posted October 05, 2002 04:39 AM           

I do have a connection with another man but he is very far away.

Is it that I haven't met who I am supposed to be with? Someone that can keep me interested and focused and handle my fun side?

I'm not really looking for answers but just pondering on my own...

*sighs*

posted October 05, 2002 12:39 PM         

I have that too just that in comparison with you I usually lose my interest in 3 weeks, not 3 years...lol

posted October 05, 2002 06:14 PM         

Course, my problem is not losing interest in the subject at hand, unless they demonstrate unhealthy behavior and/or neediness. I am picky to the extreme, (Venus in Virgo) but not to the point where those requested characteristics are UNrealistic. Yes, I agree that most do not pass go or collect the $200.00! (Monopoly humor) lol
Once they do get passed the test, in time, they usually depart, due to some interesting situation. Yet there is ALWAYS a STRONG sexual pull of attraction that lingers on that I can never understand.
With Aquarius rising, I can take it or leave it, depending on the situation, and have always sincerely given my partner's plenty of SPACE, even though the Libra Romantic wants to feel the sensations of love 24/7.

My motto is: "Don't Smother me and I won't Smother you".... Unless it involves the horizontal position.

posted October 05, 2002 09:24 PM         

Uranus in the ninth would give you an intellectual interest in your relationships, probably strengthening the virgo desire to analyse them to bits. It would make you inquisitive and unusual in your tastes, and enable you to take or leave romance. This would be modified or course by the ruler of the house.

**The following is random, I'm going to do another post thats a bit neater and actually answeres Amber's questions if I can manage**

Ambers seventh house is ruled by . . Scorpio. The only planet is Neptune in Sag. She was born 59 minutes after me, but eight years earlier *G*. Probably the reason she feels like she'll be alone forever is .. babababa . . Saturn Conjunct her Venus. Mars is also Cnj Venus and Saturn.

Saturn is notorious for slowing down anything it touches. So, when you fall in love you are definitly into commitment, but you are hesitant about trust. You need the commitment proved first and then you'll trust. That can wear on a partner. Also it can make you very firm about your expectations about romance and may led to your partners regarding you as a parental figure, with all that entails.

Also important is that this opposes your Neptune in Sag. So, you can sort of rain on the parade. Venus will be easily decieved, when your in love have you ever found you've been blind to someones faults? Especially as Pluto trines your Venus there is a danger of this. Your love, and desire to love can be Very powerful. In fact it can border on destructive if you aren't careful. Also, your restrictions commitments limts ect can be Very powerful.

Trines are easy aspects, as well as strengthening they give you the power to overcome so it is easy for you to overcome your limits and restrictions as well. Especially with Pluto which is all about tearing down and rebirthing.

Back to what I was talking about. Venus cnj. Saturn opp Neptune.

Saturn rains on your idealism, but if you work hard you can accomplish anything. And you Love to Work hard, or at leas tenjoy it. The feeling of accomplishment is probably powerful for you. Saturn rules the tenth house which is ruled by aquarius and where we find your moon. Work is emotionally important for you and its natural that yoou love your job. You've probably had lots of pleasant work experiences.

I keep getting tangenital. I can't say that you won't be alone forever but you have a great personality and just from the general sense of your energy that I've gotten from your posts across the boards I'd say you're not likely to be alone.

Venus in the first house make Love a part of your identity. Its a Part of who you are, Saturn just means it might take you a bit logner than most.

Of course this is also Effected by Mars, Mars is how we get what we want, and first house mars is strong (I have it too) so if you want a relationship,I dare say you can get one, and keep it when all the circumstances are right.

posted October 06, 2002 12:09 AM         

VenusPrincess,
In the house of the partner(7th house), Uranus can indicate that one tends to
form close associations with Uranus-type people: intelligent, fast
moving, independent, original, surprising, highly capable with
technology and sometimes eccentric, unpredictable or even erratic.
Uranus in the 7th can also indicate that relationships have Uranus
type of characteristics: beginning suddenly and unexpectedly - but
also possibly ending suddenly.
Due to the characteristics of Uranus, the relationship can also be original or
even unconventional, or go through sudden changes.
A native with this position should be encouraged to exercise caution
before rushing into (another?) relationship or marriage.
Uranus in the 7th can also stand for unconventional relationships -
the kind which works well between the partners but puzzles those
around them.

