posted September 13, 2002 09:57 PM         

I would like to know can someone look at my aspects and tell me if now is a good time to meet someone new or start dating again?

Or can anyone predict when and where I will meet my next potential love interest or like interest?

DOB May 4, 1967 07:38am Chicago, IL

Blue M

posted September 13, 2002 11:41 PM         

i just looked at your chart. do you change you mind a lot? venus in gemini is a notorious flirt, and especially since yours is in your first house of self making hard aspects to 3 planets, including your pisces moon. i also noticed a tendency to scrap away whole projects when you become overcome with emotions. it would be best advised that you do not always follow the tide of your emotions as you could very well throw away whole projects you worked hard on, only to toss them out the window when you're emotionally unstable and depressed.

did you know that when you asked your question, the moon right now is sitting in your 7th house relationships? that's why you're posting your questions. just an interesting bit i thought you be interested in knowing, as this indicates you are very sensitive to the phases of the moon. it would be a good thing for you to keep track of the moon's positions to help regulate your moods and understand why you are feeling out of sorts sometimes.

saturn is moving through your first house, and had set off the adverse planetary aspects you have with venus. i suspect that your lesson during this transit is to learn responsibility and commitment with respect to yourself. events could have manifested that mirrored your past behaviors as an effort to help you change a flighty, emotional, uncommitted, distant nature, yet quite tumultous at times as well.

truthfully, i am concerned that you may not have learned fully saturn's transit through your first house, as your choice of words,

"I am ready for a new relationship. I need a diversion or something new and exciting to throw myself into."

lends itself to show that you are still holding on to past behaviors that lead to undesirable consequences you may have experienced during this saturn transit. my own personal advice is to follow through with saturn, as he produces wonderful gifts when we learn our lessons.

ask yourself this, when you have impulsively indulged yourself in affairs, what have been the outcomes?

posted September 14, 2002 12:31 AM         

What are you saying? I am so restless right now. I am going to go crazy. Even though I have a Gemini Rising and Venus in Gemini I am totally sincere about my relationships. I fall in love deeply and I am always faithful. My relationships however bad or good usually last for a long period of time. I end the connection usually when my mate has slowly ended it with harsh treatment over an extended period of time.

I have a problem leaving someone. I don't ever want my mate to feel abandoned. It is very hard for me to leave someone when he still wants me in his life. In order to save myself I end relationships that are no longer bringing me happiness but usually after many efforts to breakup.

But I once had an astrologer tell me about the different phases or changes with the moon. You are absolutely correct. The moon affects me in ways I know not of...

What would you recommend I do? Where could I get information about the different phases of the moon and exactly how I am affected by each one?

What did you mean when you said past behaviors coming up again. And something about what lesson did I learn from the past?

That is amazing at the time I asked that question my house of relationships had transits passing through.

I asked that question because my ex-boyfriend has been trying desparately to get me back. He is an Aquarius. I have been really strong and I have not returned any of his calls but I have returned a couple of the dozen of emails he has sent me.

I am very vulnerable right now due to a few job situations and I am so tempted to call him. I know I should not. I know he was very emotionally abusive before. But he can also be very kind, charming and loving. Out of all the men I have had in my life he is the only one who it seems like cannot let go.

We have broken up several times but he always brings me back.

I really wanted to get involved in a new relationship so that I will not be tempted to return to him. I don't want to be with him but now I am quite vulnerable.

I know it is a very weak thing to do. It is very weak to want to be with someone new in order not to return to someone old. I have always taken the high road. I have always ended a relationship, held out, did not date for years after. But now I don't care. I am in pain and I just want to have fun. I want to party and have something to look forward to.

Just a date, a movie or dinner. I am young and I have so much energy. I don't want to become depressed and self-destructive. Everyone is always asking me where do I get my energy. My brother's girlfriend told me I have so much energy we need to bottle it up and sell it.

I just feel like I have a lot of love to give and I want to throw myself into something(preferably(?) a relationship, to escape the abuse I am facing on my job. Other people do it why can't I. I am always helping someone to heal and right now at this moment I want someone to help me heal.

Is that so bad Aphrodite?
Excuse my spelling I am emotionally exhausted.

posted September 14, 2002 01:31 AM         

I am so sorry I was reading through your post so fast I did not answer a few of your questions.

