posted March 16, 2002 03:00 PM           

also - Sun or Venus /Pluto conjunction..I love Pluto contacts, makes the bond amazingly intense

and my Sun(and or Mercury)/ his Venus conjunction - I feel loved and addored, what not to like?

and Venus/Mars conjunction...mmmm

my Moon / his Mars trine - awesome!

Moon/Pluto conjunction - fairy!

what are yours favorite?

and the ones you don`t want to see in your synastry chart?

I don`t feel comfortable with my Moon/his Saturn harsh aspects, Moon is soooo fragile and jovial, and Saturn could be so harsh to that lovely Moon..

also - Venus/Saturn square - yuck!

Mercury/Saturn square is very sobber

Venus/Mars square - veeeery bad timing (in the long run)

posted March 16, 2002 03:37 PM         

Mars conjunct Venus...yes pleeeze

Mars sq Pluto...Avoid, Avoid, Avoid

posted March 17, 2002 03:33 AM         

Hahaha yep I'm stalking ya

I've been bored too this weekend

posted March 17, 2002 05:10 AM           

I would have to say, that of all the aspects, the one that I love the most is the ol' Sun conjunct Moon. Trine and sextile are nice too!

Ooh, Bissie, have you tried Venus opposed Uranus? Talk about annoying as hell. You never know where you are in THAT aspect.

Take care!
LOve

P.S. I have never been able to pull off a nice Pluto aspect with someone, or maybe I did and wasn't conscious of it. It sounds keen tho, I must confess

posted March 18, 2002 04:21 AM           

When I'm emotional, I love our Moon and Venus aspects. When I'm in the mood for deep conversations, I love our Mercury and Neptune aspects. Our Sun aspects are always sweet. One of my faves is our opposing risings--it gives us wonderful balance. Venus conjunct Mars--uh, um.... oh yah! Kaboom!

I like Moon/Saturn opposition, but not Moon/Saturn square.

posted March 18, 2002 01:06 PM           

tell me, what do you think of his Saturn conjuncting my Moon...I feel uncomfortable by anything that conjunct my Moon,its pretty annoying for me.. not to mention - if it is Saturn on my Moon, ....more over ,in return - my Saturn opposit his Moon...how bad is that in your oppinion?

posted March 21, 2002 12:23 AM           

I guess it all depends on how you use the aspects. I've never found harsh aspects as negative ones, personally. Those are the people in our lives who help us grow and re-MEMBER. Saturn conjunct Moon can go either way, and will often go both. The conjunction allows you to blend, which is sweet. However, there are times when it's harsh and the Saturn person is a bully and stifles the Moon person's emotions, then the Moon person cries and pouts. The Saturn person needs to learn to be nice and the Moon person needs to learn control of their emotions. It's very similar with the opposition, except instead of the blending the conjunction brings, it brings balance and opposing viewpoints. Again, Saturn needs to learn to be a little nicer--and not so stern, and the Moon person needs to learn to control their emotions. You also have to look at the houses they fall in and any aspects to them.

posted September 09, 2003 04:11 PM           

I've found I have no traction with a "weak" synastry chart... it literally feels like there's nothing to hold on to?

posted September 09, 2003 04:28 PM           

All those trines and conjuncts can be boring (for me). I need some sort of energy

This is all in the degrees. Now, the signs... that can be different.

posted September 09, 2003 04:29 PM           

Now people, you all like those ... ummm .... HOT aspects (if we forget Saturn, who is everything but hot!)! And I thought you all were serious people

But to be honest: best aspect - Moon/Venus conjunction. Worse aspect - Mars/Saturn conjunction or as another astrologer would put it "chisel and granite"!

posted September 09, 2003 05:31 PM           

and i'm all them in one chart!!!

posted September 09, 2003 09:10 PM           

squares are delicious, no doubt. I love them too along with conjunctions. I do not like oppositions, oppositions are just how they sound - opposit ends. Intriguing in the ebginning, dissapointing after the things take off the ground. Have you seen the synastry of Demi Moore/ Ashton....everything is in square, almost every aspect is sqaure. She has a huge stellium in Scorpio, he has a huge stellium in Aqua and the borth stelliums are in a tight square.

Zoka, about the aspects...some astrologers prefer very tight orb of degree. No more then 3 or 4 orbs. The general orbs in synastry however are -
8 conjunctions
7 oppositions
7 squares
6 trines
5 sextilles
4 inconjuncton
2 all other minor aspects

but you are right - sometimes the planets are not in aspect but if they are in the same sign/modality they recognise each other. Venus in Libra and Venus in Leo will adore each other even when they are not tied up in aspect by close orb. Its because their expression of love is similar.

posted September 09, 2003 11:13 PM           

And his water planets are his Sun and Neptune in Scorpio.

I just don't see how they fit at all but she is totally obsessed. Must be the Taurus/Scorpio energy which is intense but that's an opposition. She was out of her mind for him and pursued him for years, they have two children now and wouldn't trade eachother for the world. Of course they spend every minute together. I'm not jealous though because I think couples need space.

I have also had the hots for a Venus in Capricorn which is opposite my moon in Cancer and his moon was opposite my Venus and his Mars was opposite Uranus

Uranus conjunct the Ascendant makes for a sexually addictive relationship which is good or bad depending on what book you read. Personally I think this is not bad as long as you know that's what it's about.

