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Topic: Why can't I get over this relationship?
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savanna20
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From: Malibu, CA
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posted October 15, 2008 03:23 PM
 
composite
 I'm inside, he's outside
 It lasted only 6 months, yet it's taking me a longer time to get over it-almost a year in november. Help anyone? IP: Logged |
savanna20
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posted October 15, 2008 06:30 PM
Anyone? LOLIP: Logged |
MyVirgoMask
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posted October 15, 2008 06:36 PM
I wish I knew more so I could contribute something substantial, but I'm still learning myself...
I know a little about the house overlays, and I can't imagine it being easy with his Pluto falling into your 1 house. I would think that would leave quite an impression on you. And I think maybe also if his Pluto in his own chart is powerfully aspected it would make things especially intense.
I think the first house is a really sensitive place for planets to fall into. It's like you can't help but notice whatever energy is put out. I had a guy's Moon and Sun in my 1st house and it was pretty much like he was ALL I saw...so, I can imagine how hard it might be for you.Also, with his moon in your 8th house, that is probably something too. That with Jupiter, and Black Moon Lilith...8th house to me is life-changing...Any personal planets falling into that, I think it is also extremely hard to 'shake off'. But I'll wait for the real pros to come in. Sorry I couldn't help more...I can't imagine what you feel is pleasant though...sorry 
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alvarella777
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posted October 15, 2008 06:44 PM
Just a short one: In your Composite you have Venus cj. Mars - I experienced that too with my latest relationship (for the first time in a Composite of mine) - and I am still not 100% over it, although the break-up is almost six months ago ... I guess ´Venus-cj-Mars in a Composite has a compelling (not at all peaceful and not neccessarily "happy") quality to it - an intensity that we tend to miss when it's left our lives ... Wish you strength!IP: Logged |
ErickaF
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posted October 15, 2008 07:25 PM
I haven't looked at your chart, will later.
But I noticed relationships that feel 'fated' and hard to get over, aspects between Venus and IC, also look for NN/SN aspects to your planets.
But especially Venus to someones IC!IP: Logged |
EighthMoon
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posted October 15, 2008 07:58 PM
Yowza. There are lots of indicators here.When you wanna forget, but just can't, the first thing I look at is Pluto. In synastry, you have a Pluto/North Node conjunction. I can't tell because degrees aren't listed, but if there's also a Pluto/Moon opposition, just accept the fact now that you will NEVER get over it, and let yourself be OK with that. In composite, you have Venus/Mars/Neptune conjunct sextiling Pluto...again pretty intense. You also have that Psyche/Uranus/Mercury/Eros conjunction in Scorpio, wide opposition Moon. You won't ever forget this. You're not meant to, but find a way to make peace with that if he's not the one for you, and you've found the key.  8th IP: Logged |
MyVirgoMask
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posted October 15, 2008 08:34 PM
OMG yeah, the moon opposing Pluto is really hard, Eighthmoon is right...I just want to add that I had this experience and no, I have not forgotten it. We've made peace 7 years later but there's still a lot of 'tension' there. And I'm trying to detangle myself from another Pluto-Moon opposition (I keep being the Moon person, which sucks)now, so ugghhh...I feel you. I think it gets obsessive for sure. But then definitely life-changing / transformational...can be good, according to how you deal with it. But not easy. IP: Logged |
savanna20
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From: Malibu, CA
Registered: Sep 2008
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posted October 16, 2008 01:02 AM
Crap, crap, and more crap! LOL. I guess I have to learn to get over it...now, is it just me or him too...his pluto quintiles my venus as well...???IP: Logged |
augentier
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From: KS
Registered: Nov 2007
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posted October 16, 2008 01:21 AM
8thMoon..why is the Pluto-Moon opposition so hard to get over? is it harder for the moon person..is the moon person more emotionally affected?------------------
Capricorn sun / Scorpio rising / Sagittarius moon Mercury:: Sagittarius
Venus::Scorpio
Mars::Pisces IP: Logged |
savanna20
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posted October 16, 2008 01:23 AM
I just checked the additional chart on astro-pdf. No aspects to Pluto-Moon whatsoever. Phew!IP: Logged |
savanna20
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posted October 16, 2008 12:11 PM
So who's it harder on? Me or him? (Crossing my fingers it's not me)IP: Logged |
matt
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posted October 16, 2008 01:48 PM
5 months ago i split up with my ex and we had the opposed moon/pluto thing going on, i was the pluto.Emotionally, it was the best. I believe it was our emotional union that kept us going. IP: Logged |
savanna20
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posted October 16, 2008 02:08 PM
What's it mean for his lilith to be on my 8th house and my lilith on his 7th house?IP: Logged |
savanna20
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posted October 16, 2008 02:08 PM
What's it mean for his lilith to be on my 8th house and my lilith on his 7th house?IP: Logged |
Glaucus
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posted October 16, 2008 02:17 PM
Could you please give me the birthdata of you and your ex? I can't read those charts. I want to check out the actual orbs of the synastry charts...especially when looking at any synastry aspect patterns that might be there...I use 3 degree orb maximum for synastry aspect patterns. the Venus-Mars-Neptune sextile Pluto in the composite seems like the passionate intense,romance,sexual relationship also Sun in Scorpio oppose Moon in Taurus can be a relationship that is also intense,emotional,and can be possessive
I also would like to check out the composite chart with your natal chart. Composite planets to natal chart can be important, showing how the relationship affects you.
