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posted September 15, 2008 02:16 PM         

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or maybe I just have jealousy issues. UGH. I cant't stand it! I can't stand it at all! My man works in construction and on his crew is a mother daughter team, both have hit on him..ugh. well, mama raisin, lets call her, and him run the crew, they havent been getting along at all lately, since we met, and I know she is in love with him. Her daughter is getting married this weekend, and he doesnt want to attend the wedding. they will be going out of town to work soon and I can't stand the thought of every meal together, every day together, and such. I can't stand it ...cant stand it .....i cant stand it....and the wierd thing is I trust him, but thier relationship is VERY wierd and it bugged the crap out of me that he ate breakfast with her today, let alone working out of town. URGH. I can't help it, I am pissy, jealous, mad and here it is a full moon and I could spit nails. ( too bad I couldnt spit dollar bills) I don't even know what could make it better. I don't want any woman who is not related to my man close to him. reasonable or not. go away uranus! You makea me act crazy!

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posted September 15, 2008 02:21 PM         

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plus! and here i go for sure...women whould not be runnig heavy equipment anyway, she always makes bad decisions that could potentially get someone hurt. Before kick it even kicks in, I agree with him prior to his speaking! There are jobs better suited to men. Now i really did it!

oh and yes,..i am full aware I am not reasonable. I am alotted like any other woman, 2-3 relativley crazy days per month and It is my choice to take one today! Still mad. still jealous. still uraniain on my parade.

AND ..since I am on astrology board, I guess my rant shouold be about how ur-anus- can really mess me up but good. becasue usually I don't cave in to these baser feelings! URGH! quite possibly squaring my everything!

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posted September 15, 2008 02:39 PM         

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You need to go out of town with him. If something hasn't happened already, do you know the odds of it NOT happening when she has him to herself? Trust me, I've been the other woman in a situation like that. You better think of something. Watch the old I Love Lucy episodes. What would Lucy do? LOL. Pack your suitcase now or you might have no choice later.

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posted September 15, 2008 02:59 PM         

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that isn't a very grown up thing to do,,nor does it imply trust....,although I am considering it. Two more weeks. I wish she would just go away...where is that dam magic wand? I want her to disappear. poof!
this isn't pretty....goes in closet looking for a wig and costum...where is ethel when I need her....? Lucy never goes alone.

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posted September 15, 2008 03:24 PM         

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Does your guy know how you feel about this? Did you talk before he left?

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posted September 15, 2008 03:40 PM         

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Kris, I just sent you an email...
everything is going to be okay!

All my love, with all my heart
To ALL. ...

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posted September 15, 2008 03:40 PM         

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They aren't leaving for two more weeks, then they will be working out of town a lot for the winter. He loves me, and I know this. Jealousy is ugly. But there is something wierd about the relationship and I know she loves him by how she has been acting since we have been dating. I know this. I try not to have these feelings, but...Why doesnt he want to attend the wedding so I can meet her and her fair daughter of ill repute? I would feel a ton better if I could doll up and go to the wedding and see for myself. Today when I brought it up he said he hhad to go we would talk later, in guy talk that means, we will talk when you don't bring that up. It doesn't mater anyway, either I deal with it or I don't, it isn't like I can change anything. I know better than that. We are all adults. I think I will not answer his calls tonight since he was too busy to talk when I mentioned about her today. I need to think and be more secure. For sure.

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posted September 15, 2008 03:48 PM         

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hi sunshine,

Take it easy,go out with your friends,do something,dont think about it.
Trust your man and trust your relationship.Hope you feel better..

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posted September 15, 2008 04:07 PM         

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thanks venus, I will try to be a big girl. trust is a toughie for me. Time will tell what is meant to be. I can trust him and not her so much though. Ah, like I said what will be will be, I love him so very much. I am sure he will make good decisions. In my heart I know he will. Uranus does have a way of shaking things up though. I hate it when I am common like that and let those feelings out of my head or mouth then...uh oh...big dummy...you cant take those words back now can you? All will be as it should I am sure.

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posted September 15, 2008 04:40 PM         

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Do you trust him??? Are you secure in this relationship??? IF so then there is no reason to be acting like this..As far as you packing and going out of town with him do you have a job, what about your life?? I am sure you might say I trust him but I don't trust her, she cannot do anything that he does not allow her to do..If something happens between them he wants it to..

Perhaps you should talk to him and figure out a way to get secure in this relationship and please do not let him know all of what you have just expressed in the opening thread..

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posted September 15, 2008 04:58 PM         

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Mamamia , I do trust him. It is a fairly new relationship, 3 months. I am insecure. I know this. Due to my past experiences. He is better than that. I am just having a problem, I know it is my problem. I am a jerk and I am blaming uranus. I am not going to let this make things any worse than I already have and chase off the best man I ever met from my own insecurities. Us Lions can be quite pathetic at times. AND MAMA MIA - she did tell him she was in love with him not to terribly long ago. as did her wierd daughter who is getting married. So no, I really don't like it when they sit down and break bread like everything is the same or cool. to me...not so cool.

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posted September 15, 2008 05:01 PM         

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"I am blaming uranus"

Don't blame uranus, these planets don't control us they may just bring out something that was already there..Look inside and do the work that will make things better..

Good luck..

