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Topic: All my friends are getting married...
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jjjax
Knowflake Posts: 285
From: Sydney, Australia
Registered: Jan 2003
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posted March 25, 2003 02:59 AM
 
All my friends are getting married! And I feel really lost. Its not that I’m jealous and its not that I want to get married right now... I’m way to young and I don’t have a boyfriend at the moment... but I’m just feeling like I’m so different from my friends. They’re all at this different stage, and I’m not there, and I’m not sure I will ever be. I am always being set up and I can’t stand it. They don’t seem to understand that I don’t need a guy to make me whole. Not that I don’t want to meet someone wonderful... I do, I get so lonesome... I don’t know I just feel like I am all on my own and so different! Has anyone else gone trough anything like this?Jax  IP: Logged |
Oxychick
Moderator Posts: 2486
From: neither here nor there
Registered: Jul 2002
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posted March 25, 2003 06:42 AM
Yep, me too...And I could really care less about it.  Ok, so that's not ENTIRELY truthful...who doesn't get lonely? But I'd rather be happy than be in a relationship JUST to be in one. If that means being single over settling for less, then so be it. And anyway...are all of their relationships really *that* happy? I have leanred that just because people are in relationships or are getting married, it doesn't mean everything is wonderful or even...tolerable. Sometimes the people in the relationships are worse off than we think! My friends keep trying to set me up to...with people I would never even consider...so one day a couple of months ago, my friend and her husband so generously introduced me to his friend and sort of put me in an awkward position to keep talking to him and he was just so...full of himself that I just kept giving him all the "wrong answers" just to make him go away. And I'd bet you anything some of your married friends are jealous of yo! I've learned from experience that married friends don;t always have the best intentions when they try to set you up...it's because they want you to be in the same situation as them. A girl who used to be my closest friend only gets excited to hang out with me if I'm gdating someone. And since that hasn't happened in a while, we barely see each other (and we only live a few blocks apart). Don't let it get you down, jjjax! Everyone's life is different.  IP: Logged |
RubyRedRam
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posted March 25, 2003 07:26 AM
Listen to Oxy, she told it like it is!!My married friends say to me oh my god you and Luc have been together 5 years and STILL aren't married. Then they go on and on about how they would never wait for a guy for that long..yada yada yada. I am strong, independant and I make my own decisions. Quite frankly we havent felt the 'time' is right yet and going with our gut on this one has served us well so far. Its a shame that you have to even answer to the people that are supposed to be good friends, it shoulnd't be an issue to them. So yeah, I relate to what you say about being at a differnt stage as your friends. It might be an idea to let them know you are not interested in being set up, you will meet a guy maybe 10 and then YOU can decide where it goes from there. Although if I remember Camden correctly, you might wanna head to the city for a few more options  (just kidding ) IP: Logged |
jjjax
Knowflake Posts: 285
From: Sydney, Australia
Registered: Jan 2003
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posted March 25, 2003 06:29 PM
Oxy, yeah the set ups are the most uncomfortable situations! and i feel so weird that the poor guy thinks im a bit stand offish... which i am most deffinately not under normal circumstances. And yeah! my girl friends always set me up with guys that sooooo are not my type at all... I dont think they are jelous of me... but they look at me like there is something wrong with me... they say stuff like if i cant catch myself a man surely you can Jacqui... but yeah i dont want to settle, id rather be alone than be miserable in a relationship... but they dont seem to get that, they think something is better than nothing.RRR, yeah they know i hate being set up, the only thing that has acomplised is to make them be a little more subtle... as if i cant see right through it! Maybe they think they are helping me... but they are really just making me feel like there is something wrong with me because im single. Yeah im at a differnt stage... they all went straigt to the work force, i went on to further study, they seemed to all grow up so much faster than i did... i think they have just gotten to that stage quicker... but there are more important things in my life right now... im just graduating and so im looking for a job, once i get that and get my life a little more in order i might consider bringing someone else into it... but right now im fine on my own. It makes it difficult to be single when you have no single friends though  Oh and you remember Camden right! Theres not a lot here... Thanx guys for your replies Jax IP: Logged |
Aphrodite
Moderator Posts: 3280
From: San Francisco, CA, United States
Registered: Feb 2002
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posted March 25, 2003 06:35 PM
Girlfriend! Let me tell ya what worked for me one day! I put on a pair of sexy black Anne Klein knee high boots with 3 inch heels and wore a dress that grazed the knees. The dress emphasized my top and I did not feel lonesome at all at the club The men came running to set themselves up with me. It made me forget about the whole marriage and boyfriend stuff, even for a few hours.IP: Logged |
N_wEvil
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posted March 25, 2003 06:37 PM
I dont think that'd work for me, Aphrodite  Although i could probably try it one day just for the shock effect, heehee IP: Logged |
Oxychick
Moderator Posts: 2486
From: neither here nor there
Registered: Jul 2002
