posted October 31, 2008 02:28 PM         

So, this past Monday, we were snuggling and I was getting ready to leave. I went to kiss him goodbye, and he says "I love you". I did a double-take and asked him to say it again, and he did. I can't say it back at the moment, but I did say thank you, and I told him I didn't want to leave now that he told me that. So, we had lunch and he mentioned that there were many different types of love... I asked him what he meant by that and he totally skirted the issue.

So, yesterday we were having dinner. I told him how great I felt since he told me he loved me and he blurts out "But I didn't mean it". Now I'm heartbroken.

Gems, give me some insight here. Was it an accident? Was he thinking of someone else when he said it? I am falling for him, but now I'm scared to tell him, now that he says he doesn't feel the same way.

He's got a moon in Capricorn if that can clarify anything (mine's in Libra).

posted October 31, 2008 03:01 PM         

But now that he's said it, I would like to tell him I am falling for him, but now I don't wanna look like a fool, especially if he doens't feel the same way. And he's skirting the whole issue now, and he didn't want to see me today

posted October 31, 2008 07:38 PM         

While i flirted with a gemini friend of mine (i'm also a scorp) he'd always say things like "you're hot, i'd sooo do you right now", or "we should really take a shower now... the both of us" and then he laughed it off.Once he even said "i know you love me" but to each such "hint" i'd always laugh at him and make a joke out of it.Somehow when we talk we still (always) end up talking about sex - with scorps and geminis there seems to be a very heavy sexual attraction goin' on :P

posted November 02, 2008 07:41 AM         

If he said, "I didn't mean it" to me, I would come back and say, "Sorry, no takesies backsies. You love me!" Just make it a joke to lighten the mood!

posted November 02, 2008 09:27 AM         

So this guy puts her on alert that his ex said it too soon and then surprises her by him saying it first!!! (Rest assured he was testing her and did not mean to say those words in the first place, God knows what he was thinking of at that given moment and whith which brain, taking into consideration there is 3 of him at any given moment, talk about tri polar issues.)

The girl is on alert due to what he told her and she holds back, now he is telling her he did not mean it!!!

I am sorry but this guy needs to get a life, and I am sure when he said I love you to her he didn't mean the same thing as " i love pizza" either.

Dump him he is emotionally unstable and if I were you I'd add to his unstability too by dragging it for months without saying it hahahahahh God I can't stand fickle people who dont know what they want and can't make up their minds 1-2-3 in a relation.

"Sorry, no takesies backsies. You love me!"

posted November 02, 2008 04:37 PM         

My point in saying "no takesies backsies, you love me" to him, is to poke at him, but affectionately to lighten the mood...to show him that she doesn't take it so seriously. It's like when he said, "I know you do" to her even before she's ever said any I love you's. I think it's important to have a light hearted attitude towards the whole thing, to diffuse any tension its causing.

I don't think it's so much of a Gemini thing to try to take back an unreciprocated I love you. I think it's a "human" thing. No one wants to be vulnerable like that, and have something like that hanging out there. I think we should give him the benefit of the doubt, and not assume right away that he's a jerk who just said I love you, to mess with her head.

I hope someday you mean an amazing Gemini who shows you that duality doesnt have to mean double standards, contradiction, and confusion.

posted November 02, 2008 05:35 PM         

You said" Thank you?" Ouch. It's good that you didn't automatically say "I love you" when you can't mean it just yet. However, that won't stop this Gemini from feeling hurt. That Capricorn moon does take away the Gemini's unstable and fickle nature. Capricorn moons don't make any move unless they feel comfortable enough. They also don't express emotion very easily, so the fact that he said that he loves you really does mean a whole lot! He only felt comfortable enough to say it when he believed that you would return his feelings, but you caught him off guard with your response.

The Capricorn moon adds a great deal of pride. They absolutely cannot stand looking foolish, which is how this Gemini must feel right now. You bruised his ego. I am NOT blaming you by any means. I'm just explaining how the Gemini feels.

The fact that after that incident, he explained there were many different types of love at lunch really shows that he's trying to save face and get back some of his pride.

Rest assured that he was very sincere in what he initially told you--that he loves you. He probably still feels that way, but he's hurting and does not want to show his vulnerable side.

What you must do is talk to him in private and clarify that you are not in love with him yet, but that you are FALLING in love with him. That should help smooth things over a bit.

VirgOh,

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Gemeni people are lame with their duality specially those who say things and do the total opposite, I tend to stay away from them , I can't stand duality and double meanings and standards.

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Um, are you aware that Virgos are mutable just like Gemini and are both ruled by the same planet? Virgos, are therefore dual-natured just like Gemini. I've come across many of the dual-natured signs (Sags, Gems, Virgos, Pisces) and they all have contradictory natures. Each one's level of stability, of course, is modified by various natal chart aspects, but the dual nature is still there. The very thing that you dislike in Geminis are very much present in Virgos. Virgos are just more determined in suppressing their dual nature, but that doesn't take away from the fact that their dual nature still exists.