posted October 06, 2002 02:35 AM         

Thank you for your input. Your assessment is correct. Most of my associates and close friends are of the cerebral/intellectual types. They are also spiritual.
I usually don't go for the eccentric types, as far as outward appearance, but I do notice that some have been mentally eccentric. lol Extreme cases of eccentricity makes me run.
I see it as way too bizarre and unnatural. I'm into clean cut, well dressed types with personality plus. Sensuality is a plus considering my appetite.
Intelligence is number one on my list of requirements. I also love original thinker's as well as creative thinker's. I am one myself, and when I was younger, a lot of kids used to copy my words and actions, and I used to get SO irritated by that. I would tell them, don't do what I do, find your OWN method, and I meant it. I believed in Individuality, and still do.
I am a leader and have always been.
Now, as far as unconventional relationships are concerned.... (In my best Southern accent) "Well! Why, what on earth do ya mean exactly Bissie? Shhhhhh... Maybe I don't want to TALK about the unconventional stuff."
I've often said that I would not mind a situation like what Kurt and Goldie have.
Partnership, not Ownership. Is that what is meant by unconventional? I am trying to think of all the possibilities here. Hmmmm.....
Well, I certainly wouldn't want to be the one bringing home the bacon while dear ol hubby is sitting at home doing dishes!
Okay, okay, I think I know what you mean. The answer is... No Comment!

posted October 06, 2002 05:49 AM         

I will shorten my previous message *G*

::Amber:: You're cool.

posted October 06, 2002 02:08 PM           

*HUGS!*

posted October 06, 2002 03:34 PM         

Pluto cnj Mercury is going to give mercury a scorpio edge, it'll wanna watch and test the waters.
As this happens under virgo which is notorious for always wanting to 'fix up' their partners and friends, (you should see my brother critique every new haircut I get, I always end up wanting to throttle him, its amazing he lasted this long) and Pluto is all over tearig down the old to build the newer better version you really need to watch this guys critical edge.

Especially if he turns to The Dark Side Luke. Cause with the scorpio edge to the mercury he'll be able to pick apart anyone with words, and with Virgo he will know just what is wrong. The upside is it also gives him the ability to say the exact right thing to make you feel better and get you a better haircut all at once. He may even come off as almost psychic. He will pick up undertones subconcious edges to conversations without even thinking about it, he will know stuff people aren't expecting him to know simply by listening to them talk about seemingly unrelated stuff. And he'll have very little trouble figuring out the emotions involved in a conversation.

Watch to make sure you don't miss stuff he is saying though. People think scorpios are cryptic for a reason, and with pluto cnj mercury you can bet sometimes he isn't going to be exactly straightforward. Especially if something bothers him or makes him uncomfortable.

posted October 06, 2002 04:18 PM         

Hmmm well you know I've always pictured myself marrying a a romantic painter, moving to Paris, and both of us making money by him painting me and selling the portrits, and oh, wait wait! I forgot and having a daughter called "Vega" LOL. So is that what you would call a "unusual"
fantasy?

posted October 06, 2002 06:11 PM         

Foxxy, come back asap..I need the end of your reading, it sounds fascinating and you nailed him right. Striving for perfection- yes..and everthing else.
Just when you continue with your reading be sure to notice that his Rising is 10'AQUARIUS, so is his DC 10' LEO
probably you didn`t count 1 hour time difference when you set up the chart- it should be 5:15 PM or 4:15 GMT

posted October 07, 2002 01:28 AM           

As far as work.. yes I love to work. I love my job I have the best job in the world (besides being a pop star!)

Love is very strong to me. That's why I wonder if I am too picky at times. On the one hand I am very laid back when it comes to relationships, but on the other hand... I wonder if I have unrealistic expectations of what my mate should be. Also, I enjoy chasing but then once i catch them I quickly lose interest. The trick is to find one that can keep my attention after I get him!!

I am actually going through a separation now. My husband is a Cancer... *BIG MISTAKE!! AHHHH!* He keeps trying to put me into this cookie cutter mold of a wife I could never fit into and wouldn't WANT to fit into. He keeps telling me I am too old to do this and too old to do that and I can't accept those kinds of limitations. So, I'm alone and wondering where the heck is a man that can just like me for who I am?! hehe!

Thank you, Foxxy! I appreciate it a lot

posted October 07, 2002 06:50 AM         

Yep, I know EXACTLY what your talking about!
It seems we like the same traits in a partner. You said who wouldn't want those traits, but believe it or not, there are many women who choose guys who are not equal to themselves. My biggest pet peeve is seeing a beautiful woman who took the time out to look fabulous for a date or outing, and the guy she is with is dressed down wearing baggy pants that doesn't seem to fit properly with his shirt hanging out and wearing dirty sneakers. Argh!
If a guy showed up on a date with me looking that way, I'd leave him standing there!
One thing about my ex (Taurus) was that he always looked GREAT no matter what.
Even his underwear were sexy! Classic styles put together in good taste always gets my attention whether it be blue jeans or Armani suits, and you better believe that I myself can fill that request.
When is my birthday you asked? COMING UP! It's October 18th!

posted October 07, 2002 02:14 PM         

but not for me - I am Miss Detective so i already know your date of birth(even your birth time at some point), just by looking at your planets

posted October 07, 2002 02:52 PM         

Well, Well...
Looks like the two Detectives have finally met in a FACE OFF and is now sharing coffee!
I'd say, like me, you are also quite the Detective!
With Mercury in Scorpio, not much gets pass me. When people talk to me, I know intuitively what is going on. I have ALWAYS caught my boyfriends cheating. lol Some were actually afraid of me. Imagine being afraid of Venus Warrior Princess! That is Insane!
Anyway, yes, I AM Private when it comes to certain things. Issues that are open and honest, gets my utmost sincerity of thoughts/opinions.

