked me to move abroad with him I would so my feelings are calm and serious... I was just in so much denial over him. It was very hard and scary bring pregnant alone with 2 kids to look after and my abusive ex living still in the house... I had too much on my plate worrying about my ex finding out l was pregnant to grieve andy. I would get insanely jealous though if a friend said she fancied him... and I was gutted when he found a new serious girlfriend.

posted September 06, 2008 05:14 PM         

ruler of 1st (mars) ruler of 7th (venus)
his mars semi sextile my venus (2)
my mars semi sextile his venus (0)

ruler of 1st and 4th/5th house
his mars semi sextile my moon (1)

ruler of 1st and 8th house
his mars trine my pluto (1)
my mars square his pluto (0)

ruler of 5th (moon) ruler of 8th (pluto)
my moon trine his pluto (1)

ruler of 4th/5th and 7th
my moon conjunct his venus (2)

ruler of 4th (moon) and ruler of 7th (venus)
my moon conjunct his venus (2)

ruler of 4th and 8th house
his moon trine my pluto (6)
my moon trine his pluto (1)

ruler of 7th and 8th house
his venus quincunx his pluto (1)
my venus trine his pluto (0)

posted September 06, 2008 05:29 PM         

his solstice venus (ruler of 7th) conjunct my solstice venus (ruler of my 7th) (1)

his solstice venus (ruler of 7th) conjunct my solstice moon (ruler of my 4th/5th) (3)

posted September 06, 2008 05:32 PM         

his progressed venus(7th ruler) was conjunct his N sun exact and my progressed saturn/NN was on my N moon (4th/5th ruler) and venus (7th ruler).

posted September 07, 2008 01:34 PM         

BUT often it happens that a natal semisextile becomes a conjunction or sextile in the progressed synastry, and THAT would be VERY important.

"ruler of 1st and 8th house
his mars trine my pluto (1)
my mars square his pluto (0)"
A dw of Mars_Pluto, and also 1st and 8th house, that surely looks intense.

"uler of 5th (moon) ruler of 8th (pluto)
my moon trine his pluto (1)"
Trine is a nice, harmonious aspect, but not necessarily a soulmate-aspect. Some nice erotic interplay.

"ruler of 4th/5th and 7th
my moon conjunct his venus (2)"
This one is extremely important here.
So your core-identity (your 4th house ruler) is what he seeks in a partner. HE is drawn to your soul.
Your ruler of the 5th and his 7th houses conjunct would indicate that there is a very loving affectionate connection between the two of you (like a Sun-Venus-conjunction), but maybe it would be more erotically inclined for you and more partner relevant for him. However, it is a definite sign of attraction.

"ler of 4th and 8th house
y moon trine his pluto (1)"
Again a harmonious deep interchange, butnot ultrastrong.

"ruler of 7th and 8th house
my venus trine his pluto (0)"
Again intense, harmonious, nice. WEll, trine is the next good thing to have after conjunction, opposition and solstice I guess.

"his solstice mars (ruler of 1st) conjunct my solstice mars (ruler of my 1st) (3)"
basic compatibility

"his solstice venus (ruler of 7th) conjunct my solstice venus (ruler of my 7th) (1)"
basic similiarity in what you seek in a relationship.

"his solstice venus (ruler of 7th) conjunct my solstice moon (ruler of my 4th/5th) (3)"
That ties in with your conjunction.

posted September 07, 2008 01:41 PM         

For me the potential of soulmates is tied to the water-houses and their connections with planets and point, symbolizing your identity and selfexpression (for example: Sun, Moon, ASC as basic identity and 5th house as sexual identity and expression).
Adding to that: Nodal axis, Vertex, Saturn, Neptune, Pluto (those outer planets seem to be heavily karmic in most instances, well Neptune and Pluto are natural rulers of 12th and 8th house - water/ soul houses-, Saturn is natural ruler of karma itself; of course it means that the Moon as natural ruler of 4th house / IC has a lot to say concerning soulmates).
Venus and Mars are secondary, as is the 5th house, but they become very very meaningful in sexual relationships.

You can have the most wonderful Moon-Neptune-4th / 12th house connections without feeling even a little bit sexually attracted.
Pluto and 8th house seem to transport a lot of sexual attraction, too,(maybe the reason is that Pluto is the higher octave of Mars), but of course it goes way deeper than JUST sexual attraction.

posted September 07, 2008 02:01 PM         

For soulmates and relationships I´d look at:

1. Sun, Moon, NN, ASC, IC, ruler of ASC, ruler of IC, ruler of 8th and ruler of 12th house (secondary: Venus, Mars, Vertex, SAturn, Neptune, Pluto, ruler of 5):

- in 4th, 8th, 12th house
(especially if they make strong synastric aspects to each other).

2. IC, NN, ruler of IC, ruler 8th and ruler of 12th house (secondary: Vertex, SAturn, Neptune, Pluto)

- in 1st, 5th and 7th house of the partner (as those are the "relationship" houses, along with the 8th)

3. ruler of IC, 8th house, 12th house and IC itself:

- aspects Sun, Moon, NN (Venus, Mars, Saturn, Neptune, Pluto, Vertex)

- aspects ruler of ASC, DC, NN, SN, 5th house
(the NODES are an axis as the ASC-DSC or MC - IC, so we have to look at their rulers, too. Actually that is often highly interesting)

- aspects ruler of IC, 8th and 12th house

4. ruler of 1st, 7th, 5th house and ASC and DSC itself:

- aspects Sun, Moon, NN, Venus, Mars
- aspects ruler of 1st house, 5th house and 7th house or falls into those houses

- Sun, Moon, NN, Venus, Mars falling in partner`s 1st, 5th or 7th house

° those are no aspects that indicate soulmate-relationships, but they are necessary for a romantic attraction to occur

5. of course the interplanetary aspects between Sun, Moon, NN, Venus, Mars and Vertex are also important, as are aspects of these personal planets / points to Saturn, Neptune and Pluto.

6. Saturn, Neptune, Pluto aspecting each other CAN be indicative of karmic relationships,t oo, but ONLY if they

a) fall into the 1st, 5th, 7th, 4th, 8th or 12t house

b) are aspecting personal planets like Sun, Moon, Venus, Mars, NN, ASC, DSC, IC, ruler of the mentioned karmic and relationship-houses

posted September 09, 2008 09:19 AM         

so much info DD, thank you... l will look into this tonight