posted August 14, 2002 07:33 AM         

How are you doing?

Sometime back i'd posted a message about this person I'm getting married to and you were kind enough to read our birth charts and tell me about our compatiblity and stuff. Well, just this week he broke up with me over mail and without any explanation.... out of the blue. he's not called up or even answered my calls or mails. I'd like to know if you could take a look at our charts? I need some/any explanation for this catastrophe... and its hard not to know.

Sorry for the trouble and I'd really be obliged if you could make time for it.

posted August 14, 2002 08:51 AM         

He broke up with you by mail
You must be devastated

I just can't believe anyone would end a relationship in that way

I'll take a look at your charts this evening. When exactly did you receive his mail?
Take care of yourself sweetheart. Try to keep youself busy so as to keep your mind occupied with other things. I know that won't be easy. Pamper yourself a lot!! You need it
Sue

posted August 20, 2002 02:03 AM         

Thanks for the message. not replying earlier... i was away from office and home.. just needed sometime to myself so went away on a trip. I was devastated to say the least. Its the not knowing why that hurts the most. Am trying to get over it but i only wish i knew why... i feel like i've been duped, if you know what i mean. All my loved ones say i'm better of without him if he's such a coward to not even call... but then love hath no reason

I got his mail on aug 8th( he sent it on aug 7th) and he didn't receive my call nor replied to my mails or chat messages and i didn't try later).

Could the charts show some reason for this strange and inexplicable behavior?

Thanks and i'm hoping you could show some astrological sense in this whole thing.

love n peace,

posted August 20, 2002 08:40 AM         

So you still not heard a word from him hey
I'll take a look at your charts to see what the transits where up to then.

posted August 20, 2002 11:55 PM         

I haven't herad from him but since we have lots of mutual friends(now that's really hard to take) i know he's ok.

The only thing that's keeping me going is the hope that this is all for the better. Now if i could only see the reason behind it....

myaxlrose

posted August 21, 2002 04:07 AM         

On this forum I posted "Reasons, Seasons, Lifetime(s) - I'll bring it back up to the top for you to read - it may help

posted August 21, 2002 07:14 AM         

How are you?

Felt so good reading the "Reasons, Seasons, Lifetimes" thread. But its only when we say good bye that we realise it wasn't meant to be for a lifetime and so the hurt's always there while parting... but i guess if we do accept that it happened for a reason then it'll be easier... i'm probably sounding very confused... but am trying to make sense of everything and come to peace with myself.

Please look at the charts at ur own convenience. Since i was totally in the dark and needed some reason, thought may be something in the charts would explain such a catastrophe(for me).

Thanks again, Cat. Your words have been much-needed balm.

posted August 21, 2002 04:32 PM         

Well I've been looking at his chart for the day he posted the letter to you - obviously we don't know when he actually wrote it but he decided to post it to you on that day.

I'll go through some of his transist with you.....

Pluto is transiting his 5th House.
This is the house of romance, creativity, and children, as well as gambling and speculation. Now Pluto is the planet of extremes and also obsessions. If he likes to gamble..this would cause him big problems!
It can lead to gambling fever, which usually leads to big losses.
If he is a gambler he could well become obessed with it during this time, but that also is true for other 5th house matters, like sports, games, or hobbies.
Now of course, the 5th House also rules Romance. Any love affairs at this time are less likely to be light flings. More like obsessions. He would also be very jealous at this time - which is another Pluto problem. Relationships during this time can be extreme - for the good or bad.

Pluto made an exact Trine to his natal Saturn that day. Saturn is the planet of fear - Pluto can bring that out.
Saturn also rules persistence and discipline and Pluto can activate those things as well. This aspect can be an excellent time to start a long-term program of change and circumstances may force you in those directions. So may have been "pushing" him to change.

Pluto was also making an exact (0 degree)conjunction to his Natal Neptune.
This is a stressful aspect. Pluto can “kill” your dreams, faith, and fantasies. Pluto doesn’t care.....it just makes changes!
Pluto is his 5th house (romance) ruler and Neptune rules his 9th house (Religion, philosophy, higher education, "higher mind" long journeys)
So will have created changes in both those areas.

Pluto was also making an exact trine to his Natal Mid-Heaven
This aspect can transform your career, domestic environment, and relationships with your boss and parents. He could have experienced "office politics" at work, and power struggles both at home and work. This aspect can be a good time to make permanent changes in your home, or moving. It can also be favourable for changing jobs and even careers. He may have a desire to make these changes but it might be due to some inner compulsion or obsession that he still hasn't properly worked through.

