posted October 03, 2008 06:58 PM         

Hope things are swell in your world!

posted October 03, 2008 11:08 PM         

haha, yeah it was meant to sort of be a joke, cuz pride and embarrassemnt are sorta at opposite ends of the spectrum, but i do think i am embarrassed to be admitting to a recently developing pride!

posted October 04, 2008 12:22 AM         

Well, I experience that - but I'm a Taurus sun in the 5th house. It's like an almost ridiculous level of loyalty, and my Scorpio moon and Saturn in 7th all play a part there too. And like you pointed out, I expect it in return. When I step back and look at it, maybe it's a bit demanding. lol

posted October 04, 2008 03:14 PM         

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do you want to sorta worship your partners, and at the same time want the same kinda thing from them?

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No. I want them to worship ME. lol. But, that could have something to do with the fact that along with my 5th house Aries Moon, I also have my Mars in Leo and my Venus squares my Uranus. Makes me a bit more detached in relationships, yet desiring of the person's affection.

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i have this thing where i don't EVER let myself feel attracted to another guy, or think about guys in that way when i'm with someone. if i find them attractive, i automatically shut it off and instead look to my mate and find their amazing qualities; focus totally on them.

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When you put it this way, then yes, I do that. However, for me, it's not really a conscious thing. If I'm really attracted to and attached to a guy I simply have no desire to look around. None. It's like it goes away. That's not to say that I can't appreciate other guys for their looks or their smarts or whatever... It's just that I don't notice as much.

I may be detached with my Venus square Uranus, in that I don't always shower my loved one with affection 24/7 and I have my own interests and my own life, but I AM still insanely loyal, and I value the loyalty of my partner above all else.

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being honest and real, but be encouraging and see past the minor flaws, to the heart of the person, and focus THERE! ahh, maybe i am hopeless. i know i have a lot to give, but i want it to be mutual.

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Now this I do agree with. It is important to see past minor flaws to the heart of the person, and I also want it to be mutual. I'm one of those girls who truly believes that a relationship can be equal, and that the best ones ARE equal. I can play the power games, but in all honesty, I really don't like doing it unless the other person can play right along with me and hold their own. Even then, I prefer to have a mellow relationship, where we are just being together having fun, giving love freely, and enjoying each others company over feeling like we have to manipulate and control the other to keep their attention. That's so stupid, and it comes from a fear based perspective. There is a difference between leading a relationship and controlling a relationship though... But again, I still think it's best when both people take turns at leading the other, instead of the man always leading the woman or vice versa.

But that's just me. Don't know if that's a 5th house moon thing or not.

posted October 05, 2008 11:33 PM         

When I'm falling for someone, he's as good as it gets to me. If I see him sharing what (from the outside) looks like an equally strong connection with someone else, I get heartbroken. The smallest things would make me question if I was as special to him as he was to me..."He smiled as he held the door open for her--maybe he likes her, too?" Really, it can be THAT pathetic.

I realized this about myself back in high school, and I hated it because it seemed so unreasonable and needy to me. My Sag sun is fine with being less possessive. It understands that different people can bring different types of joy to our life. My Sag sun is the "more the merrier" type and doesn't think bonding with multiple people necessarily reduces the bond felt with one person.

But my moon and my Sco ASC love only one, and would choose him over anyone. So if someone doesn't love back with a similar depth and possessiveness, I don't consider him my type. In the past I was very slow about revealing my feelings to someone until I sensed that he wanted only me, just like I wanted only him.

I don't mind my Leo possessiveness now. I've accepted that my feelings are strong, and that I'm sexually possessive. I can't casually date someone I'm very attracted to, knowing that he may be sharing that side of himself with another woman. Once I'm in a relationship though, I'm not crazy jealous. (I don't think so, anyway. ) I don't even mind flirting. As long as I'm assured that it's just me & him, and that he also would choose me over anyone, I use a very long leash. And like a long one in return. (lol. I mean, I like a long *leash* in return.)

posted October 08, 2008 08:04 PM         

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I have a 5th house Libra moon, and I used to think it was my Piscean Venus that made me super clingy when casually dating someone.

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Are you sure it's the 5th house moon? I'm so NOT clingy it's not even funny... I'm very independent and self-assured. I'll tell the guy to take a hike if he even threatens me with leaving. I don't need emotional blackmail.

Part of having the 5th house moon, or so I thought, was that it makes you invest emotionally in romance, but also in FUN. The more fun you have the more emotionally attached you get. I tend to find that I have to have a fun relationship for me to even want to think about staying around for a guy. If there's no joy in the relationship, why bother? So... I guess what I'm saying is that being clingy is both not fun and an energy drainer FOR ME, so I don't bother being that way.

posted October 09, 2008 07:14 AM         

my 5th house is in sagittarius, or possibily scorpio (my unreliable birth time makes a difference between these two by the minutes :S)

posted October 14, 2008 02:47 AM         

I have Pisces on my 5th house cusp, and I think that did always make me expect a deep bond with guys I was attracted to. It's only when I felt that spiritual bond that I would even begin to acknowledge him as boyfriend material. We'd have that enchantment buzz going, and it would be obvious that it was just going to be me and him. My love life's been weird, I guess.