Saturn on the Ascendant or on Mars makes the person with the Saturn very attracted and almost always means long term.
Uranus/Venus Squares can be very stimulating and require a lot of growth.
Neptune conjunct Venus is another growing up experience but a lot of work.
Mercury aspects are the best, mercury, or trine moons is fantastic for chemistry.

I do not find Mars, or Venus aspects as important as Pluto, Uranus, Saturn and Mercury.
I have a T-Square with the point on Venus so I am partial to either very strong relationships or friendships. And I am okay with any kind of friendship, but there are those that are growing experiences. I am not so sure neptune aspects are that beneficial.

The Ascendant's ruler should be well placed in the partners chart. Example if the woman's rising is Sag and her partner has Jupiter (ruler of Sag) in Sag in the 9th and her Jupiter is in Virgo and most of his planets are in Jupiter then there is hot chemistry.

I would always look to the Ascendant first.

posted September 09, 2003 11:23 PM           

If you have a strong Pluto (at the top of your chart) you want sparks, nothing else will do.

If a man has the ascendant in Libra, and his Venus is in Capricorn, then he would be attracted to someone with a strong Venusian or Capricorn feel. The Ascendant and it's ruler leads you to that planet and then you can go from there.

There are some aspects that water down, if the Ascendant and Venus are trine or too close it's like a business relationship after a while, but if there is a square there can be serious sparks. Same with Moon and Ascendant squares.
If a man has a Libra Ascendant and the Woman has Venus in Aries that could mean serious sparks, a life long relationship but lots of bickering.

Still those seem to be the ones that pan out, who wants to live with a long lost cousin?

For me too strong a Jupiter can mean a low key attitude about love, it's important to see if passionate love what this person is about. A strong Pluto is the opposite, passionate but independent.

The real way to figure out a synastry is to understand the individuals first.

posted September 09, 2003 11:49 PM           

Nat, in the long term relationship case you mentioned above - the planetray synastric aspects are mostly squares except for her Moon in opposition to his Sun/Neptune, thats the only opposition you mentioned, the rest is squares. I still believe oppositions are not good int he long run, only create attraction in the beginning but they are ehxausting. I am talking about a series of oppisitons, not just a planet or two.

posted September 10, 2003 09:08 AM           

Indeed Zoka, how about Jupiter?????
You will love to have a Jupiter conj. Moon and yes Mars/Venus conjunction, please never leave!!!

(I have these with Gem. you got that ai?) We share quite a few amazing oppositions and squares of which a heavy Pluto/Sun square vice versa without orb... My gosh! Though that same Pluto Trines my Venus again..
I agree fully with planets being in the same sign but not in orb. We have this with Sun/Mercury Vice versa and there is mutual understanding and a lot of communication!

Well, personally I can find myself in what Newi said about squares...ENERGY!! As well as growth, growth, growth!!!

Oh, how could I forget, I love our Neptune Trine Venus! It is so romantic and we play a lot of music together!
Give it to me baby, aha...aha!

posted September 10, 2003 02:30 PM           

Hi Sylven! Glad to see you're so happy with your Gem

posted September 10, 2003 08:07 PM           

Look at some charts with all oppositions, they are not going to get along with someone with trines, they are going to need that opposition with someone else to get along otherwise, they will never feel challenged. Each one understands the other's aspects.

So even if your synastry is all trines together it may be boring and if one person has a T-Square it can be a problem. If both have T-Squares there is a lot more tension which to me is the only reason to have a lover in the first place. After a while friendship is fine but there have to be sparks. Now astrologers say Saturn on the ascendant is bad, look at Lewinsky-Clinton, BUT a lot of famous couples such as the Reagans had this aspect and were happy together.

Everything can be bad or good depending on how you look at it UNLESS Saturn Conjuncts the other's Moon, there can be serious misunderstandings there. If Saturn Conjuncts Mars, there is sexual tension for the Saturn end, there is always more spark for the person with the Saturn. Moon aspects are tricky. Saturn is important in your life and even a Saturn Moon Conjunction can work out but it takes time. An example would be a counselor and a troubled teen, it's always about one learning from the other at a given time.

Learning experiences can be painful but we all need these kind of friendships, the choice is yours. The only thing that matters is trust, you have to build that slowly and not be too deluded about that. Love is a mixture of trust, delusion, and optimism. The trust doesn't come easy but everyone can learn to trust. I have taught small children and all the children trusted me at the end, it's the key to any intimate relationship.

Too many times we ignore the signs and leap without trusting ourselves to look. You have to ask yourself the Questions

Do you even Want this person to Love You?
Or do you Adore him or Her?
Isn't that spiritually unhealthy, to know you are adoring or idolizing instead of accepting?
You need a new mindset!

Don't run away, stick through it and learn from your friends and relationships and look everywhere for possibilities for better communication and understanding.

posted September 12, 2003 04:42 AM           

But hey, Natasha, isn't Venus in her 7th house just very cool and wonderful for a relationship? Because you mentioned 'according to traditional astrology it is a big no no'.

Nice, I have Mars conjunct his Ascendant too and he has Mars in my 7th. And then?? Just kidding...