Neptune is transiting his 7th house.
Neptune can make you "not see things clearly" it can mislead you. The 7h house rules relationships.
He may be "helping" the wrong people.
There is a tendency with this transit to try to "save" people - if that's happening, it will more than likely "backfire" on him in the end as he won't be seeing things clearly.

Neptune is Trine his Natal Pluto (quite tight at 1 degree)
Pluto is the ruler of Scorpio (his 5th house ruler). This can create fantasy. Neptune is dreams and fantasies and Pluto is sex. He could be obssessed with his dreams and fantasies at this time. He may not be grounded in reality but he may want to pursue his dreams, and even a few of his fantasies.

Neptune is making a square (1 degree) to his Natal Uranus.
Sudden (Uranus) confusion (Neptune) is one possibility of this transit. Another is that he will be opened up to totally new ways of looking at the world. Transits like this can get people interested in studying weird things. The square is a stressful aspect and can be a little rough to deal with. His old views on things are being challenged and he may not want to give them up.
Uranus rules his 8th house (Sex, death, rebirth -in the sense of regeneration, other people’s money, possessions, and values, your ability to utilize the possessions of others for your own ends) and Neptune rules his 9th (Religion, philosophy, higher education, "higher mind" long journeys)
His natal Neptune is in his 5th house (romance) and his natal Uranus is in his 4th house (home) These are the areas of his life that are being affected by this transit as well as his 7th house (relationships) as Neptune is transiting his 7th house.
Do you think that he has met someone else?
This transit could have brought someone into his life who he may be think is his soul mate - but most likely it isn't. Remember Neptune and rose coloured glasses. Re-read what I've already written about Neptune so far. Now he may not have met anyone - I'm just saying that it could be a possibility with this transit. I'm only mentioning it as we are "searching" for some answers for you

Uranus is transiting his 8th house.
Yes, this is the house of sex but it is also the house of credit and taxes, so he must be careful not to ignore his finances. He could be having financial problems.
As far as the sex goes, the tendency of Uranus here is to make one more inventive.

Saturn is transiting his 12th House.
He needs to watch out for extremely negative people coming into his life now. Usually, this shows people coming to you “help”. Only the help they need never seems to end. They can drain you. It doesn’t have to be a new person either. It could be someone you already know who suddenly “turns”. Saturn transiting here frequently marks the end of a long cycle.

Jupiter is transiting his 1st House.
By itself, this transit tends to bring new opportunities. Jupiter is also the ruler of Sagittarius, the sign of wisdom and philosophy. Jupiter going through your 1st House helps you understand. Optimism tends to increase. It’s a good time to make long range plans but you need to be careful not to make them too big.

Mars had just entered his 2nd house that day
Mars here will have given him a strong drive towards 2nd house issues (Money and possessions. But it goes beyond these. The second house also shows the VALUE you place on things, including yourself, so it includes your sense of self-worth)

Venus was transiting his 3rd house.
Well Venus speaks for itself and the 3rd house rules communications - hence the letter.......

Chiron is transiting his 6th house.
Chiron = healing. 6th house = work and health. Are things happening in those areas of his life that you know of?

Sun was just entering his 2nd house.
The Sun is where we want to shine. It will have been lighting his 2nd house matters up (see above for what the 2nd house rules).

Mercury (communication) was transiting his 2nd house (see above for 2nd house issues)

Mars was making an exact square to his natal Mars.

Mars was making an exact conjunction to his natal Saturn.

Sun was making an exact conjunction to his natal Saturn.

Sun making an exact trine to his natal Neptune.

Sun making an exact trine to his natal MC.

Chiron was exactly opposing his natal Mercury.

I'll edit this post later (or possibly tomorrow) to fill in the last few explanations.
Hopefully this will give you some possible reasons.
Sue

posted August 22, 2002 01:35 AM         

He's been in a new job since about a month and had to move to another place and yes, i was observing that he suddenly had so many people who needed his help. SO the fact that you happened to mention the same clears up some issues for me. I dunno if he's met anyone...but anything's possible

I'm trying to move on now... but the mail still rankles... i wish he'd talked to me instead of being such a coward and sending a mail.

I REALLY appreciate the trouble you've taken on my behalf, Sue. Thanks so much.

myaxlrose