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posted September 15, 2008 05:04 PM         

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Hey sunshine_lion. Why is your man going away without you?

I don't blame you with these feelings.

Take a deep breath, don't come at him like a tornado. This is a huge test for you AND him. You do need to share your feelings on this matter, but take it easy without blowing his trust.

The wedding day will pass and you need to feel like you have survived it. Gauge your feelings during this time. Gauge his actions after the wedding.

There may come a time when you need to put your foot down, but is it right now? You need the 'evidence' of him spending too much inappropriate time with her, before you can say "Enough is enough".

Haven't checked the transits. Will this afternoon.

When is the wedding?

Stay in touch on this one!!!

{{{{{{{Big Hugs}}}}}}}

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posted September 15, 2008 05:07 PM         

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omg, I just noticed she told him she was in love him. Now THAT is totally inappropriate for him to be going away with the wedding party.

He says he doesn't want to go. Where is his courage and integrity?

You have a very good reason to spit nails.

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posted September 15, 2008 05:09 PM         

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thanks koi - I'm not doing the tornado thing, I am easing it out on here..kinda like a pressure cooker...I guess. They are leaving sometime next week. I will miss him terribly and she will be right there catching his jokes, his smiles. I will just be missing him. She will see his beautiful face every day and i get the phone...and thats how it is going to be. I am just having a hard time dealing with it as I love him like no other and when you put a lot on the line, you have a lot to lose.

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posted September 15, 2008 05:12 PM         

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they work together. He said they never hooked up because of timeing, different realtionships, whatever...They actually have feelings more than co-workers and they will be working out of town a good bit. I know she loves him. and yes she told him that right after we started dating, she left her husband and told him she loved him. It is his JOB. and Her job. I need to accept it and trust him or choose not to deal with it, which isn't really an option as I love him you see.

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posted September 15, 2008 05:12 PM         

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Does he want her??? I don't care what my man does if I trust him and I know that he does not want another woman and women we have a way of knowing these things, I don't care..Perhaps this is my Venus in Aqua talking, I am just not jealous like that..

And if he does want her them not going out of town or staying in town won't stop them from getting together..

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posted September 15, 2008 05:13 PM         

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You're not the problem, you have every right to feel annoyed if you know that both have tried to make passes as him. It seems that your instincts are working and never ever ignore your instincts.

What I don't understand is why you aren't attending to this wedding. Did they not invite you or can't you go for other reasons? Usually for formal occasions like this, you invite a person and their partner whether you know their partner or not.

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posted September 15, 2008 05:14 PM         

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mama mia, I wish I could be like you. you sound so gemini and strong and I am just not that secure as you I guess. I sure wish I could be.

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posted September 15, 2008 05:15 PM         

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23 - he says he doesnt want to attend at all. I want to. He is invited. I think it is wierd. I want to meet this dynamic duo so I can see for myself and maybe then I will feel better about everything. He was invited he just doesnt want to attend.

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posted September 15, 2008 05:18 PM         

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I am Pisces, I can't get caught up in all that..He is either going to be here with me or off with other women and if he wants the latter option bye, if I have to sit around and wonder all the time, then its over..

Sounds like your gonna be wondering rather he wants this woman or not..What you said was that you did not want any woman thats not related around your man..Your gonna have to change your way of thinking if your gonna have a man and try and trust him..I don't think you trust him fully which is the problem, bc when your trust your mate fully and you have your won life you just let it flow..

Hope you work this out Sunshine..

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posted September 15, 2008 05:25 PM         

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Well then, two options are in your favour then .

If you don't attend - no funny business
If you attend - you can see what is happening as you say.

Question is: why doesn't he want to attend? He doesn't like them or has something already happened?

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posted September 15, 2008 05:25 PM         

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I will. He is worth it. I will get past this and if I can't I will have to let it go. It isn't healthy for our relationship for me to have these feelings. I think time will help too. Thanks for your input mamamia. You sound so rational, I usually am too, on the outside anyway. Sometimes I open up my insides on here, like I wouldn't in real life and just let it be known how I really feel. Which is somewhat insecure. I will get past this. I have been having a tough time lately with my emotions anyway, the last week or so. Thanks again for your voice of reason.
and 23 - the wedding isn't out of town, the next job is. They are going out of town for work.

He acts like he doesn't like them, and yet, today they went out for breakfast together and it is wierd I tried to tell you it is wierd, thier relationship. Not in a way that makes me feel so good. In a way that makes me want to cry.

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posted September 15, 2008 05:32 PM         

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I think if it is possible, then you should go to the wedding and see what is happening, otherwise you'll have these questions plaguing you.

Again, because I'm not there, I don't really know how to take your situation. Again if he says he doesn't like them, it could be because he genuinely doesn't and feels obliged to go to keep the peace at work or he is covering up something and saying he doesn't like them where he might like a lot. I don't want to plant seeds of doubt in your mind. You are a better judge of the situation because you are there.

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posted September 15, 2008 05:35 PM         

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"He acts like he doesn't like them, and yet, today they went out for breakfast together and it is wierd I tried to tell you it is wierd, thier relationship. Not in a way that makes me feel so good. In a way that makes me want to cry."

Yeah and thats why I said you don't trust him fully..Don't cry be observant and don't say anything until you have proof..

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