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posted October 05, 2008 09:47 PM         

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Almost every one I know that's been attracted to me will sit to himself and listen to my conversations with other people. It's very obvious that he wants to be included or that he's listening for some cue or word about himself. Does he think he's hiding something? LMAO! It's like a little kid would do. He is too shy to talk to directly but he loves to listen to me. Come to think of it, I remember somebody saying on here recently that they would hear Caps start using their words. I've noticed that too. I don't know if this deserved it's own thread but I think it's worth mentioning since almost everyone I've ever known does this.

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posted October 05, 2008 10:08 PM         

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ummm...ya so TRUE. its aggravating also, to me, when they are listening to you talk and want so bad to be a part of the conversation, and then kind of pout because they feel they are not a part of it. I still have to say at least one good thing about them, because I did throw out a negative, there. Most Cappies are faithful, dependable, and mature (depends on natal, too) but for the most part, this is true...the question you have to ask yourself is what is it that you can or cannot handle.

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posted October 05, 2008 10:13 PM         

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I can handle. lol. It's kind of cute once you learn to work with it

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posted October 05, 2008 10:19 PM         

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Good that you can handle it. May have a great potential partner, there! I used to want to shake my ex and say "Talk, damnit! Join in." I guess my patience ran out. One weekend, he only said two sentences. It was just me and him alone, too. I almost lost it, friend. But, he was 100% dedicated, that's for sure. Oh well. Hope you guys can hook up, it seems you have been a bit frustrated lately!

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posted October 05, 2008 10:29 PM         

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We're polite like that.

No, I do it, too. The thing is, I don't necessarily want to be a part of the conversation. I don't necessarily want to talk. I just want to listen. I learn more that way.

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posted October 05, 2008 10:33 PM         

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Hi Acoustic. The words you say sound very familiar! I knew you were a nice guy...

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posted October 05, 2008 10:53 PM         

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you sound like being a good listener is a bad thing.

but to me i usually just listen until i have something worthwhile to say. it's stupid to me that some people speak for no reason whatsoever. i don't speak unless i felt it's important. and that goes for other things too. we take time to notice things but we appear very aloof about them.

as for the "using their words", i dont believe in ownership of words. i did that sometime when i was young just because i thought it was a interesting phrase.

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posted October 05, 2008 11:10 PM         

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I know that everyone is different , and everyone likes different things and act different ways. What you say makes perfect sense for you because that's who you are! You, and alot of Cappies, do not feel the need for fluff, and that is just how you are. There cant be all fluffies in this world and all serious people, either. I dont think its a bad thing at all. It just doesnt work for me in a romantic relationship, I mean, I can be kind of quiet sometimes, among other things and it just wouldn't work.

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posted October 06, 2008 06:20 AM         

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Hi all, My son is a Cappy & when he was a toddler he wouldn't talk to anyone & some people had the nerve to ask me what was wrong with him????? When he got older he started talking & now won't stop....and he loves to "use" adult words because he wants to be a grown up! lol

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posted October 06, 2008 01:34 PM         

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It's cute now. Wait until he's a teenager, and is convinced that he knows everything.

My mom once got me a postcard that said, "Those that think they know everything are annoying to those of us who do." It was next to a picture of a very serious-looking cat.

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posted October 06, 2008 02:40 PM         

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AG, that reminds me of an almost-lover close friend Cappy male. In one of our arguments I told him that the fact that he's got a high IQ and street smarts doesn't necessarily mean he knows everything. He claims that as opposed to us ordinary mortals (who use only 10% of their brain), he uses 90% of his brain and therefore knows 90% of what humans are supposed to know.

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posted October 06, 2008 02:49 PM         

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posted October 07, 2008 10:02 PM         

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Deux, caps like to f**k your mind that way...

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posted October 07, 2008 10:08 PM         

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That is so true about Caps not talking. Its so unbelievably fustrating but sooooo sexy at the same time. Especially to someone like me who can barely keep there mouth shut! lol

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posted October 08, 2008 05:15 AM         

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Yeah, my ex-husband the Cappy was a man of few, VERY few words. Mercury in Cappy too. Liked to observe conversations. The only part that bugged me was that you could tell he was holding back from communicating and wanted to add something but wouldn't do it, even if invited.

I never minded it really, not so much, but sometimes it got on my nerves because I'd ask a question directly and get no answer. Then, like, 30 minutes later, while I'm in another room I'd hear a random "No, we shouldn't do that.", and think he's on the phone and think nothing of it.
Then he'd keep talking and list the reasons WHY he thinks XYZ SHOULD NOT be done and then I would realize that he's talking to me.

He was a character.

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posted October 09, 2008 03:00 AM         

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Being Aquarius, I like them and don't like them. I mean, they learn from me, right? I notice that they find me fascinating in my peculiarity, but are very cautious and pessimistic, if that's the right word. A lot of, "Are you sure you should do this?" "Are you really going to eat that?" for a few examples. Being a great listener is nice and all, but if they're going to sit there and play psychiatric advisor, I'd rather not keep going.

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