posted July 11, 2002 02:41 PM         

Can you let me have both your birth details?
Date, Time and Place of birth.

posted July 12, 2002 08:19 AM         

You say......
"But anyway he said he just doesn't want a girlfriend. And I guess that's understandable. But I do want a boyfriend..i want HIM to be my boyfriend".

Why do you think it's understandable, when he says he doesn't want a girlfriend?
Do you believe that he is telling you the truth when he says he does not want a girlfriend? Because if you really deep down in your heart believe what he is saying then you really have no choice but to accept what he is telling you. That's tough I know

You also say...
"But I told him that I didn't want that because I dont want him to know that that is why I'm hanging out with him because then he probably won't want to see me anymore. I told him all i want to be is his friend and I want to be able to hang out with him and stuff at least a few times before summer is over".

OK...So I think you really need to ask yourself why you're having to pretend. If it's because you're frightened of his answer then ask yourself why.
You say that he's confusing you but aren't you confusing him? You're telling him one thing when you really want another.

You also said...
"He promised me he'd call me by or before Tuesday (July 16) so we could hang out on Tuesday. He always used to say he would call though, and NEVER would..so I'm not sure if he actually is going to call or not".

Why do you think he doesn't call?

"He's so confusing sometimes though... I just want to know if you think things are going to work out between us?"

It's very difficult for anything to work out between 2 people who are confusing each other

"And if there are any ways or things I can do to win him back and make him realize that he does want me to be his girlfriend?"

The only person in life you can "make" do things is yourself.

You're obviously hurting a lot over this You say you ended the relationship because it wasn't working. What makes you feel it will be different now?

You know my Mother used to always say to me "never run for a man or a bus.......there'll always be another one along"

posted July 12, 2002 12:43 PM         

Well, I do believe that he means it when he says that he doesn't want a girlfriend, but I think that if I make him remember all the fun we've had together that he will want me back, because that's happened before. I'm just not sure how I'm going to do it if he keeps telling me he'll call, and then not doing so. Because I don't want to keep chasing him like this the way I am.

I see your point, and I guess I'm confusing him too, but I'm really really afraid that if I tell him I want to be his girlfriend he'll try to avoid me a lot and not want to see me anymore.

I'm not sure why he doesn't call. He says he still likes me and misses me, but he also says he's very busy all the time. (He still hasn't called by the way...and he's not going to be home tonight, tomorrow, or Sunday because he's going camping for the weekend...so if he doesn't call today before he leaves, he only has Monday or possible Tuesday morning, and I doubt that he's going to call me then ).

The reason I feel that things will be different now is because we have gotten space from each other. And I honestly believe that's all we both needed, a little space. I guess I should've told him that when we broke up, but I didn't realize that then. He doesn't like to chase after girls though..he's not like that at all. If he likes a girl, he won't even let her know, she'll have to be the one to let him know. He's shy like that. He liked me before I even noticed him, but it wasn't until I started liking him and showing him that, that he showed me that he liked me. I mean, I even had to initiate the first kiss (which i don't mind at all).

I miss him a lot...I can't let go. No guy has ever made me cry before and I've had quite a few boyfriends. So I know that this is real...and I would never be able to be happy knowing that I just let him get away like that without trying. How I am is, when I see something I want, I go for it, and keep on going until I get it. So that's what I intend on doing...I just don't know what approach to take because obviously the one I am taking (calling him, hanging out w/ him, trying to be friends) isn't working because he's not calling me too. Well thanks for taking the time to help me, I REALLY REALLY appreciate it!

posted July 12, 2002 02:42 PM         

"How I am is, when I see something I want, I go for it, and keep on going until I get it. So that's what I intend on doing"

You're an Aries Sun and you want what you want

Have you ever read a book called "The Rules" by Ellen Fein and Sherrie Schneider? Maybe you should

I'm going to look at your chart after I've eaten (it's 8pm here now).
Sue

posted July 12, 2002 03:44 PM         

Still not eaten yet but there's a couple of things that are very strong in your natal chart. By strong I mean at 0 degrees - so very strong.
Please give this some thought......

