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Rafsan
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posted February 05, 2003 10:16 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Rafsan     Edit/Delete Message
Hi...
I am in this relationaship with this girl who I really love. I just cannot do without thinking about her. We have arguments often ... but then we also make up... I would appreciate some help in this matter... Do I really have a future with her?
My details:
DOB: Jan 18th 1977
Time: 11.45 pm
Location: Pune, India

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theFajita
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From: Boca Raton, FL USA
Registered: Sep 2002

posted February 06, 2003 02:43 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for theFajita     Edit/Delete Message
Hi Rafsan welcome!

What is the girl's sign?

Just curious

Best of luck to you!!

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Randall
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posted February 06, 2003 02:44 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Randall     Edit/Delete Message
Welcome!

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"Never mentally imagine for another that which you would not want to experience for yourself, since the mental image you send out inevitably comes back to you." Rebecca Clark

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Auriel Langford
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posted February 07, 2003 11:36 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Auriel Langford     Edit/Delete Message
Hi Rafsan,

I was going to check and see what the transits show for you in love, but for some reason my computer is acting like Mercury is Rx. I've been on the phone with my ex, my son, and one of my son's friends, since they're all computer experts, and no one can figure out what the problem is. My program won't work at all. Until I get it fixed, I'm going to be unable to help anyone. Sorry, I hope someone else can help.

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To fall in Love, is to rise. . . .
~Upendra

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Auriel Langford
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posted February 08, 2003 01:30 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Auriel Langford     Edit/Delete Message
Hi Rafsan,

I don't know about the particular girl you are talking about, but the transits are on your side for relationships right now. They are pushing you to learn and grow from them, and can help you with commitment.

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To fall in Love, is to rise. . . .
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Rafsan
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posted October 12, 2003 12:55 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Rafsan     Edit/Delete Message
Auriel, you were so right. I did learn that as much as you love a being - if the other person doesn't feel the same its a waste.

This girl cheated on me all the time - I had a feeling about this but wasn't really able to point it out to her. I did find an email which proved this. She apologised and et al.. .but now I am seperated from her.
How do I get her off my mind?

Fajita - This girl's sign was Libra Oct 14th 1977. Any suggestions?

To all the folks who asked me to be patient during hard times - Thank you for all the support.
I am now working hard at my job and am doing pretty well. Thanks to the good wishes of the folks here

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Randall
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posted October 13, 2003 02:27 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Randall     Edit/Delete Message

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theFajita3
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From: Sunny South Florida, USA
Registered: Feb 2003

posted October 15, 2003 11:33 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for theFajita3     Edit/Delete Message
WOW! That's neat! The person I am seeking/desiring/wanting/head overheels/in love with is 10/3/66! Pretty neat!

How are the two of you?

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Rafsan
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posted October 18, 2003 03:28 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Rafsan     Edit/Delete Message
We have seperated 3 months back. She was cheating on me. Still hurts. The answer I got from this one why - "If I really wished it to work, I could have .. .I never could get myself to want you... " I dont want to get back with her though.

I'm still waiting on Auriel's reply/ advice if any..

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theFajita3
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posted October 18, 2003 07:50 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for theFajita3     Edit/Delete Message
I am so sorry for you. Listen, you deserve someone to treat you better. I have been on both sides of that coin. It hurts to be cheated on I know. One thing I find helpful when I am just departed from someone is to find joy in life as a single person. I tell you, just when you are starting to have a good time with friends and life, someone new will butt in when you least expect it!

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sthenri
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From: New England US
Registered: May 2003

posted October 19, 2003 06:49 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for sthenri     Edit/Delete Message
Rafsan, it's really tough because Libras are very sensitive to approval/admiration from the opposite sex. Being a Capricorn you may not be able to give that. In some relationships we are never going to get what we need, or want because it's not there for us to touch. It's fine if she ever comes back to you and gives you what you want, but will you ever receive? Some love and approval and respect, will never be there for us to touch.

It sounds like you are the giver and she is the taker in the relationship. Those are the facts, I am not being judgemental. You have to decide if that's what you want or not and then you will make your mind up. Until then your mindset will not change and you will stay in love with her.

Creative visualization helps, because you need to heal yourself.
Imagine a garden full of flowers and there is a bare spot. Do you want more flowers or weeds? What is a flower or weed to you? What do you need to care for your garden? Water, minerals for the soil, sunshine? What kind of plant would you like to see there?

Take Care,
Natasha
Taurus Sun/6th house-Trine Jupiter, Midheaven, and Pluto in Virgo/10th house.
Cancer Moon/8th house trine Neptune in 12th and North Node in the 4th
Aries Venus/4th house trine Mars and Ascendant
Sag conjunct Mars Ascendant
Mars aspects Virgo Midheaven
Midheaven aspected by Uranus, Pluto, Jupiter
Unaspected Saturn in Taurus/5th house
Gemini Mercury/7th house trine Uranus in Libra/10th house
Gemini Vesta/7th house
Capricorn Pallas and Juno/2nd house
Aquarius Ceres/2nd house
Cancer Vertex/8th house
Libra part of fortune/11th house


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sthenri
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posted October 19, 2003 06:55 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for sthenri     Edit/Delete Message
I don't know exactly what they call cheating these days to be honest, I mean these days when people say cheating it could have been a casual flirt, or an email or a lie. To me cheating means making a commitment to someone else in some way, if she is telling you she has then she has a relationship with someone else. Is that the case? Because there is a big difference between a relationship with someone else and a flirtation.

People are too often accused of things when there is no communication.
In case there is another man, then you are trying to allow a relationship to blossom and cope with it, because it does not involve you. If you love her, she will be happier trying something new. You could always get her back eventually but she will not be happy because she is trying a new relationship. Space and distance from her would help you heal, regardless of the issues involved. That way she could define herself as a person separate from her relationships, letting go of her mentally will free her and free you too.

I hope you are feeling better soon, because getting over a relationship is almost a kind of physical pain. If you get out and do some sort of physical activity you will feel better soon. Don't get down or get moody-broody, it's not good for Capricorns to brood too much.

Take Care
Natasha

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Rafsan
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posted November 01, 2003 12:26 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Rafsan     Edit/Delete Message
Thanks Natasha & Fajita .. your words are kind and I'm much happier now.

As far as how she cheated - while supposedly being committed to me, she wrote a long e-mail to an old crush of hers saying she needed TLC and wanted to marry him.. (and btw - we always had arguments - this email was sent during one of these arguments that lasted 3 days!) Anyhow..

All is forgiven.. but never forgotten...
I'm really happy though - I have all other aspects of my life sorted out. got a great job... health.. touchwood..
Good luck to you all..

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theFajita3
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From: Sunny South Florida, USA
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posted November 02, 2003 12:34 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for theFajita3     Edit/Delete Message
I am glad to hear your happiness doesn't rely on someone else. That is good strength right there. Please keep excelling in other areas of your life. We often try so hard to change what we can't and not to change what we can

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