I really don't think I change my mind quickly or often. But I do work hard on projects and then stop. My emotions sometimes do control my energy level. I can have so much energy and go dancing for 4 hours get 4 hours of sleep and still have energy left to go to work the next day. I can clean my house from top to bottom everyday.

But when I am depressed I cannot clean my house. I just don't know why I cannot do it. I can work, dance and excercise but when I am depressed I cannot get my thoughts in order to organize.

Right now I am reading 3 books. How can that be you ask. I don't know. I will start reading a book, and read it for four or five hours very intensely and then a week later no longer be interested and then 3 weeks or even 3 months later pick the same book back up and finish reading it.

But I am not that way with people. But with a moon in Pisces I have always wanted to be an actress, a lawyer, singer, writter, or dancer and truly think I could accomplish each professional in this lifetime. Was I mad or what? Now I just truly want to be an actress, writer and possible a singer.

So to answer your question I never impulsively threw myself into a relationship. I have a Sun in Taurus and Aphrodite you should know us Taurus's move slowly in the love department.

I hope I answered all of your questions.

posted September 16, 2002 08:32 AM         

I took a look at your chart and the transits and I see you've been having a lot of challenges in many areas lately. The job challenges you've been experiencing are not only karmic in nature, but serious life lessons you need to learn. Sure, it's nice to think about escaping, especially with that dreamy Pisces Moon, but Aphrodite is right that you receive wonderful gifts when you learn what you need. In your case, it's not just Saturn that has been forcing change in your life, but Pluto too. You may want to consider going out dancing with some friends or take a yoga class to release some of that stressful energy. It'll give you the fun and excitement you crave, help you burn off some stress, help you take your mind off your ex, and refresh your spirit so you can deal with your job and the lessons that go with it in a more effective manner. Your chart and the transits show you could easily throw yourself into a relationship right now, but it's unlikely that it would be a rewarding one. Plus, you'd end up repeating these lessons you set up for yoursELF and they'll be even more challenging the next time.

Mars is approaching that T-square that Aphrodite mentioned--your Venus square your Moon and Pluto/Uranus conjunction. Prepare yourself. First of all, that T-Square is one of the reasons you suffer from depression and can't do anything when it's set off-- and the transits have been hammering it all year. Second of all, those are strong indications of emotional abuse. Well, when Mars is added to the mix, physical abuse is very likely. You have the ability to prevent this. No one can hurt you unless you allow it. Over the next couple of weeks, you are very likely to meet someone. It's all over your chart. It's also very likely that you will have strong abuse aspects with him. Be very careful. Go out and have fun with your friends, but if that little, inner voice whispers DANGER, then listen to it! The other thing about adding Mars to the mix is you'll have a strong sex drive. You should probably be very careful about acting on it, because it could lead to physical abuse. Or if you leave with someone you don't know, it could lead to sexual abuse. If you drink, don't leave your drink unattended. Keep it in your hand at all times and do not set it down. This transit will last a couple of weeks and is just gearing up for it now.

You should really read what Aphrodite said with your 3rd eye open. She's an extremely talented astrologer that has a rare and beautiful gift of intuiting a chart. She's the one I would go to if I wanted a 2nd opinion about my chart. She does more than just look at the planets and aspects and tell you what they mean. She connects with your Soul and tells you what she feels when she's lOOking at your chart. You say others do it, so why can't you....do you really want to be like others? If so, then why are you here? You know you have more inside you or you wouldn't be here asking us to stir your Soul to help you with your spiritual growth. Sure, you asked a light-hearted question, but when Aphrodite opened your chart, she felt your Soul tugging at her for what you really need and what your Higher S-ELF was wanting her to answer, even if was on a level you weren't aware of at the time. So did I. Think about it.

posted September 20, 2002 09:34 AM         

Thanks for your insights. As far as sex drive goes, you must be talking about the future. Because at this present time I have absolutely no sex drive.

It is amazing that I wrote that post a week ago. At this moment I have absolutely no desire to meet or date anyone. I want to be alone.

My job is taking up so much of my mind and emotion that a relationship is the very last thing I want to try to deal with now.

My ex-boyfriend calls me like 10 times a day. He has left me flowers by my door, showed up at the club I go dancing but I have no desire to be with him. It is truly amazing because I have been totally in love with him for the last 5 years. He did something cruel to me and I don't have any desire to speak to him.

I have never been physically abused. My parents raised me never to put up with physical abuse. But I have been emotionally and mentally abused without really knowing what was going on.