Okay, Ms. Smart pants, what time WAS I born?
Alright, I'll make it easy for you. 1:48pm.
So, go on... Feel free to tell me all about myself! :P
However, if you should find something VERY private, just email it to me. (heehee)

posted October 07, 2002 03:05 PM         

so you have Scorpio Mercury, I have Mercury in Virgo at 0 degree connjunciton to Pluto- that gives me extraordinary detective skills, nothing passes by unnoticed haha but I rarely comment of what I see, usually keep complete silence until the moment I can use it

aw, you have Sun/Mars close conjunction
(looking at your natal chart now )- that gives you a lot of confidence and a lot of energy, a fearless attitude, problems with authority figures..I have that conjunction too but in a wider degree.

you also have Moon/Uranus square - as another astrloger(Bob Marks) noticed once - people with this aspect have a fear of abandonment and tend to be hysterics.
The Moon shows, in any horoscope, relationships with women in general, particularly the mother. The stressful aspects (the conjunction, square, and opposition) frequently mean that the mother’s schedule was erratic during the first few years of the person’s life, usually because the mother herself was erratic. As a result, the child, to survive, cuts off, says "I don’t need her". Everything is fine until they grow up and start dating. When they really like someone, up comes the feeling: "I need you", and that’s when they run. If they can’t run, they do or say something to make the other person run. There is also a tendency to be attracted to someone who is unavailable (married or out of town). In fact, the more unavailable the love interest, the greater the attraction.

I have that aspect too but it is trine, so I am only half way there ..lol

You also have close Moon/Mercury oposition - it may increase the desire to take short cuts in all things. Mercury rules the "conscious mind" and the Moon the "subconscious". Stressful aspects, particularly the opposition intensify the normal tension between these two. Your "gut instincts" are constantly telling you to do something other than the conclusions you reach by logic. Additionally, there is a danger that you will either not say what you feel or that you will ONLY say what you feel, not thinking things through before you speak..it gives you strong, instinctive communications ability

posted October 07, 2002 03:20 PM         

TR Neptune is in you 1 st house - be careful, as romantic as that will make you- as easy to be fooled you may be right now.
TR Uranus is in your 1st house as well, so you look quite different then 2 years ago- new hair style, maybe, new hair color, tatto?? naah, don`t believe that.LOl
Chiron is transitng thru your 11th house- you may have met an old friend you havn`t seen for 10 years, you may have a reconsiliation with a friend you were mad at before..an old wound is healing now

gotta go now, Princess

posted October 08, 2002 04:13 AM         

Interesting interpretation of my chart.
The Moon/Uranus thing was accurate to a point, but not 100%. My mother was not erratic in any way. She was, however absent for a short time while I was just a few years old, due to divorcing my Dad and working full time in order to provide a decent home environment for us girls. She eventually remarried.
I've always loved and admired my Mom immensely. We had a very special bond that I will always appreciate and savor. She was a mild mannered Scorpio who would sit in the dark and contemplate on many of nights, which intensified as she became ill. She was extremely talented and resembled an Angel. Always soft, sweet, honorable and low key, yet very sexy. She was climbing the Corporate ladder when her life was cut short. When I was 10 years old, I lost my Mom to cancer. She had just celebrated her 38th birthday, a month to the day before her passing.
I did indeed had feelings of abandonment, but I knew her departure was not intentional, so I wasn't angry with her. I was angry with the situation of unfairness.
It was then I realized that life is uncertain and I've never taken anything for granted since. Even in my dealings with lover's and friends, when there is an argument or disagreement, I tend to want to resolve hurt feelings, because ultimately, I feel that we could rise above all that. Bottom line is that you love and care about someone and that you can choose the healthy route by agreeing to disagree if necessary.
I don't have the tendency to get into hysterics. My ego will not allow that. lol
I don't even smother my lover's. I shower them with love and kindness and generosity, and allow plenty of Space, but I don't feel hysterics coming on, if or when they decide to leave. Perhaps I am evolved enough to understand that you cannot OWN another, or stop them from moving on if they should happen to want out of the relationship. My attitude is... You win some, you lose some. No doubt, I am sad when it happens. I feel it very deeply in my heart and soul, because I am an extremely passionate person, and will talk things out in a mature fashion for greater understanding, but I will not hold someone back for wanting to move in what feels like their own Truth. Besides, I try and date only CONSCIOUS people who are genuine in their thoughts and actions. Big difference.