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posted November 11, 2008 08:47 AM         

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I was asked out by 3 people in one week, and no I don't think it's cool or clever or a sign of my superiority. But I did notice that all the men who did show an interest in me were the people who I had invested my time and interest in previously and who I did not primarily think of as a potential date. They were people who I found interesting and I know they were comfortable with me and that they were secure that I liked them - hence if they got turned down they would be certain to know that it would be handled with fairness and compassion. Men don't ask if they think they'll get shot down in flames, humiliated or judged unfairly. It's that simple.

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Thank you for saying that. I don't like getting involved in these threads, but I like what you said and I completely agree. I attract men for the exact reason you mentioned. I make them feel 'safe' (in the sense that I like them back) and *wanted* and comfortable, not so much verbally but definitely through body language.
Right now I'm keeping any attraction-vibes to a minimum though. My Scorp Venus bf is prrrrrretty jealous But it's kinda cute.

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posted November 11, 2008 09:54 AM         

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Cool.

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posted November 11, 2008 09:59 AM           

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For some reason I have always had handsome, interesting, funny and sexy men in my life. I meet them everywhere. I love men. I have finally met the one I want to spend the rest of my life with, but I could be out in my yard working on my lawn mower and three guys would appear from nowhere to help. I could find a fishing hole on a dirt road and soon here comes someone on a tractor or a four wheeler to see what I am doing. I could be at a gas station getting coffee and s omeone will try to strike up a conversation..I really don't know why..I think my independent spirit and unconventional attitude makes me attractive to men. If I wanted to I could have been the biggest **** in the midwest. I have had a lot of younger guys try to get serious with me (8-10 years) but I couldn't do it. I have dated engineers, models, corporate executives, construction workers, artists, accountants... I have even had a woman fall in love with me..mostly to me what would make them attractive is strength, creativity, sense of humor, passionate about anything, the fact that they are into me, kindness...I don't really know why I always meet interesting men that are interested in me, but I wouldn't be out of a relationship too long until someone new asks me out. I say no a lot, just not interested in having relationships with just anyone, venus in virgo is picky...and weaker souls need not apply.. I think it might be my packed 5th house. Uranus, pluto and venus. Sometimes I think they just want a tiger by the tail to cage up and turn into a domestikitty or maybe it's a challenge because I don't give a flip, but I have to be able to be myself and life has taught me to steer clear of cages and liars, but I can be a bit of a flirt. Anyway, I have met the man of my dreams, so it doesn't matter anymore anyway, but you were asking, and if I am single, it's like they smell it and come out of the woodwork.

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posted November 11, 2008 11:43 AM           

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discriminatory women -
throw the list away!

especially if it reads:

no kids
great job
wears a suit
age 42
must eat sushi
drive lexus
make more money than the national treasury

open yourself up to all kinds of people. not mean or warning signs of potential problems type stuff, but if you are that picky, you may pass up the most wonderful man in the world who just may have a kid, or just may get his hands dirty for a living. That kid might be the biggest joy in your life with the most loving man you could ask for. I am just saying, love people, not what they do, or what they have, that all can come and go in an instant.

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posted November 11, 2008 11:57 AM         

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Sunshine_lion, love your posts and love your advice to love people themselves, not items on a checklist. Being open, loving and living in the present moment is not the same as being unselective.

I'm glad to hear some people still have terrific men pouring out of the woodwork!

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posted November 11, 2008 06:37 PM           

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Maybe there's just a lot less guys out there nowadays. There always seems to be more females then males everywhere I go and let's not forget that the ones I'm attracted to tend to be gay or married.

Also, when I do find a decent, cool, unattached, straight male, he usually has a drinking problem.

I can't help you, but I feel your pain.

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