posted January 28, 2002 08:50 AM         

Abbreviating your name seems to be a good idea.

All relationships have so many intricacies, it's hard to make a fix that will actually work in the long haul. All I know is that this is something that obviously stings at you (you've posted it more than once).

I don't have a fix for you. But I do offer a path for you to examine. And it goes a little bit into how I do things. It may not work for you.

Every time we enter a new sun sign, I examine the positive characteristics of a sign and try to emulate them into my life. Not only do I feel I become personally better, but I've come to the point where I begin to see only the "positive" influences of each sign. I encourage you to try this.

Take a look at your capricorn sign. Endurance. Wisdom. A nack for staying on top. That's a very impressive package you have there in your sun sign alone.

The Leo (pauses dramatically to get his own Leonine ego under control). Nobility. Generousity and a loving nature. Not a bad package, either.

So, blending the elements together using a little vision and alchemiacal luck ... you have a noble, enduring, wise, loving and generous relationship. Phew ... that's a terrific package.

There are a lot of techniques you could employ to get there; some of which are more universally successful than others. But I offer this path as something that just may help.

Good luck, Goober!!

posted January 28, 2002 10:34 PM         

It ain't necessarily so,
It ain't necessarily so,
The things that you're liable
to read from down under,
it ain't necessarily so.

posted January 30, 2002 10:18 AM         

My prayers so go out to you. If your young and you haven't started plans for college yet do what you can to go at the far end of your state if not completely out.

posted January 30, 2002 10:19 AM         

My prayers so go out to you. If your young and you haven't started plans for college yet do what you can to go at the far end of your state if not completely out.

posted January 30, 2002 10:22 AM         

My prayers so go out to you. If your young and you haven't started plans for college yet do what you can to go at the far end of your state if not completely out.

posted January 30, 2002 01:41 PM         

Consider this as totally nonjudgmental.

I pulled up your brothers natal chart, yours too.

I cannot reconcile your brothers chart with the cruel, brutal monster you say he is.

He's a Leo, Libra Moon, Leo Merc, Cancer Venus, Libra Mars, Libra Pluto and a Libra Rising.

I would think him idealistic and soft hearted, good looking, fluent with lots of friends. He likes women and they like him.
He would tend to suppress his anger, (Libra Mars) and sports are a good release for him.
I think most people would say he's easy to talk to.

I would say he's also a very conventional guy and might react unpleasantly to your friends/boyfriend if he thinks them weird or outside societies norms.

When he argues, it's probably more like a discussion but an open display of sullen, simmering, hostile temper directed at him or derogatory personal remarks would tend to set off and offend both his Leo and Libra. His Libra would want to withdraw but that Leo would want to stick around and fight it out to the bitter end.

Whatever the truth of the matter, he sees himself as a "nice guy" and I think his friends would agree.

You already know your own chart so no need to set it out here. You're reserved, sharp intellectually, tolerant, sensual and have that Pisces Mars that can show the sullen, simmering, hostile temper I talked about.
You're an Aquarius Rising and may not always be especially conventional in your thinking or demeanor.

Nevertheless, I would think your brother would act like a "big brother" and defend you against all comers, including people and situations he felt might cause you harm.

I don't see the classic abuse markers, (Mars/Pluto square or opposition) between you and your brother. Your Risings are trine and there's also a Venus/Pluto trine.

There is one thing you should be aware of and that's a Sun/Pluto square, his Sun, your Pluto. Lots of possible friction here and especially in a family atmosphere where you're constantly in close proximity. Any attempt to control or direct the other may set off the fireworks.

Please note that I am not an astrologer and these are my personal observations from looking at your charts. Happily, Auriel will be back soon and render an 'informed' opinion of the problem.

Love,
jwhop

posted January 30, 2002 06:34 PM         

JWHOP~ The last thing my brother could be described as is soft-hearted or idealistic. The only way he argues is with losts of yelling; he has a really bad temper. He *is* very conventional, though. Gooberzlostlovefound

posted February 04, 2002 01:51 AM         

Thank you so much for your reply. He *says* he doesn't take any stereroids....btu I know he takes creatine and other "muscle building" drugs. Their effects could be bad on him. I mostly try to stay out of his way; yet still not let him push me around. You are so right about Leo's yelling!!! He really roars if he doesn't get his way....he demands to be treated like royalty! (Leo, King of the Jungle!) Now that Auriel is back I can finally get the charts I so desperately need! Thanks for all your help, you are an

posted March 01, 2002 12:06 AM         

The first thing I noticed in your charts together is the your brother's huge stellium, that includes his ASC, Saturn, Moon, Pluto, Mars and Jupiter, in your 8th house. Those are deep emotional issues, and are also very, very intense. They're all conjuncting your South Node, too, so those are deep issues from your past life together that you two need to work out. If you don't learn to get along and get past it, it's going to get worse.

His Sun and Mercury square your Pluto in your 6th house of every day life. These are both very powerful aspects, but usually aren't much fun. In fact, they indicate that you will have an hostile relationship and violence might even erupt, when the transits set it off. You need to use some of your sweet aspects to temper this. His Venus trines your Pluto, which will help, if you allow it.

You have several aspects for deception and mind games with each other. Be nice to him and expect the same. The next time you want to be mean and toy with him, remember these aspects. You may be younger than him, but that's okay, show him how to act, anyway. I tell my kids the same thing, and I already know your response. I know, it's not easy, but it's worth it. Even if you feel like you didn't accomplish anything, that doesn't mean you didn't. The universe knows what you're doing. Plus, it'll help you become more in touch with your Higher S-ELF.

posted March 01, 2002 12:06 AM         

The way you give and receive love is very similar, too. You can also use that to your advantage.

One of the big things between you, is you both have very intense charts, making you both intense people. When that intensity heats with the Fire you each have, and then clashes, the war is on. Learn to use the sweet aspects between you to get along. When the transits hit those sweet aspects, take advantage of them and invite your brother to do something fun. Don't just expect it to happen. There's a lot of harsh stuff there between you. K-NOW it's going to be some work, and take the first step to build the bridge.

If you have any questions about your individual charts, or your charts together, just ask. Your brother was wide open with me and was very comfortable with me looking at his chart. He may tease you about it, if he finds out, so don't take personally if he does. He's very intense emotionally, and rather secretive about some things, although enjoys attention about a lot of other things. I'm not sure why he was so open with me, given some of the secrets in his chart, but he was. Maybe it's his way of letting you know he wants the situation to change. I'm not sure, but he IS open. He's allowing me to talk to you, so if you have a question, just ask!