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savanna20
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posted October 16, 2008 02:22 PM
Eh, I don't want to post that info on here...got an email to shoot it to?  IP: Logged |
Glaucus
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posted October 16, 2008 03:06 PM
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savanna20
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posted October 16, 2008 03:14 PM
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aqua/scorp
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posted October 16, 2008 03:52 PM
Normally it's the personal planet person who feels it more it's said.. I have my moon conjunct someones pluto and my pluto sextile their venus. Also remember that pluto is generational so also look at where those personal planets which are aspecting pluto are also interacting with the others personal planets. I'm no expert but just going by i have learned so far. For instance A pluto sextile B venus. Venus person will have this aspect with alot of people born around the sametime as pluto..so when it comes to the pluto person i would look at how strong Pluto is aspected to their personal planets in the natal chart. I know Pluto is like a big boss in my natal chart so my Pluto/Moon conjunction sextile his venus will be felt quiet alot by my Venus friend and me also as my Moon is involved so they all link. hope i made sense.. IP: Logged |
Glaucus
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posted October 16, 2008 03:53 PM
He has a fixed t-square of Sun-Mercury-Mars in Scorpio,Moon in Taurus,and Saturn in Leo, and that indicates that there is a lot of instability,insecurity,but also stubbornness...he can be too set in his waysand your Sun-Saturn conjunction is caught up in that t-square of his with your Sun conjuncting his Sun-Mercury-Mars, opposing his Moon,and squaring his Saturn. That Saturn of yours on his Sun and aspecting his t-square overall probably felt uncomfortable to him. Fixed t-squares in synastry can be very magnetic but also indicate a very turbulent relationship...with it being fixed, the relationship can be stubborn,hard to budge,and can be hard to let go and move on.....especially with the Sun-Sun conjunction in Scorpio in the composite - The lunar nodal axis squares the opposition of Sun in Scorpio and Moon-Chiron in Taurus.....this can indicate a significant karmic relationship. The configuration in fixed signs can indicate the stubbornness,hard to budge in the relationship..that can indicate being hard to let go...especially with Sun in Scorpio involved....with Chiron involved, there can be significant emotional wounding,pain in the relationship. I also couldn't help notice that the composite Venus-Mars conjunction is conjunct your Venus, and so the passionate relationship affected your love nature.
This relationship looks like it had very unstable,unsettling effect on both of you...especially when it comes to communications...the composite Mercury-Uranus is oppose the exact conjunction of your Moon and his Imum Coeli.
The composite Chiron is oppose your Sun-Saturn conjunction, and it could indicate that you encountered great deal of pain in the relationship.....it's fixed and so there is a stubbornness...so can be hard to let go.
but yeah....it's a good thing that you got out of this relationship
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savanna20
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posted October 16, 2008 04:01 PM
Darn! Glaucus-So is it just me having a hard time letting go? It affected my love nature? How?IP: Logged |
Glaucus
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posted October 16, 2008 04:16 PM
I was referring to the composite Venus-Mars conjunction(passionate love) conjunct your Venus (love nature)I think that he was also strongly affected by the relationship. The composite Sun-Moon opposition square lunar nodal axis aspected his fixed t-square. The composite Venus-Mars-Neptune conjunction conjunct his Venus. Of course has fixed t-square synastry wtih you,and that adds to it. I was mainly going over your natal in comparison with the composite. that's why I was only discussing yours and not his. IP: Logged |
savanna20
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posted October 16, 2008 04:20 PM
Oh I see...would you do his too? It will make me feel better if I hear I'm not the only one affected, being that we're both scorpios. (Crossing fingers it's just not me)IP: Logged |
Glaucus
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From: Sacramento,California,USA
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posted October 16, 2008 04:33 PM
I didI pointed out the Venus-Mars-Neptune conjunction to his Venus as well as the t-square stuff. It just seems that the relationship was hard on both of you...with the t-square, the Uranus aspect to Moon-IC conjunction
any ways...it's a good thing that both of you are out of this relationship. It would be in both of your best interests, if both of you move on. You don't want to get caught up in fixed t-square again as well as deal with the unpredictability of the composite uranus to your Moon and IC.
I wish you the best. You're better off with another guy.
peace
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savanna20
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posted October 16, 2008 04:41 PM
Gotcha. K, I'll learn to let go eventually... IP: Logged |
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