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Venus
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posted September 19, 2002 05:41 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Venus     Edit/Delete Message
Hi Auriel

I hope you and yours are all well. I was Sealion on another Site which you were on and have only just found this site.

Been in a relationship with a guy for 8 months - friends and lovers - did lots together, including going on hol with kids etc. Neither of us wants a full commitment but everything seemed to be going well the way it was (both need space occasionally.) Now he's said he just wants to be friends, I thought he needed 'more space' and so 'backed off'.

I really do value his friendship but I can't be 'just friends' with him, although I do have other male 'friends'. Astrologically speaking, looking at our charts do you think it could ever be more than just friends again?

Me 26th Feb 1954 - Bolton, England 3.55pm
Him 27th N0v 1964 - Manchester, England 3.45pm

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Randall
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posted September 19, 2002 01:10 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Randall     Edit/Delete Message
Welcome, Venus!

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"Never mentally imagine for another that which you would not want to experience for yourself, since the mental image you send out inevitably comes back to you." Rebecca Clark

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Auriel Langford
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posted September 20, 2002 12:46 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Auriel Langford     Edit/Delete Message
Hi Sealion! I remember you well! I'm really grateful you gave me your former name too, because your birth data is already on my computer. It saved me some work!

I took a look at the transits with him and I see some challenges for him right now that has him in a rather aggressive mood. He may be saying things in a rant that he doesn't mean or that he may want to take back later. The transits that are working against your relationship are short-term ones. The full Moon we're about to have is going to hit him hard. He needs to release stress. If the two of you work it out after this passes is up to you. I'd say give him some space and let this pass and then talk to him. However, talking about things, especially his true feelings, isn't his greatest strength, nor is it a strength for you as a couple. The two of you have some very serious challenges together if you are able to work things out. There are some aspects that would help with a long-term relationship, but there are more aspects that show an eventual split in the relationship. So, he probably will be open to giving it another try once the dust clears. But before you go there, you should really think about what you want for yoursELF out of a relationship and if what you have together fulfills that.

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raj_105_2001
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posted September 20, 2002 07:41 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for raj_105_2001     Edit/Delete Message
Hey your synastry is simply WONDERFUL! Don't ever think of friendship. Go for FULL relationship.

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raj_105_2001
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posted September 20, 2002 07:41 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for raj_105_2001     Edit/Delete Message
Hey your synastry is simply WONDERFUL! Don't ever think of friendship. Go for FULL relationship.

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Venus
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posted September 20, 2002 02:51 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Venus     Edit/Delete Message
Hi

Thanks for the welcome Randall.

Auriel, thanks for your prompt reply - and as usual very accurate. How right you are about his not wanting to talk about feelings.
The other thing which I couldn't get used to is that he is not a very demonstrative person and I need lots of hugs. But I accepted that after a while as he said that's just him. (I thought it was me he had a problem being that way with). But he is so caring in lots of other ways and has done lots to help me out in a practical way.

I have come to the conclusion that that is his way of showing affection.

Anyway I am going to give him space - seeing each other a couple of times a week and 'eating together' which we both love.

Raj. Thanks for your input also. I think the relationship started up 'too quick' and we were seeing far too much of each other, because we live so close.

Thanks once again for your time Auriel.

Love Venus.

PS Why do my smileys not convert to smiley icons?

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StarLover33
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posted September 23, 2002 07:52 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for StarLover33     Edit/Delete Message
Hi Venus,

Good luck to you!!

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Auriel Langford
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posted September 23, 2002 10:08 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Auriel Langford     Edit/Delete Message
Raj, do you use Vedic astrology? I'm wondering because you said their charts are WONDERFUL and in Western astrology they have enough squares to draw an entire hopscotch game.

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Auriel Langford
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posted September 23, 2002 10:14 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Auriel Langford     Edit/Delete Message
Sealion, take care of yOu.

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Venus
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posted September 26, 2002 03:58 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Venus     Edit/Delete Message
Hi Auriel.

Love the comment about the squares and the Hopscotch game We have some wonderful discussions - cos we have different views on so many different things. Is that the squares?

He has called me and we have spent more time together this week than we have in a long time. Seem to be 'easier' with each other since it's been 'just friends'.

I am taking care of me Auriel. The problem seems to be I don't know what I want anymore. Sometimes I think I would like a man permanently in my life and then I think - No, I want to keep my independance.

Love Venus

ps why are these smilies not working?

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Venus
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posted September 26, 2002 03:58 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Venus     Edit/Delete Message
Hi Auriel.

Love the comment about the squares and the Hopscotch game We have some wonderful discussions - cos we have different views on so many different things. Is that the squares?

He has called me and we have spent more time together this week than we have in a long time. Seem to be 'easier' with each other since it's been 'just friends'.

I am taking care of me Auriel. The problem seems to be I don't know what I want anymore. Sometimes I think I would like a man permanently in my life and then I think - No, I want to keep my independance.

Love Venus

ps why are these smilies not working?

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Auriel Langford
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posted September 26, 2002 07:43 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Auriel Langford     Edit/Delete Message
It sounds like you're using those squares for the best energy possible! Gotta love it when two people are mature enough to do that. You have some major challenges to overcome if you stay together, but it sounds like the two of you may be able to handle it, if that's what you choose. However, don't stay with him out of loneliness and wanting a relationship. That's settling and you're better than that.

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