Uranus opposed Moon:
People with stressful aspects between the Moon and Uranus have a fear of abandonment and can be prone to hysterics. The Moon shows, in any horoscope, relationships with women in general, particularly the mother. The stressful aspects (opposed is a stressful aspect) frequently mean that the mother’s schedule was erratic during the first few years of the person’s life, usually because the mother herself was erratic. As a result, the child, to survive, cuts off, says "I don’t need her". Everything is fine until they grow up and start dating. When they really like someone, up comes the feeling: "I need you", and that’s when they run. If they can’t run, they do or say something to make the other person run. There is also a tendency to be attracted to someone who is unavailable (married or out of town). In fact, the more unavailable the love interest, the greater the attraction. These traits are usually more noticeable in a women.

Uranus trine Mercury:
Gives a mind that is attracted to the new and unusual. This combination increases brilliance, flashes of genius. According to C.E.O.Carter, the harmonious aspects (the trine is harmonious) are common in the horoscopes of astrologers.
These folks have to learn to keep an open mind a little longer than they usually do before making it up because, once their mind is made up, it seldom changes. They can change their own minds several times a day but no one else can change their minds for them even once.

Uranus trine Venus:
Will attract strange and bizarre lovers. Uranus wants independence, freedom. If a relationship becomes too "normal", it breaks. And Uranus doesn’t just leave. It suddenly ejects. The trine is a harmonious aspect and so usually manages to be unusual and avant garde without being so inconstant.

You also have Mars in your 7th house (7th house rules relationships).....
Mars in the 7th House:
Gives an active, aggressive partner. Watch out for arguments. As long as they have plenty to do, everything tends to be fine. It they get bored, well, Mars will create a diversion. Conversely, you yourself may become more active and aggressive after marriage.

You currently have Uranus tranisting your 5th house (Romance)
Uranus shakes things up - sudden and often erractic changes!
If you’re dating, you will be attracted to people who are weird, unusual, independent, maybe even a bit shocking. Maybe there will be a great difference in your ages. Or they could just be the type of person that you would have never even considered going out with before. This transit can attract you to people who are geniuses, eccentric, or a bit crazy. On the plus side, if you are in any career that requires creativity, you will shine. Under Uranus transits, we never like to do things in old, routine ways, so you will tend to be much more innovative now. The 5th House also rules hobbies, sports, and games. This is a perfect time to take up new forms of recreation. Uranus transits give you a chance to open yourself up to new horizons.

Anyway, just a few things for you to think about. I tend to think your Uranus opposed Moon is seriously at work at the moment
Sue

posted July 13, 2002 02:19 AM         

Don't starve over me!!

posted July 13, 2002 09:06 AM         

I've been looking at your transits and I "feel" that the transiting node is really "hitting" the Uranus opposed Moon aspect in your natal chart.
Possibly this is making you feel this so intensely.

I have not "studied" transiting nodes but Randall may be able to help out here.

Randall???
Transiting node aspects are currently.
0.00a degrees conjunct natal Moon
0.29a degrees sextile natal Mercury
0.43a degrees sextile natal Venus
0.25s degrees opposed natal Uranus
1.18s trine Ascendant

posted July 13, 2002 12:19 PM         

One of my friends is trying to hook me up with his friend though so I might go hang out with them today, so maybe that's why I'm feeling better..someone to get my mind off of Andrew (that's his name).

Well I wanna thank everyone for helping me so much, because this really means A LOT to me. Well I guess I'll check back later

posted July 13, 2002 12:21 PM         

Thanks, I wasn't sure if you'd studied node transits as well.

posted July 13, 2002 12:26 PM         

Great distraction for you.
Have fun

Sue

posted July 13, 2002 02:36 PM         

Well all you can do is give this new guy a chance.....and don't forget your tendancy "to want the one that's unavailable"

Don't ever forget that you deserve to be happy and to be in a relationship that makes BOTH of you happy

posted July 15, 2002 06:15 PM         

And yes I'm sure he's missing you