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posted March 25, 2003 09:26 PM
Aphrodite-I did the same thing for my birthday and I wasn't alone for a minute! woo hooIP: Logged |
RubyRedRam
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posted March 25, 2003 09:36 PM
Wouldn't it be great if all us Lindaland girls could dress up like that and go out for the night!! I wish we lived closer. J, maybe next time i'm in Syd we'll have to do just that! I know this great guy that was in the army with Luc.... IP: Logged |
Oxychick
Moderator Posts: 2486
From: neither here nor there
Registered: Jul 2002
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posted March 26, 2003 07:04 AM
That would be fun, RRR! *sighs* IP: Logged |
Oxychick
Moderator Posts: 2486
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Registered: Jul 2002
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posted March 26, 2003 07:06 AM
And NewEvil-I'm sure that if you flaunt your legs a bit...you'll catch some attention.  IP: Logged |
RubyRedRam
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posted March 26, 2003 07:25 AM
I like a man who wears trousers or shorts that define his bum nicely  IP: Logged |
brunnhilde
Knowflake Posts: 121
From: quebec,canada
Registered: Dec 2002
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posted March 26, 2003 02:26 PM
Okay I know this sounds funny but I always check out the guys shoes! If I don't like the shoes I'm a fish so feet are my thing)...it's like the personal thing to see if I 'like' him.I know sounds weird ..I also look at hte hands ...this is when I'm interested in someone.... but if we're going purely physical I've developped an appreciation fro calves....and thighs...for some reason that sounds indecent. Darn why not throw in shoulders and strong back....but all of that takes a back seat to a great laugh and a twinkle in the eyes!!LOLIP: Logged |
Cat
Moderator Posts: 3307
From: England
Registered: Jan 2002
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posted March 26, 2003 02:37 PM
Hi Brunnhilde
Have you got any Capricorn in your chart? Capricorns always check out shoes N_w
Now that I would like to see......now I know you're from Mars ....hmmm but maybe that should be Uranus Sue IP: Logged |
Cat
Moderator Posts: 3307
From: England
Registered: Jan 2002
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posted March 26, 2003 02:43 PM
Hi jjjax
Don't worry about it. When you're ready you'll meet someone.I ended a 12 year relationship 3 and a half years ago. Initially all my friends said "we are sooo going to vet the next guy you go out with". After 18 months ....they were "throwing" men at me but I'm still not interested. But one important thing is that you (and I) have very good friends who care about us. They want us to be happy because they are and also because they love us. So we're lucky to have such good friends 
Sue IP: Logged |
brunnhilde
Knowflake Posts: 121
From: quebec,canada
Registered: Dec 2002
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posted March 26, 2003 03:02 PM
Saturn in Cappy in the 2nd.... but I was sure Pisces was foot obsessed but hten maybe that's obsessed in general? jjax---doesn't matter what they say or who trows what...if there is no'click' no matter how much you try to force it,,,it doesn,t work! Your Time will come just enjoy now....and get some of htose knee high boots just for hte fun of it...mine were in brown suede very musqueteer of me. IP: Logged |
RubyRedRam
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posted March 26, 2003 03:27 PM
Yes Sue, you are so right. They prob are doing it out of love and just want J to be happy IP: Logged |
Nikky
Knowflake Posts: 87
From: mo,usa
Registered: Sep 2002
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posted March 26, 2003 04:52 PM
When you have so many friend's on the linda-land how can you say you feel lonesome Guys!!! they are fun but tell you what
it is always better to be with the person that you want so badly in your life for a couple of moments than to spend a miserable married life for 30-40 years.
Wait till you find him, for you will be happy everafter.
Married friends I had a bunch of them always curious "so when are you getting??"
"don't you relaise that the biological clock will start ticking??"
GOD !!Man!!! I used to get frustrated and finally just to make everyone happy I got married to the wrong guy Well! am I happy HELL NO !!! may true love find you
nikky
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jjjax
Knowflake Posts: 285
From: Sydney, Australia
Registered: Jan 2003
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posted March 26, 2003 07:00 PM
Hey everyone, thanx for the responses... i had quite a giggle Cat, yeah i know they are only doing what they do out of love. well i have a hens night im going to this saturday night. but its in Camden RRR, can you sympathise!? but yeah it should be fun... we have to do all this stuff like getting guys phone numbers.... ah! im petrified... but it should be interesting. I sometimes get interest when i go out, but its always well... from weirdos... i know that sounds crewl, but they are guys who own spy cameras, crazy physco boxers, and stalkers whom are amongst my sagas. I lack very badly at telling a lot about a person from first impressions... dont know why... i think maybe i get over whelmed by the fact they are interested. I have never been able to find a pair of high boots that fit my legs (there to thin)... plus its only just outta summer here... but i have a real nice pair of dainty heals... show a bit of leg with them i should get a reaction thanx again everyone.
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Mazz
Knowflake Posts: 284
From: angel land
Registered: Jan 2003
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posted March 27, 2003 07:33 AM
All my friends are having babies
That's even worse  IP: Logged |
jjjax
Knowflake Posts: 285
From: Sydney, Australia
Registered: Jan 2003
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posted March 27, 2003 09:13 PM
Yeah Mazz i know hey... mine are doing a lot of that too! IP: Logged |
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