And for the record, I have come across fickle and contradictory Scorpios and Leos who are both fixed signs. There are hypocrites in every sign, not just Gemini.

posted November 02, 2008 05:36 PM         

I agree w/ what everyone is saying. His telling you about the ex girlfriend was his way of letting you know it's a big deal to him. Then his saying "I know you do" for a while before he'd actually say he loved you was his way of preparing you for what was coming.

His comments following (There are many kinds of love and I didn't mean it) are just reactions based on his feeling rejected. Scorpios allow their feelings to build and make sure before giving their heart away. Gems give their heart away and sort it out as they go.

I had a friend who was a Gem with a Cap moon and he did a lot of the kinds of things you're referring to. It was always a control issue with him...so there's that to contend with as well.

posted November 03, 2008 03:02 PM         

Reminds me of lyrics... imagine that

You wait, wanting this world
To let you in
And you stand there
A frozen light
In dark and empty streets
And you smile hiding behind
A God-given face
And I know you're so much more
Everything they ignore
Is all I need to see

And you're the only one I ever believed in
The answer that could never be found
The moment you decided to let love in
And now I'm banging on the door of an angel
The end of fear is where we begin
The moment we decided to let love in

I wish
Wishing for you to find your way
And I'll hold on for all you need
That's all we need to say
I'll take my chances while
You take your time with
This game you play
But I can't control your soul
You need to let me know
You leaving or you gonna stay

You're the only one I ever believed in
The answer that could never be found
The moment you decided to let love in
Now I'm banging on the door of an angel
The end of fear is where we begin
The moment we decided to let love in

There's nothing we can do about
The things we have to do without
The only way to feel again
Is let love in

There's nothing we can do about
The things we have to live without
The only way to see again
Is let love in

hear me
wanting this world to let you in

posted November 03, 2008 03:14 PM         

Mystic, I love that song!

Things were a little weird this weekend. I didn't hear from him at all. Then I texted him letting him know I was confused, I was wondering if he was OK, and he called me right away.

We made plans to see each other today, and when I called him, he was busy with work, so we made plans for tomorrow.

Hopefully, when we see each other again, things will go back to normal.

posted November 03, 2008 03:53 PM         

Gemini's duality is lame! I could name a potentially lame characteristic of every sign.. including Virgo.. anyway thats okay, were mostly just misunderstood, and I'll admit it's entirely possible for you to be right about this guy. He could definently be a two-timing liar with double standards, I don't know. However, I do know how I would feel in this situation because 1. I am a gemini guy, and 2. it's happened to me before... .

I think this guy was serious when he opened himself up and expressed his vulnerable emotions. This is a scary thing for alot of people, especially gemini's with their natural skeptisism of heavy emotions. when he got rejected, even if it was done in the most truthful and best-intentioned way possible, he was hurt and began the processes of trying to convincing himself that his original emotions were inappropriate. Even if he supposedly "took it back" he still cares about you, because even the most clever of gemini's can't fool their own emotions. I think lots of gemini-haters would be surprised by the emotional depth a gemini is capable of...

Well, thats my opinion. Good luck..

posted November 11, 2008 07:33 PM         

Ok, so it's been a while since that last post.

Ever since he's told me he loves me, he has steadily pulled further and further away. I admitted that I loved him too on the 31 of October.

I finally got to see him again on Nov 4. and all he did was try to start an argument with me over the elections.

So, I brought up the topic of why he told me he loved me and took it back. I was upset during our conversation and I cried. (I know). He told me that he didn't mean to say it, that he was just comfortable with me, and that it didn't mean that we were going to get married or anything. (That wasn't even in my plans after 6 weeks... lol)

I thought everything would go back to normal but it hasnt. He won't call me back most times now, and everytime I call him, I either get voicemail, or he tells me he is too busy to see me.

So, I figured he needed some space. So, I let him have some. He called me this past Sunday night and we chit chatted about the weekend and everything. No plans made to see each other or anything.

I just don't understand. I texted him that I wished things would just go back to the way they used to be.. He called me and we talked for 5 minutes before he had to "go" again.

It's eating me up inside. I'm thinking I should just cut my losses. I can't stand this feeling of worry I feel. I can't escape the feeling that another person is somehow involved (my Scorpio?). I'm just feeling really insecure and don't appreciate it, and if he cared anything about me, he'd man up and at least TRY to do something about it.

Thanks for listening people.

posted November 12, 2008 03:28 PM         

ScorpioChick, would you happen to know his birth info by any chance. Not that it matters now after all is said and done, but I'd be curious to see if he has hard Uranus aspects.

I'm sorry that he turned out to be such a jerk. I'm a Gemini and I don't understand him at all. He hurt you and gave you no explanation. I think you should stop contacting him. If he wants space, give it to him. Just stop picking up his calls. It's his loss!

VirgOH, what "trick in the book" is that? I must be out of the dating loop. Is this something guys do often?

posted November 12, 2008 06:16 PM         

Heres the synastry:

We talked today about a lot of things. I care about him, and there is something about him that makes me want to know more of him. But I let him know that I wasn't going to be strung along. We have a lunch date tomorrow. I guess I will know then, how this whole thing will work out.

posted November 12, 2008 09:52 PM         

But I agree, this guy has shown less than desirable character traits. But everyone has there saving grace...hopefully he starts to redeem himself sometime soon.