Thanks for your input and I will take heed to your advice.

Blue M

posted March 14, 2003 01:41 AM         

This post is for you. I was going through and reading some of my old post and I came across this one. I want you tell you, your were absolutely correct about me not fishing projects I start because of my emotions.

That is the exact problem I am having now. I am being pulled in 20 directions and not knowing which way is right for me. At the time you gave me an analysis, I don't think I totally agreed with you but now that I have become more aware of myself through objective observation my emotions had hindred my success.

Aphrodite, why does the moon have such and effect on me. I have a Taurus Sun and a Gemini Rising. Now I know why you remembered me so clearly because you were right on the money.

I am a flirt sometimes but when I retreat to myself and don't pursue men that seem to resent it and me expecting me to be happy and persuing.

I had posted a question about internet dating earlier about if I am going to meet anyone significant during this time. The reason I posted that question was because I have met a gew guys on the net but not anyone I feel anything for. I am just not going to persue any man. I feel if they really want me they can stand up like a man and come and get me. Am I wrong to feel this way? In other words I have other priorities or problems in my life that a man is last on my list.

Anyway I just wanted to thank you for your earlier insight.

posted March 16, 2003 01:36 AM         

it's wonderful to hear from you! thanks for your feedback, i appreciate it immensely. i will look at your chart this week and see what it says for you.

i hope your weekend is going well.

cheers,

posted March 31, 2003 03:55 PM         

apologies for getting back to you so late. the transits to your chart indicate that pursuing romance will require more energy and work than you have invested in the past to create positive and healthy relationships. be prepared to do overtime and taking the time to do a lot of introspection of what you really want out of a relationship. if you do the extra effort steadily and concentrate your mind in a positive direction, i am sure you will achieve anything you desire.

love,

posted April 04, 2003 11:37 PM         

who can help me would be much appreciated. Donna mentioned I was going through a Cinderalla period with Chiron and could possible meet my soulmate. Aphrodite mentioned I have to use more energy than I have previously used in finding that special guy.

I was about to quit the dating service I was in until I read about my Cinderalla transits. I thought to myself I would give it one more try. Well I don't know what has been happening but I have been rejected like the plague.

I went on a date with a Libra, born 10-19-1972 who was born in Denver, Colorado. He was very educated and seemed like such a nice guy. We had a great time and he even prolonged the date and took me to another place for music and drinks, aside from dinner.

He said he would call me if he knew my number and I told him I would call him. I was going to give him my number the next day but he sent me an email that said he had a great time with me but did not feel it was a match.

He is not the only guy who has rejected me. I mean basically I have been rejected my entire life, especially by the opposite sex. I am tall, beautiful, have a great smile, an outgoing very charismatic personality and I am a great listener. I just don't understand what is happening.

What happened to my Cinderalla transits? I feel like I am the ugly duckling. I know looks alone does not mean much and that is why I spent years cultivating my personality and intellect. I am not easy and a very respectable person.

I know that I am strong and can take many things in stride but lately I am wondering will I always be alone. Whenever I am rejected I move on but it is hard when everyone you move on to, also rejects you.

Usually I can read people and tell when someone is or is not interested but on my last date I so no indication.

Please tell me what am I doing wrong? I know I do not have any planets in I think my 7 or 8th house of relationships. I know this has to have something to do with it. My sister in the past 25 years has never been without a relationship. She has not been with the same person but she is never alone but I am always the loner.

I have a lot to give and want to start experiencing life before I die.

Please help

Blue M

posted April 07, 2003 10:37 AM         

You're not doing anything wrong. Just try something new! Put that taurean fixed way of doing things on the backburner and do something else for FUN!

Here's my suggestion: Wipe those tears off your lovely face. Go to the spa if you can afford it and indulge (you can be a taurus here) in the works---massage, hair cut & color, nails, make-up, mud bath, etc. The next day, put on a nice dress, sassy shoes and go to places where there are men you would like to date. Be creative and just do harmless flirting (use that Gemini stuff you got). You are bound to get a purse full of phone numbers by the end of the night.

Good luck

Don't forget, have fun! And, DO NOT think of marriage, honeymoon, and babies when you first meet a guy. Men sense these things, believe it or not and it scares them off because those are heavy duty weird thoughts to have on the first meeting.

Aphrodite

posted April 07, 2003 10:51 PM         

When we look for people, we don't find them. When you are not looking, they won't go away