posted September 08, 2008 10:01 AM         

(I've also read sun in hard aspect to uranus can be an indicator of a tendency to be unfaithful.)

Is there any hope for these people to have stable, long lasting, faithful relationships? Can anyone share any experiences with this aspect. Hopefully there are some people out there who have this, but are happy in a stable, relationship.

Any experiences?

Thanks in advance!

posted September 09, 2008 01:02 PM         

Virgo/Leo Cusp, the Sag and Aqua mix is definitely very independent and freedom loving. Every man I have ever dated has had strong Aqua and Sag in their charts. I love Aqua Saggies! haha. Do you feel like your relationships start suddenly, then end suddenly with the Uranus square?

Solo_fish, your reply gives me hope! Thank you! I was hoping that even with the uranus hard aspect, there was a capacity to be faithful, and in a lasting relationship. Everything I read on the hard aspects are so grim. I'm glad to hear your experience!

The guy I've been seeing has Moon square uranus, and has never been in a relationship longer than 1 year, and that one was even very sporadic and off and on.
He is very up and down emotionally, and contradicts himself a lot. It's so confusing!

posted September 09, 2008 02:18 PM         

Married to fellow actor Sinead Cusack for 30 years, 2 children.

posted September 10, 2008 12:59 AM         

I haven't had many love relationships, but all the ones I've had have been relatively long lasting. I think it's not so much stability that we have a hard time with, as it is consistency. I think of stability as security. We can commit to a relationship for the long-haul, but our efforts and attention to the relationship aren't consistent. Sometimes we need breaks to be by ourselves. Sometimes when we're with our partner, we relate strictly as friends. Sometimes strictly as sex fiends. Sometimes as deep & loving, sometimes as light & fun. Sometimes as any and all and more. It changes depending on which part of ourselves and way of perceiving the world is dominant at the time.

I think what it comes down to is Moon square Uranus people like to feel the numerous sides of themselves, and they can't tolerate the emotional pretense of pretending that they feel like one part of themselves when they really feel like another.

In all my relationships--friendships too--the main complaint I've gotten is my inconsistency. Even with the most important people in my life who I love dearly, I can't commit to a routine that forbids breaks. I'll always return to the routine, but I need breaks from it.

I remember friends complaining about this all the way back in elementary school. We'd play together after school, but then on say the 4th consecutive day, I would need time away from that routine to do something else.

My 6th grade boyfriend , a sensitive Pisces with a Cancer Moon, would get hurt on the days when I didn't want to come over his house. And I knew things would be easier if I just went (since I wouldn't have to lure him out of his crabby mood ), but I couldn't force myself to go when I wasn't in the mood for that. I would feel suffocated if I went. Luckily for me my partners since him have been more understanding of my need for space and have similar needs themselves.

Uranus gives you that "There's more than this!" feeling, that "I'm more than this!" feeling. It's compulsive and when it hits you can't force yourself to be consistent.

posted September 13, 2008 12:13 AM         

Uranus conjunct moon,jupiter in Sag
square sun in pisces and trine a mars-venus
conjunction in aries.
And it sits in the 1st house.

So the struggle of too close/need space vs commitment is my old friend.

Oddly enough infidelity has never come up.
I think thats not really the uranian response in seeking it's freedom in relationships..

My last relationship lasted 7 years,so
long term monogamy is possible with uranus.

Abrupt terminations/changes of heart/drastic measures sure,but never cheating.

posted September 13, 2008 10:37 AM         

My nMars opposes my n Uranus exactly and my Mars is part of a close stellium of Mars, Mercury and Juipter, In Aqua, so they all oppose Uranus, the stellium and Uranus closely square my moon in Taurus, which closely opposes my asc in Scorp, so Uranus also squares my asc.

The t-square configuration has brought me constant challenges in life, but as far as relationships I have had stable ones, like to be in them, being a Pisces sun helps with the relationship department. Unconventional in relationships to be sure, but little difficulty with stability.

My bfriend recenlty told me I am a handfull and not your ordinary women, when he said this I thought about my birth chart and all of my Aqua/Uranus things.

Uranus always brings unconventionality so I would say that depending on other factors in the birth chart, there is always potential for stability, but with Uranus expect the unexpected, expect challenges and expect the native to be far from the norm!!!

posted September 14, 2008 06:55 PM         

That Uranus of yours is mighty active!

I concur that there is a lot of changes, and sometimes bloody inconvenient and erratic ones in life, but that does not seem to play out in the love department as much as it
does on the individual ego itself.

posted September 14, 2008 09:11 PM         

I have uranus opposed venus, and I have yet to learn to balance my need for freedom, and my need to connect and be part of a relationship. My longest relationship of 7 years was a long distance one, and I realize now that the reason it lasted so long was because I had total freedom, yet felt emotional supported by him...from a distance.
My marriage was pathetically short, and even though it was my husband who left the marriage, I almost feel like a part of my subconscious brought it on with a desperate need for freedom, and was almost relieved when he told me he was leaving me.

Redstar, I agree that hard uranus aspects may not lead to cheating, but it can lead to sudden unexpected changes of heart and break ups. That is where my question originally sprung from, cause I wondered how can there be stability in a relationship when the hard uranus person is always having a change of heart, being inconsistent, and wanting to break up. But all the responses have really helped shed light on how a stable relationship is possible, but I guess it would help immensely if the other person in the relationship was stable enough to deal to with all the ups and downs, and sudden changes.

Jane, I really liked your description of how a hard uranus aspects can play out, and how a balance can be achieved. I can't believe you know the astrological info for your 6th grade boyfriend. haha. It's interesting that you remember your uranus influence being present at such a young age. I barely remember high school let alone 6th grade!